Redshirting August boy?
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Anonymous
You people make no sense. If a 14+ age gap is no big deal, then why is it a problem to have your child in his right-age class? Because he's not yet "ready"? But isn't it okay if he is a year less "ready" since that gap is negligible? |
Anonymous
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Okay I think we need to explain the basics of private school admissions for DCUM anti-redshirters.
1. You cannot make private school admissions directors do your bidding. 2. You do not need to send your children to private school. 3. Private schools set their own admissions policies. Your repeated temper tantrums cannot change that. 4. Many private schools have a cutoff date, but it is not strict, and admissions directors decide where your kid will land. 5. There is a line out the door for people who want admissions to private school. They do not have to take your kid. 6. You are not entitled to send your child to private school. Some of you seem to have a very tenuous grip on reality, so maybe these bullet points will help. |
Anonymous
Maybe that is all that “success” means to you. To me it means “happy and well adjusted”… maybe you are just too competitive and think tht success is a zero sum game. IT IS NOT! |
Anonymous
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I just realized my DS will likely still be 17 when he leaves for college. I wish I redshirted him!!
The only oddness with private school redshirting is if the kid has to repeat a grade. I know someone whose boy redshirted then had to repeat a year due to some mental health/substance stuff. Now he’s a 20 year old senior. It’s a bit weird. |
Anonymous
Exactly, its clearly a big deal if you hold your kid back to be at the top of the age gap. It's more than 13-14 months if you have an April or May child held back and an August or September kid who went on time or a few weeks early. That would be up to 18 months. |
Anonymous
Have you wondered how good this private school is if they only take older kids or kids not appropriate for the grade? |
Anonymous
You have repeated tge same thing like 16 times, and I am struggling to understand why. Where in this thread has one person said they are conducting a campaign to change policy? What a bunch of people said is they they don't like it, that they think it's dumb, and that pretending like it makes sense because the Admissions does it is bad logic (because Admissions has their own misguided motivations to redshirt kids). Not liking some aspect of a school doesn't mean people should change schools. But we do grt to complain and speak our thoughts here, just like you... |
Anonymous
It is impossible to reason with you… I thought maybe we had not explained it well enough, but at this point, you are the issue. I will repeat it ONE MORE TIME. A 13-14 months spread might be totally fine if the oldest kids are as mature as the rest. Some kids need more time and some don’t. It’s up to the parents and school officials to decide what is best for each particular kid. Do you get it now or do we need to draw you a picture? Stop repeating the same sentence over and over again |
Anonymous
| Anti-redshirters: why do you all feel entitled to dictate admissions policies to private schools? I’m honestly blown away by the entitlement you all show on this thread. If I was applying to private school and I didn’t agree with some part of their educational philosophy that was very important to me, I just would not apply to that school. I definitely would not have a temper tantrum about it and demand the school change an approach they clearly think works educationally for their students. I would instead look elsewhere for schools that better matched my educational philosophy. But you all seem to think that you are entitled to demand schools change their long-standing policies to match your particular situation. I simply cannot understand that mindset. |
Anonymous
Well, given that they regularly place students at top universities and those students go on to excel in life, I think they are probably doing something right. |
Anonymous
No, those of us who don't hold our kids back a grade think our kids are smart enough and will do well in either situation and will learn resilience and adversity AND we get them the help they need or give it to them at home. If our kids have delays, we get the therapies and support they need. It's not that our kids are less mature, it's your kids who are too old for the grade, less mature, and forced into a situation that keeps them less mature than their peer group where they get their example from is from younger kids. If your 5 year old is with a 4 year old and you look at the 4-year-old and say, hey my kid is more mature, that means nothing due to the age gap. And, it really means your child needs age appropriate peer models. You, who hold your kids back are saying its terrible to have a large age gap with your child being the youngest, but then say its ok to have that age gap and have your child as the oldest. The logic makes no sense especially when you've done nothing to help your child. This is really about gaming the system to make your kids seems smarter or better than they are. Give them a chance rather than assume they can't or are not ready. Give them the support they need to be successful. And, question schools that force kids to stay back a year for the school's needs, not the child's as they aren't putting the child's needs first. |
Anonymous
And, publics and other schools also place students at the top universities as well. So, is it that they are doing it right or they are doing it to make it easier on them? These schools take rich kids whose rich parents can pay their way into these top schools, which also makes a difference. Your smart kid would have done just fine going on time and still would have done just as well at a public or any other private. |
Anonymous
Personally I don't nor would I put my child at a school that wasn't capable of teaching kids at their age/grade level. I'd wonder what was wrong with the school and teaching staff if they only took kids in K that should really be in 1st, especially when you are talking about smart kids from rich educated families who will do well with the proper academics. |
Anonymous
"Would have done" isn't good enough. You can take chances with your own kids but you can't and won't for other parents. |
Anonymous
If you aren’t actually trying to change anything, them you are paying a lot of money to send your child to a school that you profoundly disagree with and then whining loudly and incessantly about it. I cannot understand that, either. If you are as miserable at the school as you sound — and the anti-redshirters on this thread sound incredibly miserable — why are you so passive about it? Take charge of your life and transfer your kid out. Or stop whining so much. You anti-redshirters sound like so many spoiled Veruca Salts, just rich people endlessly whining and moaning about the admissions decisions of expensive private schools where you choose to send your kids. It is remarkable to see, but to those of us who sent kids to public and then struggled to send our kids to private school because of things like violence at the public school, it is also incredibly, amazingly distasteful behavior. I didn’t redshirt, but I cannot imagine making this much of a whiny fuss over something that is an extreme privilege. My kids entered private school after leaving a public school that I’m sure your spoiled foot would not ever step in. Who cares if there are older kids in their classrooms? There is nobody vaping in the classroom and ambulances aren’t being called for kids who have overdosed. I would never in a million years dream of whining about the admissions policies of the school that I consider it a true privilege to have my kids in and I’m astonished at the rank whiny entitlement you openly show. |