YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer "rehomes" adopted son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Here is a petition that any money made off of Huxley should go to a trust fund for Huxley. Please sign.

https://www.change.org/p/myka-stauffer-any-money-made-off-of-huxley-should-go-to-huxley

The money probably has long been spent. Move on. This stuff happens more than you realize. It was perfectly legal even though it was wrong.

It was definitely not ethical.

They definitely still have plenty of money; garnish their wages now and into the future if necessary. It’s the least they owe this child.

Many unethical things happen to many people in adoption. Not the first situation or the last. The child has no right to the money. No one really cares about ethics and they care about their wants, wishes and needs. Move on... Nothing you can do about it.

Why does he have no rights to the money? He was used as content.

[Anonymous]

I know nothing about this woman and am definitely not her defender but people in here need to do some self-examination for why the idea of watching her be punished (and I sure do see you saying "her" and not "them") is so intoxicating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here is a petition that any money made off of Huxley should go to a trust fund for Huxley. Please sign.

https://www.change.org/p/myka-stauffer-any-money-made-off-of-huxley-should-go-to-huxley

The money probably has long been spent. Move on. This stuff happens more than you realize. It was perfectly legal even though it was wrong.

It was definitely not ethical.

They definitely still have plenty of money; garnish their wages now and into the future if necessary. It’s the least they owe this child.

Many unethical things happen to many people in adoption. Not the first situation or the last. The child has no right to the money. No one really cares about ethics and they care about their wants, wishes and needs. Move on... Nothing you can do about it.

Why does he have no rights to the money? He was used as content.

Okay so do the math for me. What cut should he get for the use of his image? $5k? $10k? Because that's the top end of the range we are talking about.

[Anonymous]

NP. Obviously this whole story is very ugly. But look at the Harts. If Myka and her family felt that trapped by the decision, there are much worse ways for this to have ended. Lots of adoptions end this way, and people don't like to talk about it, but caring for a SN child can be very taxing and not everyone is cut out for it. If I can respect the first parent for offering the child up for adoption, I can respect the adoptive parent for finding herself in the same shoes. Before the Harts drove their family off a cliff, they had beaten, starved, strangled, and isolated their adoptive kids, sometimes keeping their heads under cold water while beating and strangling them. Yet their social media presented a perfect, happy family of 6 adopted kids. I would much rather they "re-homed" the children. Yes, the ideal is that these people would be the great parents they pretended to be. But the reality is that many people are horrible parents and don't have the basic skills to even start to improve. Ugly reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. Obviously this whole story is very ugly. But look at the Harts. If Myka and her family felt that trapped by the decision, there are much worse ways for this to have ended. Lots of adoptions end this way, and people don't like to talk about it, but caring for a SN child can be very taxing and not everyone is cut out for it. If I can respect the first parent for offering the child up for adoption, I can respect the adoptive parent for finding herself in the same shoes. Before the Harts drove their family off a cliff, they had beaten, starved, strangled, and isolated their adoptive kids, sometimes keeping their heads under cold water while beating and strangling them. Yet their social media presented a perfect, happy family of 6 adopted kids. I would much rather they "re-homed" the children. Yes, the ideal is that these people would be the great parents they pretended to be. But the reality is that many people are horrible parents and don't have the basic skills to even start to improve. Ugly reality.

Okay, your take away was that at least she didn’t become a family annihilator and commit mass murder and suicide?

The Harts should not have been able to adopt and neither should the stauffers. I didn’t post the petition, but the stauffers should pay up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here is a petition that any money made off of Huxley should go to a trust fund for Huxley. Please sign.

https://www.change.org/p/myka-stauffer-any-money-made-off-of-huxley-should-go-to-huxley

The money probably has long been spent. Move on. This stuff happens more than you realize. It was perfectly legal even though it was wrong.

It was definitely not ethical.

They definitely still have plenty of money; garnish their wages now and into the future if necessary. It’s the least they owe this child.

Many unethical things happen to many people in adoption. Not the first situation or the last. The child has no right to the money. No one really cares about ethics and they care about their wants, wishes and needs. Move on... Nothing you can do about it.

Why does he have no rights to the money? He was used as content.

+1,000,000 Use child labor laws as a springboard and take it to the supreme court so these influencers stop using their children for profit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. Obviously this whole story is very ugly. But look at the Harts. If Myka and her family felt that trapped by the decision, there are much worse ways for this to have ended. Lots of adoptions end this way, and people don't like to talk about it, but caring for a SN child can be very taxing and not everyone is cut out for it. If I can respect the first parent for offering the child up for adoption, I can respect the adoptive parent for finding herself in the same shoes. Before the Harts drove their family off a cliff, they had beaten, starved, strangled, and isolated their adoptive kids, sometimes keeping their heads under cold water while beating and strangling them. Yet their social media presented a perfect, happy family of 6 adopted kids. I would much rather they "re-homed" the children. Yes, the ideal is that these people would be the great parents they pretended to be. But the reality is that many people are horrible parents and don't have the basic skills to even start to improve. Ugly reality.

That family sounded like they adopted for the money. With six older kids they would get a very large monthly stipend.

No one really talks about that the parents often don't bond with the kids. Adoption is the last resort and they really wanted biological kids. The kid are blamed for not being attached but no one looking at the parents attachment as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here is a petition that any money made off of Huxley should go to a trust fund for Huxley. Please sign.

https://www.change.org/p/myka-stauffer-any-money-made-off-of-huxley-should-go-to-huxley

The money probably has long been spent. Move on. This stuff happens more than you realize. It was perfectly legal even though it was wrong.

It was definitely not ethical.

They definitely still have plenty of money; garnish their wages now and into the future if necessary. It’s the least they owe this child.

Many unethical things happen to many people in adoption. Not the first situation or the last. The child has no right to the money. No one really cares about ethics and they care about their wants, wishes and needs. Move on... Nothing you can do about it.

Why does he have no rights to the money? He was used as content.

+1,000,000 Use child labor laws as a springboard and take it to the supreme court so these influencers stop using their children for profit.

Exactly. Jackie Coogan law only recognized in 4 states:
https://www.sagaftra.org/membership-benefits/young-performers/coogan-law

Scum bucket YouTubers should be stopped.

[Anonymous]

No charges to be filed against them. Wellness check done on all their kids PLUS huxley and his new home and everything turned out perfectly legal.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniemcneal/myka-james-stauffer-no-charges-huxley-case

[Anonymous]

Did anyone watch the hbo doc on this?

[Anonymous]

What is the name of the documentary?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the name of the documentary?

“An Update on Our Family.”

Yes, I finished watching it tonight. There wasn’t much of an ending. Huxley has privacy now and we’ll likely never get an update on how he’s doing. I hope he is well loved and cared for and happy. I also hope his name isn’t Huxley anymore.

It was wrong for people to make death threats against the Stauffers, but I don’t feel bad that they suffered public scorn for the way they handled the entire situation. They were ill prepared for the realities of his adoption and they weren’t committed to doing everything they could to make it successful. I wonder how their other children have been affected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the name of the documentary?

“An Update on Our Family.”

Yes, I finished watching it tonight. There wasn’t much of an ending. Huxley has privacy now and we’ll likely never get an update on how he’s doing. I hope he is well loved and cared for and happy. I also hope his name isn’t Huxley anymore.

It was wrong for people to make death threats against the Stauffers, but I don’t feel bad that they suffered public scorn for the way they handled the entire situation. They were ill prepared for the realities of his adoption and they weren’t committed to doing everything they could to make it successful. I wonder how their other children have been affected.

My main issue with it was the general monetizing of private moments and using kids for revenue, and that's more problematic even with an adopted child. I also think they were immature and unprepared to adopt but I don't fault them for re-homing Huxley considering they could not do an adequate job raising him. It's a good outcome for him to now have an adoptive parent who is better prepared for his needs. It did sound like the money they made went to a lot of services and diagnoses for Huxley and they were just in over their heads. Ultimately losing their revenue and the public shame seems like an appropriate consequence.

[Anonymous]

I watched it. I'm glad she's stopped the videos though the dad still does his about cars. I think they were naive and not very smart. She definitely had no idea what she was doing but I also think they probably did not get the truth from whomever they used to adopt the son. I know someone this happened to and the child's problems were much more serious than they were told. I think the problem with these channels is that the parents show cute, sweet videos which do not show the hardships of real life and they could not live up to their own created image. I think people like the parents also believe in their own specialness after getting fame and money and they believed they could work miracles. That plus the attention, fame and money for doing so was irresistible to them. They all seem to have more kids for the video content. I know they would deny it but I think it's that simple.

I came away also grossed out by the sponsorships they get and how people are so vicious towards others online. On the other hand, I think influencers do this in order to have people envy them and I don't think their motives are pure at all.

The other couple who are currently family vloggers were so weird (wife has red hair). The whole thing is a cautionary tale to stay away from this lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. Obviously this whole story is very ugly. But look at the Harts. If Myka and her family felt that trapped by the decision, there are much worse ways for this to have ended. Lots of adoptions end this way, and people don't like to talk about it, but caring for a SN child can be very taxing and not everyone is cut out for it. If I can respect the first parent for offering the child up for adoption, I can respect the adoptive parent for finding herself in the same shoes. Before the Harts drove their family off a cliff, they had beaten, starved, strangled, and isolated their adoptive kids, sometimes keeping their heads under cold water while beating and strangling them. Yet their social media presented a perfect, happy family of 6 adopted kids. I would much rather they "re-homed" the children. Yes, the ideal is that these people would be the great parents they pretended to be. But the reality is that many people are horrible parents and don't have the basic skills to even start to improve. Ugly reality.

DP. That’s not what happened with the Harts. They weren’t good people that adopted and felt overwhelmed. They were abusers who sought out victims and ultimately killed them. The Harts pulled their kids from school once they were being investigated for abuse. If your point was that the Stauffers were also terrible people then I agree. But a lot of people in stressful situations don’t do what either of these families did. I’m not giving someone props for declining to murder their kids.