Grandparent names picked without my consent

[Anonymous]

My aunt was “Grammy” to all her grandkids except one who created her own pet name with a mispronunciation. It’s actually so cute that all of this little one’ siblings started using it. Later grandchildren went back to using Grammy. It’s not confusing. One person is called by multiple names all the time and kids don’t get confused. My brother is Uncle Joe to my kids and Daddy to his own. But it’s not like my kids have an issue (or are confused) that they call him something different than his own kids. You mom can be Nana to your kids and Glitter to your sister’s. No biggie.

[Anonymous]

Jeez Louise, I have older teens now and OP, let me just say, this is really not the hill you want to die on, or even spend one millisecond of energy on...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I’ll raise you one. We were the first on my husband’s side to have kids and I’m an only child so we asked each side of grandparents what they wanted to be called. My mom had two options she was equally happy with and said she would wait for DH’s mom to decide so they could have different titles. DH’s mom deliberated for a while but eventually decided on one. My mom subsequently chose a different option and we thought we were set. Flash forward more than 5 years and DH’s sister (who is closer to her mom than DH by virtue of geography and personality) has a child who instead starts calling DH’s mom by a different name, (specifically the one my mom subsequently chose after DH’s mom made her original decision). Of course we’d be fine with niece calling DH’s mom whatever they please, but MIL now insists that our children also start calling her by the new name « to avoid confusion » despite the fact our children have known MIL by a different name for years and furthermore specifically identify the one she is now requesting with their other grandma (who is also frustrated since feels she was more than reasonable in initially giving MIL first choice of titles). DH has already always been somewhat the odd man out in his family and is unwilling to further rock the boat by pushing back on the name switch.

I am Indian. My maternal grandparents were called the same thing as paternal grandparents.When we were talking about them, if there was any confusion, we would add their first name. It's really not hard, folks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I’ll raise you one. We were the first on my husband’s side to have kids and I’m an only child so we asked each side of grandparents what they wanted to be called. My mom had two options she was equally happy with and said she would wait for DH’s mom to decide so they could have different titles. DH’s mom deliberated for a while but eventually decided on one. My mom subsequently chose a different option and we thought we were set. Flash forward more than 5 years and DH’s sister (who is closer to her mom than DH by virtue of geography and personality) has a child who instead starts calling DH’s mom by a different name, (specifically the one my mom subsequently chose after DH’s mom made her original decision). Of course we’d be fine with niece calling DH’s mom whatever they please, but MIL now insists that our children also start calling her by the new name « to avoid confusion » despite the fact our children have known MIL by a different name for years and furthermore specifically identify the one she is now requesting with their other grandma (who is also frustrated since feels she was more than reasonable in initially giving MIL first choice of titles). DH has already always been somewhat the odd man out in his family and is unwilling to further rock the boat by pushing back on the name switch.

I am Indian. My maternal grandparents were called the same thing as paternal grandparents.When we were talking about them, if there was any confusion, we would add their first name. It's really not hard, folks.

Did they also demand your five year old change from the name they had been calling their grandparent from birth to accommodate/be consistent with the name used by the preferred new grand baby? That’s where the confusion comes in for the older child. And also, yes maternal and paternal grandma are often called the same thing in the US as well, but in this case maternal grandma specifically made clear that she was happy to let paternal grandma have first choice on the “grandma name” of her choosing but just wanted to pick something different, only to have paternal grandma years later decide to switch to the specific name that maternal grandmother had subsequently opted to go by.

[Anonymous]

I tried to get my kids to call me mama but they never took to it. It was mom from the time the oldest turned 5.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I kind of get it. In our family it was pawpaw, meemaw and I just really didn’t love it at all.

You must be from the South. Country south. Yes? It's the only place i've ever heard that. I went to University there and then moved to New England, never heard it there. I'm not American, FWIW.

[Anonymous]

Op you are the problem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has to be trolling.

And Glitter sounds like an awesome name to call a grandparent!

I like it. I had a friend whose grandmother was from Italy and Noni was grandma in Italian. One of the kids decided to call her Gran Noni, which turned into Grandnoli and ultimaely, Granola. Everyone was happy.

[Anonymous]

The custom grandparent names are weird to me. I've also seen grandparents giving themselves a damn baby shower.

This is just another weird boomer thing they're doing to make everything about them. Just keep calling her grandma and don't waste energy on it.