YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer "rehomes" adopted son

[Anonymous]

Is anyone else following this story?

A couple years ago she and her husband raised money from her followers to adopt a little boy from China. They already had three older kids. The adopted son had a lot of trouble adjusting to his new country and home and their actions seem to have made it worse (they continued to travel a lot after he came home, built a new house, and even had a new baby within 2 years of his joining their family). Most people in this realm seem to strongly advise that you "nest" with the kid for at least several months (meaning you basically quarantine yourself in the house) to help him or her adjust but they didn't do any of that.

Anyhow, they just put up a video admitting they sent him back to the adoption agency which finally placed him with a new family after a couple false starts.

WTF, I had no idea you could do this. This poor kid. If you can't do this with a bio kid, why should you be allowed to do it with an adopted kid?

https://www.youtube.com/mykastauffer/

[Anonymous]

No. Why do we need to follow the stories of stupid women and influencers?

[Anonymous]

Jesus, that's terrible.

I'd recommend anyone interested in these issues, and how international adoption has been used to funnel kids into child trafficking rings, look at this story: https://www.reuters.com/investigates/adoption/#article/part1

Basically, there are a lot of bad actors here, but they include unscrupulous agencies, (white) Christians using adoption to 'save the natives,' and flat-out child traffickers looking to essentially sell child into slavery.

[Anonymous]

Who adopts a BOY from China? Was he special needs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who adopts a BOY from China? Was he special needs

They haven't really said what the problem was, just that he was having behavioral issues they were really struggling with, but she was using the hashtag #RAD for a while on photos of him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who adopts a BOY from China? Was he special needs

Yes. They knew he had big special needs. And then he turned out to have even more than were disclosed.

[Anonymous]

They're so nonchalant in that video. I am blown away. Who does this?! Can you imagine what their other kids must be thinking? The youngest two probably have no memories without Huxley in their lives.

What would you think as a child if you saw your parents giving one of your siblings away??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They're so nonchalant in that video. I am blown away. Who does this?! Can you imagine what their other kids must be thinking? The youngest two probably have no memories without Huxley in their lives.

What would you think as a child if you saw your parents giving one of your siblings away??

Are you watching the correct video? They’re not nonchalant at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who adopts a BOY from China? Was he special needs

Yes. They knew he had big special needs. And then he turned out to have even more than were disclosed.

This is really common in any international adoption though and not an excuse.

[Anonymous]

My father is a family law attorney. There are times adoptions just don't work out. Honestly in those cases it is better for the kid to be placed with another family where hopefully their needs can be better met, and it'll be a happier match.

But it's never easy to talk about, and the public never ever likes hearing about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who adopts a BOY from China? Was he special needs

Yes. They knew he had big special needs. And then he turned out to have even more than were disclosed.

This is really common in any international adoption though and not an excuse.

I’m just addressing PP’s question.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the reasoning. Lots of people have bio children with special needs. In many cases, the parents really struggle and their lives are basically ruined. You're still not allowed to give them away!

Why are you allowed to do this with adopted children? They're piling trauma on top of trauma on that little boy.

How many homes has he been in? In a prior video, they mention that he was in a foster home in China so that's two (give up by his birth parents, Chinese foster parent, then their house, then a few other houses, and now his "forever" family? Until they get sick of him??)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My father is a family law attorney. There are times adoptions just don't work out. Honestly in those cases it is better for the kid to be placed with another family where hopefully their needs can be better met, and it'll be a happier match.

But it's never easy to talk about, and the public never ever likes hearing about it.

I’m part of an adoptive family (sibling). We adopted at birth. It was still difficult in so many ways and my sibling does have special needs that were not known at birth. And newborn adoption is supposedly the easiest. While this is a horrible story I can’t really get on board with trashing them. People who haven’t adopted/been adopted should really sit down.

[Anonymous]

If you go to thier Instagram page, you'll see that they were in Bali in February. Which, according to her timeline, is right around the time that they must have been in talks to give this kid away??

WTF is wrong with these people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who adopts a BOY from China? Was he special needs

he has autism