Redshirting August boy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the school - at our school, it's extremely common to redshirt even May and June boys. So we felt like we had to for our August boy. We did two years of Pre-K at his private school. Overall, we are happy with the decision.

Of course, the private school wants your money. And you admit you only did it because of others. You did not base it off of your child’s abilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the school - at our school, it's extremely common to redshirt even May and June boys. So we felt like we had to for our August boy. We did two years of Pre-K at his private school. Overall, we are happy with the decision.

OP How did you "pitch" it to the little guy? Did he feel in any way bad relative to peers who progressed to K?

He didn't care at all! We just told him he was going to stay with his teachers for another year. There were FIVE other little boys in his class who did the same thing, so it was very easy to sell it as "staying with ABC" rather than "XYZ leaving him behind".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the school - at our school, it's extremely common to redshirt even May and June boys. So we felt like we had to for our August boy. We did two years of Pre-K at his private school. Overall, we are happy with the decision.

Of course, the private school wants your money. And you admit you only did it because of others. You did not base it off of your child’s abilities.

lol why do people get so mad about this topic? My son is shy and "young" for his age, and we were already on the fence about holding him for a year based on his social skills. The decision became very easy when we saw how common it is at the school, since we didn't want him to be the youngest in a class full of even older kids who had already been redshirted. I'm sure the school wanting an extra year of tuition was part of their advice to hold him, but we didn't really care about that because we had already come to the conclusion that it was the right decision for our son in the particular circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely do it. And I guarantee the other August boys in his grade will have done it, too

We have an August boy we are redshirting and like 75% of his peers with similar birthdays are redshirting. We chose to wait another year because our boy would have only had 1 year of preschool because of the pandemic, and because he really wasn’t ready socially or academically. He struggles to even wipe his butt. He’s not ahead of the game and there was no way he’d be bored with another year or pre-k. We gave him the gift of another year to be a kid and develop at his own pace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely do it. And I guarantee the other August boys in his grade will have done it, too

Nope, not this parent and have another in class with an August birthday who happens to be one of the brighter students. My brother was the absolute oldest and did not graduate on time. Do not redshirt your child if he is not developmentally disabled.

My brother was the youngest and struggled and needed more time to mature. I redshirted my July birthday son, no regrets! Do it. I don't know anyone who regrets it and you can always skip a grade if you need to. Realizing you made a mistake by putting him forward if it turns out he wasn't ready is a disaster.

[Anonymous]

It was suggested to me that I redshirt my child based entirely on birthday. That was not a logical reason to hold him back and I moved him. Is doing great in high school now and best friend who is held back is not doing as well and never has.
Not sitting still as you mentioned is normal and to be expected. Do not redshirt your child.

[Anonymous]

Do it, you won’t regret it. We redshirted my eldest daughter born 5 days before the cut off. She stayed in her preschool one more year (with se lever al other classmates). It was non-issue. She was fine academically and now in 3rd she is doing fantastic (90-99th percentile on ERB), but she was socially immature. Even now that she is among the oldest in her class (though has never been the oldest), she is still on the you get side, but more middle of the pack.

In our well-known private, I have never seen a girl or a boy with an august birthday going on time. Plenty/all are redshirted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP

Would it be better to redshirt before he enters PreK or the PreK year?

I can have him do the 3s year at his current daycare and then move to private school or start attending private school in the 3s and then repeat the 3s or PreK4 if necessary.

Yes, much better in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely do it. And I guarantee the other August boys in his grade will have done it, too

Nope, not this parent and have another in class with an August birthday who happens to be one of the brighter students. My brother was the absolute oldest and did not graduate on time. Do not redshirt your child if he is not developmentally disabled.

My brother was the youngest and struggled and needed more time to mature. I redshirted my July birthday son, no regrets! Do it. I don't know anyone who regrets it and you can always skip a grade if you need to. Realizing you made a mistake by putting him forward if it turns out he wasn't ready is a disaster.

Well, my sibling was one of the oldest and didn’t do well and had to be held back in 3rd grade. By the time he was a senior, he was too old for my parents to make him go to school. I had the embarrassment of having his diploma handed to me in art class a year later to give to him.
By the way, jumping up a grade is not an easy fix.

[Anonymous]

No one who redshirts will say they regret it is not a reason to do it. And no one would ever admit that they should not have done so.
Way to put down your own child’s abilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do it, you won’t regret it. We redshirted my eldest daughter born 5 days before the cut off. She stayed in her preschool one more year (with se lever al other classmates). It was non-issue. She was fine academically and now in 3rd she is doing fantastic (90-99th percentile on ERB), but she was socially immature. Even now that she is among the oldest in her class (though has never been the oldest), she is still on the you get side, but more middle of the pack.

In our well-known private, I have never seen a girl or a boy with an august birthday going on time. Plenty/all are redshirted

They are all socially immature and she should be doing fantastic since she is measured at a year behind what her grade should be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP

Would it be better to redshirt before he enters PreK or the PreK year?

I can have him do the 3s year at his current daycare and then move to private school or start attending private school in the 3s and then repeat the 3s or PreK4 if necessary.

I'd look for an interesting program that isn't too academic so he doesn't get too far ahead. Maybe something outdoors based on expeditionary? I wouldn't have him repeat the same thing two years in a row or repeat K.

[Anonymous]

Son born right before cut-off and we did not redshirt. The difference in age diminishes and doesn’t matter before they leave elementary school.
Pediatric psychologist I know advised us not to redshirt as well and this was sound advise from professional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP

Would it be better to redshirt before he enters PreK or the PreK year?

I can have him do the 3s year at his current daycare and then move to private school or start attending private school in the 3s and then repeat the 3s or PreK4 if necessary.

I'd look for an interesting program that isn't too academic so he doesn't get too far ahead. Maybe something outdoors based on expeditionary? I wouldn't have him repeat the same thing two years in a row or repeat K.

What?! You suggest stunting his growth and his abilities so he doesn’t “get ahead?” Unbelievable!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do it, you won’t regret it. We redshirted my eldest daughter born 5 days before the cut off. She stayed in her preschool one more year (with se lever al other classmates). It was non-issue. She was fine academically and now in 3rd she is doing fantastic (90-99th percentile on ERB), but she was socially immature. Even now that she is among the oldest in her class (though has never been the oldest), she is still on the you get side, but more middle of the pack.

In our well-known private, I have never seen a girl or a boy with an august birthday going on time. Plenty/all are redshirted

They are all socially immature and she should be doing fantastic since she is measured at a year behind what her grade should be.

She's not a year behind, as a late August birthday she's only a couple of weeks older than the official start of the grade. She should be on the more mature end of her class.