YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer "rehomes" adopted son

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not convinced the Stauffers deliberately adopted a special needs kid to make money off of him because I think they've done a good job of convincing themselves that their lifestyle blogging is a valid choice for their family.

But I don't for a minute think that the effect on their lifestyle blog was never considered.

Hopefully the child is better off, but the whole thing is very disturbing. The Reuters story linked from page one makes it clear that the "re-homing"/abandonment process is informal, whereas the adoption process is very formal.

You obviously haven't read her posts on Internet adoption sites looking for another kid to adopt with special needs while in the middle of all this!

Seriously?

Yes, but looking for a child with special needs that was easy to manage, but that most people wouldn’t think was easy. For real.

https://mobile.twitter.com/hannyyy08/status/1266126433803436035/photo/1

That is incredibly disturbing.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not convinced the Stauffers deliberately adopted a special needs kid to make money off of him because I think they've done a good job of convincing themselves that their lifestyle blogging is a valid choice for their family.

But I don't for a minute think that the effect on their lifestyle blog was never considered.

Hopefully the child is better off, but the whole thing is very disturbing. The Reuters story linked from page one makes it clear that the "re-homing"/abandonment process is informal, whereas the adoption process is very formal.

You obviously haven't read her posts on Internet adoption sites looking for another kid to adopt with special needs while in the middle of all this!

Seriously?

Yes, but looking for a child with special needs that was easy to manage, but that most people wouldn’t think was easy. For real.

https://mobile.twitter.com/hannyyy08/status/1266126433803436035/photo/1

Can you not read dates? Myka made those posts almost TWO years ago...

Right, and Huxley was adopted in 2017. They knew his problems were severe even before adopting him (a Dr. warned them) and we know things didn’t just get difficult recently. Yet they were still looking to adopt a special needs child again (just with “easy to manage” needs).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who is this person? Why are we supposed to believe what she says about Myka is true? This lady needs to get a life and a real job imo.

Myka needs to get a real job and stop exploiting her children.

Do you say this about the 58373838 other family vloggers out there?

Yes, all those that film and exploit their kids - they all need to be shut down and evaluated as they all seem to home school, have large families, and film everything without kids permission! Too many to mention, but it's exploitation and the kids have to perfom like monkeys!

LOL but it’ll never happen. And no, they don’t all homeschool and have a million kids. The ones I watch have 2-3 max and the kids go to school. Mid to upper 20s and they make over a million a year easily. As long as people keep watching, they’ll be around.

YouTube is enabling these people in exploiting their children. Don't say it'll never happen. It's just a matter of time they're held accountable.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is this person? Why are we supposed to believe what she says about Myka is true? This lady needs to get a life and a real job imo.

Myka needs to get a real job and stop exploiting her children.

Do you say this about the 58373838 other family vloggers out there?

Yes, all those that film and exploit their kids - they all need to be shut down and evaluated as they all seem to home school, have large families, and film everything without kids permission! Too many to mention, but it's exploitation and the kids have to perfom like monkeys!

LOL but it’ll never happen. And no, they don’t all homeschool and have a million kids. The ones I watch have 2-3 max and the kids go to school. Mid to upper 20s and they make over a million a year easily. As long as people keep watching, they’ll be around.

YouTube is enabling these people in exploiting their children. Don't say it'll never happen. It's just a matter of time they're held accountable.

Nahhhh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the reasoning. Lots of people have bio children with special needs. In many cases, the parents really struggle and their lives are basically ruined. You're still not allowed to give them away!

Why are you allowed to do this with adopted children? They're piling trauma on top of trauma on that little boy.

How many homes has he been in? In a prior video, they mention that he was in a foster home in China so that's two (give up by his birth parents, Chinese foster parent, then their house, then a few other houses, and now his "forever" family? Until they get sick of him??)

Yes, you can put your bio kid up for adoption. It’s just no one ever does.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the reasoning. Lots of people have bio children with special needs. In many cases, the parents really struggle and their lives are basically ruined. You're still not allowed to give them away!

Why are you allowed to do this with adopted children? They're piling trauma on top of trauma on that little boy.

How many homes has he been in? In a prior video, they mention that he was in a foster home in China so that's two (give up by his birth parents, Chinese foster parent, then their house, then a few other houses, and now his "forever" family? Until they get sick of him??)

Yes, you can put your bio kid up for adoption. It’s just no one ever does.

Yes they do...Its just these things aren't talked about nor the bad things that happen adoption. It is our society's little secret.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not convinced the Stauffers deliberately adopted a special needs kid to make money off of him because I think they've done a good job of convincing themselves that their lifestyle blogging is a valid choice for their family.

But I don't for a minute think that the effect on their lifestyle blog was never considered.

Hopefully the child is better off, but the whole thing is very disturbing. The Reuters story linked from page one makes it clear that the "re-homing"/abandonment process is informal, whereas the adoption process is very formal.

You obviously haven't read her posts on Internet adoption sites looking for another kid to adopt with special needs while in the middle of all this!

Seriously?

Yes, but looking for a child with special needs that was easy to manage, but that most people wouldn’t think was easy. For real.

https://mobile.twitter.com/hannyyy08/status/1266126433803436035/photo/1

Can you not read dates? Myka made those posts almost TWO years ago...

Right, and Huxley was adopted in 2017. They knew his problems were severe even before adopting him (a Dr. warned them) and we know things didn’t just get difficult recently. Yet they were still looking to adopt a special needs child again (just with “easy to manage” needs).

The kid had a brain tumor...

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not convinced the Stauffers deliberately adopted a special needs kid to make money off of him because I think they've done a good job of convincing themselves that their lifestyle blogging is a valid choice for their family.

But I don't for a minute think that the effect on their lifestyle blog was never considered.

Hopefully the child is better off, but the whole thing is very disturbing. The Reuters story linked from page one makes it clear that the "re-homing"/abandonment process is informal, whereas the adoption process is very formal.

You obviously haven't read her posts on Internet adoption sites looking for another kid to adopt with special needs while in the middle of all this!

Seriously?

Yes, but looking for a child with special needs that was easy to manage, but that most people wouldn’t think was easy. For real.

https://mobile.twitter.com/hannyyy08/status/1266126433803436035/photo/1

Can you not read dates? Myka made those posts almost TWO years ago...

Right, and Huxley was adopted in 2017. They knew his problems were severe even before adopting him (a Dr. warned them) and we know things didn’t just get difficult recently. Yet they were still looking to adopt a special needs child again (just with “easy to manage” needs).

The kid had a brain tumor...

No, she thought he had a brain tumor turned out it was autism!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the reasoning. Lots of people have bio children with special needs. In many cases, the parents really struggle and their lives are basically ruined. You're still not allowed to give them away!

Why are you allowed to do this with adopted children? They're piling trauma on top of trauma on that little boy.

How many homes has he been in? In a prior video, they mention that he was in a foster home in China so that's two (give up by his birth parents, Chinese foster parent, then their house, then a few other houses, and now his "forever" family? Until they get sick of him??)

People do place their biological kids with disabilities for adoption. It is definitely something that's allowed.

As a parent of a child with severe special needs, I have to disagree with the idea that many parents' lives are "basically ruined".

What? No. This is not a thing people are just allowed to do. When you have a bio kid with SN, if your life is "ruined", too bad so sad in our society.

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Sometimes people put their bio kids in some type of care facility, if they can afford it. It's SUPER expensive to do that though and most can't. But you're still legally and financially responsible for them.

You can tiurn your child over to the foster care system, which is basically the same as putting them up for adoption.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm always suspicious of people who adopt kids when they already have their own bio kids, it seems like a recipe for disaster, especially when they have to "raise money" to adopt the child from overseas.

Instead, they could have fostered a traumatized child from here, but then they would have some oversight.

I have seen so often where the adopted kids sometimes fight with and are borderline abusive to the other kids in the family. It really seems like an unnecessary risk to take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not convinced the Stauffers deliberately adopted a special needs kid to make money off of him because I think they've done a good job of convincing themselves that their lifestyle blogging is a valid choice for their family.

But I don't for a minute think that the effect on their lifestyle blog was never considered.

Hopefully the child is better off, but the whole thing is very disturbing. The Reuters story linked from page one makes it clear that the "re-homing"/abandonment process is informal, whereas the adoption process is very formal.

You obviously haven't read her posts on Internet adoption sites looking for another kid to adopt with special needs while in the middle of all this!

Seriously?

Yes, but looking for a child with special needs that was easy to manage, but that most people wouldn’t think was easy. For real.

https://mobile.twitter.com/hannyyy08/status/1266126433803436035/photo/1

Can you not read dates? Myka made those posts almost TWO years ago...

Right, and Huxley was adopted in 2017. They knew his problems were severe even before adopting him (a Dr. warned them) and we know things didn’t just get difficult recently. Yet they were still looking to adopt a special needs child again (just with “easy to manage” needs).

The kid had a brain tumor...

No, she thought he had a brain tumor turned out it was autism!

Umm what? Clearly you have no clue what you are talking about so you shouldn’t continue to comment. He DOES have a brain tumor actually. And autism. And RAD.....

[Anonymous]

Well, stop going to her channel and stop buying stuff from the sponsors. Why is this hard to understand?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not convinced the Stauffers deliberately adopted a special needs kid to make money off of him because I think they've done a good job of convincing themselves that their lifestyle blogging is a valid choice for their family.

But I don't for a minute think that the effect on their lifestyle blog was never considered.

Hopefully the child is better off, but the whole thing is very disturbing. The Reuters story linked from page one makes it clear that the "re-homing"/abandonment process is informal, whereas the adoption process is very formal.

You obviously haven't read her posts on Internet adoption sites looking for another kid to adopt with special needs while in the middle of all this!

Seriously?

Yes, but looking for a child with special needs that was easy to manage, but that most people wouldn’t think was easy. For real.

https://mobile.twitter.com/hannyyy08/status/1266126433803436035/photo/1

Can you not read dates? Myka made those posts almost TWO years ago...

Right, and Huxley was adopted in 2017. They knew his problems were severe even before adopting him (a Dr. warned them) and we know things didn’t just get difficult recently. Yet they were still looking to adopt a special needs child again (just with “easy to manage” needs).

The kid had a brain tumor...

No, she thought he had a brain tumor turned out it was autism!

Umm what? Clearly you have no clue what you are talking about so you shouldn’t continue to comment. He DOES have a brain tumor actually. And autism. And RAD.....

ASD is now a generic catchall. This child had a brain tumor. That can cause serious issues in behavior, cognitive ability, etc. ASD is what they are calling the symptoms but there is an actual cause for the brain damage/disorder and it was cause by seizures in utero and a brain tumor. This was disclosed and she ignored it.

This child doesn't look like rad and if he does, its because the parents didn't bond to him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm always suspicious of people who adopt kids when they already have their own bio kids, it seems like a recipe for disaster, especially when they have to "raise money" to adopt the child from overseas.

Instead, they could have fostered a traumatized child from here, but then they would have some oversight.

I have seen so often where the adopted kids sometimes fight with and are borderline abusive to the other kids in the family. It really seems like an unnecessary risk to take.

One Chinese kid with medical and developmental issues vs. four similar kids. Recipe for disaster. He is their token child and he was brought in as a story line/money maker.

If they fostered, they would not have been allowed to put the child on camera before they adopted so that would not have worked. There are strict rules about foster parents posting online in most places.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a mother of an international adopted now teen, I find this Story very sad.

I do agree with inferences from OP that this social media influencer should have made more of an effort to provide a stable home and to bond with the child.

However, I do not wish to be too judgy as being an adoptive parent is Both extremely challenging and rewarding. We have both: biological and adoptive children with special needs and there are definitely extra hurdles in helping the adoptive child to flourish (Such as being sensitive to different life experiences for people of color and making sure they have friends and role models who look like them). Nonetheless, there are more similarities than differences in duties for parenting biological and adopted children.

Regarding the negativity and hysteria around international adoptions, there are many Thousands of positive success stories. It took us many years to adopt as good agencies are so vigilant in ensuring that prospective parents have the emotional, physical, Psychological and financial resources to successfully adopt and raise children. They do home studies to check that your home is safe and welcoming. They interview existing children to ensure that they are well adjusted, perform criminal background checks, test for alcohol/ substance abuse and require clean medical bills of health.They also require social workers in the countries of the biological mothers ascertain that the mother really believes adoption is the best solution for her and take DNA tests of both biological mother and child to confirm the identity of the mother is true and that she willingly gives her child up for adoption. Of course, it is better for children to stay with their biological parents if that is possible but in many cases it is not. In countries where international adoptions have been closed down due to Den Hague Treaty Violations, their orphanages are overflowing.

International is not the only way to combat poverty but it can be one tool of many. However, adoptive parents need to take their duties profoundly seriously. Children are not status objects but complex sentient beings who need love, understanding and discipline.

You sound very thoughtful and grounded. I am glad your adoption worked out.

Thank you. There are many of us who are doing our best to raise adopted special needs kids from abroad as best we can and out of the spotlight. I do not believe that most such adoptions are for cynical reasons. That said, it is definitely not for the faint of heart.