Grandparent names picked without my consent

[Anonymous]

I’m trying to figure out in which world two adults would consent from you for something that is completely between them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so annoyed and just need to vent. My sister just had a baby. I'm due in just a few months. There are already two grandchildren who are older so my parents "grandparent" names were already chosen, or so I thought. (Think traditional, like Grandma and Grandpa).

I just saw photos posted online and my mom is now going by a different funky "Grandma" name, which I was never asked about and frankly I refuse to have my kids call her (think "Glitter").

I'm so annoyed that nobody ran this by me since our kids will be 4 months apart. At this point I'll just pick our own name to call her since it seems like every family gets to pick what they call my parents. I don't know why nobody thought to ask me or at least tell me before they started posting her new "name" online.

If this is what gets to you, found your lucky stars for a blessed life.

[Anonymous]

My in-laws were super into picking their grandparent names before the first grandkid was born. MIL picked a sweet "normal" name that rhymes with her actual name (like Fanny and Granny), but my FIL picked the cheesiest name possible. It's like he googled "cool alternatives to grandpa" and picked the one he thought would make him sound hippest. Spoiler, it really doesn't and all of my husband's siblings were hoping my strong willed DC would re-name him, but alas it seems to have stuck 6 years later. But TBH, it still sounds cheesy, but really is no big deal. I wouldn't worry about it and just let the excited grandparents have fun.

And my DC picked the grandparent names for my parents and ended up giving my father a name that was unexpected, but is really special now that my father passed away. It's a reminder of the relationship they had, and hopefully any future grandkids on that side will keep it going (my sister would love that, not that we'd force it).

[Anonymous]

I wish I had your problems, OP! My mother wouldn't pick a grandparent name, except to say she didn't like any of the defaults. I'm using what my niece calls her for lack of other options, but I think the grandparents should pick. It's their name, after all!

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Anonymous wrote:My Korean-American babysitter thinks it's hilarious how much drama there is in (white) US culture over grandparent names. My DH is super low-drama but freaked out that my dad wanted to be called Papa. It is a common grandpa name (and never a dad name) where I'm from in the US, but DH is from a different part of the country and has spent a lot of time in Europe where Papa means Daddy. So as a compromise -- an admittedly passive-aggressive one -- I've started teaching DD German, which I speak, and calling her Dad "Papa" and Grandpa "Opa."

That's interesting. I know some families where everybody including the grandkids call Grandma and Grandpa "Mom and Dad". Their differentiate with their own parents by saying "Mommy and Daddy".

Yep, my great-grandparents were “Mom and Dad Smith,” and my dad & siblings call their own parents “Mama and Daddy.”

This is super-interesting, where are they from?

I’m the bolded PP. Appalachia—Smokey Mountains, with ancestry from Scotland, Ireland, England.

[Anonymous]

My sibling and cousins all called my great-grandmother Wrinkly Granny. It was a term of great love, respect, and awe. She was gorgeous and ancient and covered in wrinkles. It wasn't until I was much older that it dawned on me that some people might not appreciate such a name. I think she did, though.

[Anonymous]

A good friend of mine who is a high powered CEO is referred to as "Aunt Meathead" thanks to the 5 brothers she grew up with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think mom or grandma picks. Kids pick.

This. MIL gave a lot of thought into what she wanted to be called. But her oldest grandchild started calling her Goo Goo. And ten years later she is now Goo Goo to everyone in the family.

[Anonymous]

My very sweet, very traditional father had a name all picked out and the grandkids all call him by his first name because that's what they would hear other people call him and it just stuck. When he comes to preschool or school to volunteer, everyone comments on how great it is that he's so involved with his wife's grandchildren, thinking that he is a later married step parent/grandparent.

[Anonymous]

My great grandmother’s last name started with a “G.” My dad dubbed her “Triple G,” and it stuck. I grew up thinking it was one word and her actual name, like it was a foreign sounding name from “the old country.” When I was about 9, my brother noticed how I ran “Triple” and “G” together when I said her name and he said, “You know it’s ‘Triple…G,’ as in Great Grandma G____, right?” 😊

Don’t sweat the small stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine who is a high powered CEO is referred to as "Aunt Meathead" thanks to the 5 brothers she grew up with.

😂

[Anonymous]

I really just hope it’s your pregnancy hormones making you this loopy.

[Anonymous]

You kids are going to call Grandma and Grandpa what they want. I suggest you find some actual problems to worry about.

[Anonymous]

My kids call my mom two different names. It’s fine.

[Anonymous]

You need to chill. Your baby will call grandma whatever it wants. My mil really wanted to be called a certain name, and she’s refer to herself by that name to my child. One day, my child said “Grammy” and that became her name.