Vent about marrying someone from a very underdeveloped country

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Anonymous wrote:While OP may indeed be posting directly from Bangladesh, the point she keeps driving home is:

- Bangladesh is a sh!th0le country

Yes, but some people will give it the San Francisco treatment, & say it’s only PARTS of Bangladesh that are crappy, & you must be a psycho Eurocentric white supremacist if you like the people preparing your food to wash their hands.

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Anonymous wrote:While OP may indeed be posting directly from Bangladesh, the point she keeps driving home is:

- Bangladesh is a sh!th0le country

Yup, probably gonna be a while before The Price is Right gives away a 2-week Bangladeshi vaca.

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Anonymous wrote:While OP may indeed be posting directly from Bangladesh, the point she keeps driving home is:

- Bangladesh is a sh!th0le country

I disagree. Bengal is a magical place.

What, they got bigger bath-buckets in Bengal?

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Anonymous wrote:While OP may indeed be posting directly from Bangladesh, the point she keeps driving home is:

- Bangladesh is a sh!th0le country

That's totally not what I'm getting out of this as a Jewish woman in Massachusetts. I think it sounds really cool and I'd love to visit and I've been researching Bangladeshi charities!!

There are sad parts but it's so normal and human. I've never used a mosquito net but I've heard prayers from a mosque and wondered what they were. I've visited family and been impressed by how they handle some things, and shocked at their acceptance of other things.


You must have a low bar to being charmed then.
I'm very charmed by her descriptions.

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Anonymous wrote:I think washing from a bucket and cooking without washing hands sound wonderful!

Even though I live in an affluent suburb of D.C., I certainly plan to switch to only bucket-washing and unclean-hands-cooking right away!

Who’s with me?

We just wash ourselves in the river, whilst clothed. Very spiritual as well.
Nice cold water rushing strong this time of year.

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60 posts per day here by OP?!? Seriously!?!

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Anonymous wrote:I think washing from a bucket and cooking without washing hands sound wonderful!

Even though I live in an affluent suburb of D.C., I certainly plan to switch to only bucket-washing and unclean-hands-cooking right away!

Who’s with me?

We just wash ourselves in the river, whilst clothed. Very spiritual as well.
Nice cold water rushing strong this time of year.

Yes I do that too. Just yesterday I took my kids to the Potomac river. We plan to go to the nearby lake today because of the traffic. On the weekends, we usually take our laundry clothes and wash it by the Potomac river bank. If possible we spend the whole day there and make a picnic out of it, while our clothes are drying on a makeshift clothes line between trees.

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Anonymous wrote:While OP may indeed be posting directly from Bangladesh, the point she keeps driving home is:

- Bangladesh is a sh!th0le country

I disagree. Bengal is a magical place.

What, they got bigger bath-buckets in Bengal?

I'm an older white American man, and I found that South Asian bucket baths work pretty well when I was in the Himalaya foothills five hours from the nearest paved road. I was pleasantly pleased with how clean I got.

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Thank goodness we have our own egg supply out back in the chicken coop.

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I assume because Bangladesh is Muslim and not Hindu, they consume cows? Op, have you been eating any meat?

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Anonymous wrote:Op is not claiming to speak for Bengalis. That's why this thread is interesting. She is perceiving it as a normal white woman. It's quite fascinating because she is really doing the real deal and not staying in hotels.

Someone started another thread on Bangladesh. No one was interested, because there's a unique perspective here that many of us can relate to. We can always Google Bangladesh if we want to learn the facts. I especially enjoy her pictures and impressions.

She's a foreigner and naturally will get some stuff wrong. But she has a good eye for detail and personality and I'm totally hooked.

Op here. I think you're giving me too much credit. It's hard to sleep because I am overwhelmed. The mosque close by is constantly blaring music but it's really not normal music. They are singing verses from the Quran. They have a unique way to recite it. I am in a bed with my husband and two kids. All three are snoring. The mosquito net is secured well and I heard a strange animal outside I couldn't identify. Today there was a random cow I saw on the street. According to DH the cow wasn't lost. Most likely it wandered off its property and the owners will get him. I also was confused this evening when his family was discussing who would all go to Dhaka tomorrow because I recognized chicken in Bengali and names of family members. I asked why they were talking about chickens and if they would take the chickens to Dhaka. They thought it was hilarious. They were discussing who would stay home to babysit the chicken and rooster. Apparently, chickens fly over the concrete fence that's pretty high up. Who knew? Dhs family really wants to gift me a traditional three-price dress. We will go tomorrow to pick out the fabric and a tailor will custom make it. This is the way his sister usually purchases her clothes and I think it's common to still do this. The other types of clothes (the type we buy in the US ) are called ready-made. Another neat fact is furniture is sometimes made at your house right of if you and it is beautifully carved. It's easier to get it through the doorway. Their beds are typically huge because they co-sleep. Dh's nephew who is 11 sleeps with his mom and SIL and BIL sleep in another room. My MIL is sleeping with her sister right now who is visiting for two days.

Op please note:
They are not blaring music nor
are they singing at the mosque.
They are reciting verses from the Quran.

OP, they are calling/singing the AZAAN. It is the call to the faithful to pray/recite the Quran/readthe Namaaz. The Maulvi will give this call 5 times a day. So your husband snores through the Azaan? LOL. At least the family you live in are not devout muslims. Praise the Lord for that!

Op here. I know what the Azaan is and that's not what I was referring to. Dhs family is religious. Some nights they randomly recite Quran verses late at night I.e. 1-3 am. There is a holiday coming up in a few days and millions of Muslims will be by the river in Dhaka. I received a notification from the us embassy suggesting we stay in. All four of us are sick with fevers but no one else in his family is sick. The mattresses here are essentially a 2-inch mattress topper. It's rough sleeping this way with body aches. I wake up with shoulder pain.

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Anonymous wrote:I assume because Bangladesh is Muslim and not Hindu, they consume cows? Op, have you been eating any meat?

Op here I kid you not I saw two cows riding in an auto car yesterday lol! I haven't been eating meat. An auto for those who don't know are small battery cars that don't have doors... Kind of like a golf cart

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Anonymous wrote:I assume because Bangladesh is Muslim and not Hindu, they consume cows? Op, have you been eating any meat?

Op here I kid you not I saw two cows riding in an auto car yesterday lol! I haven't been eating meat. An auto for those who don't know are small battery cars that don't have doors... Kind of like a golf cart

That must be so much fun for the cows riding in an auto - since there were 2 cows, I guess it was a share auto

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I love juicy mango season. Delish.

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Anonymous wrote:While OP may indeed be posting directly from Bangladesh, the point she keeps driving home is:

- Bangladesh is a sh!th0le country

I don’t think that’s fair to OP. This is my first post but I’ve been reading with sk interest. She’s repeatedly said how nice the people are and how the pace of life is so much better and less competitive. She also seems to appreciate things like tailor made clothing, etc. But I don’t think it’s odd for her to comment on the relative lack of infrastructure and material stuff as compared with the US. 21st century Americans are insanely rich when it comes to material goods and technology. That’s why we account for such a large share of climate change. It’s very disorienting to go to a country that doesn’t have all that. My kids were even a little taken aback in Italy at their dinky little kitchens compared to an American kitchen and the fact that the apartment we rented didn’t have a dryer (washer only). That was bonkers to them. OP admitted she has not travelled a lot in lesser developed countries, so of course that’s a hard adjustment for her and it sounds like her husband is more amused than helpful with her culture shock.

Ha,
Most American apartments (not houses) don’t even have a washer! Now, that’s bonkers.
I’ve had a personal washer in every apartment I stayed at in the former USSR, no matter how small and old the apartment was.
Talk about shock!