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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a mother of an international adopted now teen, I find this Story very sad.

I do agree with inferences from OP that this social media influencer should have made more of an effort to provide a stable home and to bond with the child.

However, I do not wish to be too judgy as being an adoptive parent is Both extremely challenging and rewarding. We have both: biological and adoptive children with special needs and there are definitely extra hurdles in helping the adoptive child to flourish (Such as being sensitive to different life experiences for people of color and making sure they have friends and role models who look like them). Nonetheless, there are more similarities than differences in duties for parenting biological and adopted children.

Regarding the negativity and hysteria around international adoptions, there are many Thousands of positive success stories. It took us many years to adopt as good agencies are so vigilant in ensuring that prospective parents have the emotional, physical, Psychological and financial resources to successfully adopt and raise children. They do home studies to check that your home is safe and welcoming. They interview existing children to ensure that they are well adjusted, perform criminal background checks, test for alcohol/ substance abuse and require clean medical bills of health.They also require social workers in the countries of the biological mothers ascertain that the mother really believes adoption is the best solution for her and take DNA tests of both biological mother and child to confirm the identity of the mother is true and that she willingly gives her child up for adoption. Of course, it is better for children to stay with their biological parents if that is possible but in many cases it is not. In countries where international adoptions have been closed down due to Den Hague Treaty  Violations, their orphanages are overflowing.

International is not the only way to combat poverty but it can be one tool of many. However, adoptive parents need to take their duties profoundly seriously. Children are not status objects but complex sentient beings who need love, understanding and discipline.[/quote]

You sound very thoughtful and grounded. I am glad your adoption worked out.[/quote]

Thank you. There are many of us who are doing our best to raise adopted special needs kids from abroad as best we can and out of the spotlight. I do not believe that most such adoptions are for cynical reasons. That said, it is definitely not for the faint of heart. [/quote]

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