Parents building a vacation home
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Anonymous
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Inlaws are building a vacation home 8 hours away from DC. They have the plans all drawn up and are so excited to break ground. They're convinced we're coming monthly and will have all holidays there. I was looking at the plans and it involves a bunk room that sleeps 10 on the 2nd story with a communal bathroom with stalls (nice ones, but still). The bedroom on the ground floor is their bedroom.
Sigh. I know they're excited about the vacation home, but we are stretched as it is on annual leave and we wouldn't be able to go more than once a year. I am not spending holidays there at all. Communal bunking is just awful. Anyway to talk them down from this plan? I think their excitement has made them crazy. I also absolutely hate going to the same place more than once, but I know they enjoy the same spot every time and they hate going new places. They have visions of being surrounded by grandchildren on every holiday at their vacation home, but it's not going to happen like they're envisioning. |
Anonymous
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Communal bathroom with stalls?
Bahahahaha. I was going to come on here and say that "Family is everything. Cherish your time together," but their home plan is a seriously weird idea. |
Anonymous
| Haha communal bunking works if it's just for the kids (my parents have this set-up), but for adults/couples?? Hell no! |
Anonymous
| Wow, this is completely crazy. Are you expected to sleep, dress and use the bathroom in the same place as your BIL? Beyond weird. At a bare minimum there should be 2-3 bunk rooms for family privacy and if they insist on stall bathrooms, they need to have two of them separated by gender. But that's just me. |
Anonymous
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OP here. I hadn't thought of how to get dressed. Maybe in the stalls?
It's a 3 room house. There's a great room, master bedroom and then bunk room upstairs. |
Anonymous
| So the place has only one bedroom, and everyone else is supposed to share a bunk and bathroom with stalls? Do they not care about resale value at all? Does your dh have siblings? |
Anonymous
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OP here. No they don't care about resale. They probably plan on passing it down to us. It's a big property on a lake. Yes DH has siblings.
They have this idealized notion of what it would be like with a big family surrounding them, but it won't work like that. |
Anonymous
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What beach is it on?
Are the stalls for toilets, or showers? And how many bedrooms total? |
Anonymous
| PP. What lake? I'm really curious now. |
Anonymous
It's on a river/lake near a small town. Yes there are toilet and shower stalls. 1 bedroom, 1 bunk room. |
Anonymous
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Your DH needs to have a serious talk with them about how they are welcome to do what they like, but you will be coming once a year only. Also, that you don't like the idea of a communal room for everyone. Ask them how well they would sleep in the same room with 10 people.
Also, they need to hear that even if they build this thing, which is their choice, that does not mean your family is obligated to use it as they intend. Nor will you. |
Anonymous
| What does your husband think? |
Anonymous
| Perhaps gently point out that one room for multiple families might not work well for some of the common sense and privacy reasons cited here - and don't worry about the rest but stick with visiting when you're willing and able. |
Anonymous
| wow, that sounds awful. Not sure what you can say other than that you appreciate it is their dream house, but you have a job and such - and the bunk room sounds great for children, but anyone 12 or over needs more privacy? |
Anonymous
| Am I the only one that would look at it like camping? Bring a tent and sleep under the stars. Or rent an RV for the week for extra space and privacy. I think it could be a lot of fun! |