Redshirting August boy?
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Anonymous
She was not held back then. |
Anonymous
Then you did not hold back your child. |
Anonymous
Are you truly this dumb? Unbelievable. |
Anonymous
She was since she was born in August 25th and turned 6 when she started K (as opposed to 5). She turned 7 a few days before starting 1st etc. She will turn 19 at the very beginning of college (assuming she will start in mid-end of August)…. |
Anonymous
+1 It is unbelievable. Troll. |
Anonymous
| And my July born son was redshirted this year for K and he will be 18 when he graduates! It’s really quite simple. He’s not an athlete and is small so this had nothing to do with athletics! I will say that my child has never been more confident and happy at school and his teachers tell me he is the glue that holds the class together so he is definitely not misbehaving and never has. Best decision for MY son who is thriving currently. |
Anonymous
Sometimes I think the supposed anti-redshirt posters on DCUM are actually secretly pro-redshirt but post to make anti-redshirt people look exceptionally stupid, though the more likely explanation is that DCUM anti-redshirt posters are actually just exceptionally and truly stupid. |
Anonymous
OK, you’re going to need a minute to deal with this but: my kid did an extra pre-first year after kindergarten. He will be 18 when he graduates and turn 19 in July. If he had not done the pre-first year, he would have been 17 when he graduated and turn 18 in July. How ya feeling? Is the room swimming? |
Anonymous
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I turned18 in October of my my senior year of high school, 19 as I began my first year of college. I was off-age at the time, 20+ years ago. I remember every birthday as being " why are you an entire year older than us?" Yay for birthdays.
I was held back by my mother, who was anxious and projected her problems on me, and against recommendations of the school. I had an exceptionally high IQ, undiagnosed ADHD (as in, not diagnosed until I was middle-aged, since ADHD didn't exist for smart girls in the 70s/80s), and trauma and social problems from being raised by my mentally ill mother. So, I do get touchy about this subject. Some of you moms out there who are hell-bent on this idea might be like my mom. Personality disordered with no empathy for child, only concerned with the social/status implications of your child doing well. Maybe you think your child looks good next to kids in the grade younger. Maybe all that matters is that your child does competitively well, next to kids who aren't the appropriate competition. You don't realize kids know the birthdays/ages very well. They are obsessed with those details. I would have been both smarter and more socially awkward no matter what age group. I became socially competent and even successful by middle/high school, but still had to deal with the insecurity of being assumed weird for being a year older. I don't care anymore. It's not my fight. I was damaged by mentally ill mother who held me back. Your experiences may vary. |
Anonymous
You post here all the time, so much so that I instantly recognized you. I do not think it helps you. |
Anonymous
I have not posted on this subject for more than a year so if there are others like me?Not surprised. |
Anonymous
I don’t know how old you are now and what was the cutoff where you grew up. My middle child has an end of October birthday, she is not redshirted and she is nowhere close to be one of the oldest in her private school 1st grade class. I know of few kids with July/august (redshirted), September, October birthdays in her class. I doubt she will be soooo traumatized from not being the youngest in her class. She is quite happy and a leader. My eldest was redshirted and was born at the end of August (5 days before the cutoff). She is also never the oldest in the class, is happy, well adjusted, nobody is ever mentioned anything about her being redshirted, etc. I come from a different country with 5 years of high school (I was 19 when I graduated high school as were half of my class mates). I came to college in the US where I was usually a year older than everyone else. I never cared, nobody ever mentioned it. It was absolutely a non-issue. I am sure you had a bad mom, but I doubt your issues come from being older than your peers. |
Anonymous
He did a kindergarten year and then a prefirst year. Call it whatever you want. |
Anonymous
Somehow I doubt that. |
Anonymous
What they have to say is important. This is what could happen when you hold your kid back. |