How do you get an affair/relationship started with another married person?

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[Post New]07/15/2018 07:44
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^^^ that is so ethically wrong! I bet this doctor does thiat stuff with other patients


Do you think he is testing the waters with me? Does this sound like more flirting than is normal?

When you say that he does that stuff with other patients, do you mean in a harmless way (as in him being over-friendly) or in a lecherous way? I'm having a very hard time reading this or figuring out how to take this to the next level. I am MASSIVELY attracted to this man and I talked to my husband and he agreed to an open relationship since our sex life has been non-existent for several years. I would even say something direct to this man...but will die of embarrassment if I've read this wrong and he's just being a harmless flirt with no intentions of it going anywhere.


Just say to your doctor, it's too bad I only see you in the office, how come I never run into you in the city? If he's interested, he will take it from there.
[Post New]07/15/2018 08:50
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:That is gross for the doctor to be doing that.


I'll call myself "DL." I don't feel that way. I absolutely welcome his attentions. I really feel drawn to and attracted to this guy.

Maybe I am fooling myself, but I feel we are just drawn to each other. The way you can fall for someone you meet in another capacity, I feel you can also fall for someone you have a professional relationship with. I feel life is too short to put professionalism before love. The only problem I would have would be if he were some sort of predator who specifically targeted me to toy with, and who tries this with multiple women at one time.

What do you all think? I need advice desperately. I do not want to miss an opportunity with this man. The sexual intensity between us is something I have not felt for years. I melt just thinking about him...
[Post New]07/15/2018 10:08
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is gross for the doctor to be doing that.


I'll call myself "DL." I don't feel that way. I absolutely welcome his attentions. I really feel drawn to and attracted to this guy.

Maybe I am fooling myself, but I feel we are just drawn to each other. The way you can fall for someone you meet in another capacity, I feel you can also fall for someone you have a professional relationship with. I feel life is too short to put professionalism before love. The only problem I would have would be if he were some sort of predator who specifically targeted me to toy with, and who tries this with multiple women at one time.

What do you all think? I need advice desperately. I do not want to miss an opportunity with this man. The sexual intensity between us is something I have not felt for years. I melt just thinking about him...


You must be a troll.
[Post New]07/15/2018 10:10
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is gross for the doctor to be doing that.


I'll call myself "DL." I don't feel that way. I absolutely welcome his attentions. I really feel drawn to and attracted to this guy.

Maybe I am fooling myself, but I feel we are just drawn to each other. The way you can fall for someone you meet in another capacity, I feel you can also fall for someone you have a professional relationship with. I feel life is too short to put professionalism before love. The only problem I would have would be if he were some sort of predator who specifically targeted me to toy with, and who tries this with multiple women at one time.

What do you all think? I need advice desperately. I do not want to miss an opportunity with this man. The sexual intensity between us is something I have not felt for years. I melt just thinking about him...


You must be a troll.


A troll or really, really dumb.

The Dr. Dude is dumb too. He could lose his license for crossing the line with some desperate married woman.
[Post New]07/15/2018 10:21
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^^^ that is so ethically wrong! I bet this doctor does thiat stuff with other patients


Do you think he is testing the waters with me? Does this sound like more flirting than is normal?

When you say that he does that stuff with other patients, do you mean in a harmless way (as in him being over-friendly) or in a lecherous way? I'm having a very hard time reading this or figuring out how to take this to the next level. I am MASSIVELY attracted to this man and I talked to my husband and he agreed to an open relationship since our sex life has been non-existent for several years. I would even say something direct to this man...but will die of embarrassment if I've read this wrong and he's just being a harmless flirt with no intentions of it going anywhere.


I have to ask...is this a doctor or a dentist?
[Post New]07/15/2018 11:21
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Anonymous
I am 100% not a troll, I am serious. I just called myself "DL" so you would know who was responding (since I am posting anonymously).

This is a doctor, not a dentist. And my questions are serious. I really, really like this guy and he seems to be flirting with me but I'm unsure how to proceed.
[Post New]07/15/2018 11:27
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I am 100% not a troll, I am serious. I just called myself "DL" so you would know who was responding (since I am posting anonymously).

This is a doctor, not a dentist. And my questions are serious. I really, really like this guy and he seems to be flirting with me but I'm unsure how to proceed.


Therefore, you must be dumb.

[Post New]07/15/2018 12:19
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Anonymous
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Therefore, you must be dumb.



If you'd like to answer my questions I am all ears; however, I ask that you do not insult me. By doing so, you come across as a troll yourself.

Please folks, I am seeking advice, and obviously there is no one else I can talk to about this.
[Post New]07/15/2018 13:15
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Anonymous
Are you willing to get a new doctor if you're wrong? Because you're probably wrong.
[Post New]07/15/2018 15:12
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I am 100% not a troll, I am serious. I just called myself "DL" so you would know who was responding (since I am posting anonymously).

This is a doctor, not a dentist. And my questions are serious. I really, really like this guy and he seems to be flirting with me but I'm unsure how to proceed.


Is he a GP or Gyno or what?

Does he have a wife and children? Drs that play around often do so with nurses they work with. Have you noticed the nurses in the office? Are they attractive?
[Post New]07/15/2018 17:00
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Anonymous
I'm sure lots of patients get crushes on doctors and they deal with that all the time.

But what happens if a dr develops feelings for a patient and that patient may have also? They don't do anything "wrong." The end the professional relationship.

People would judge them regardless if they did get together. Those judgments would be based on assumptions and not what really happened, because they don't have that information.
[Post New]07/15/2018 18:27
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Anonymous
If you are interested, give him your number. Tell him to recommend another doctor.
[Post New]07/15/2018 18:57
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Anonymous
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Does he have a wife and children? Drs that play around often do so with nurses they work with. Have you noticed the nurses in the office? Are they attractive?


He is married. Most of the office staff are men or unattractive women. There is one woman and she is reasonably attractive (not gorgeous or anything). He is married. I know this seems very wrong, but as someone in a sexless marriage for many years (and infrequent before that) my feelings about open monogamy and open relationships have changed.
[Post New]07/15/2018 18:59
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Anonymous
DL here. Sorry, I can't edit my last post. I meant to type that my feelings about monogamy and open relationships have changed.
[Post New]07/15/2018 20:57
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^^^ that is so ethically wrong! I bet this doctor does thiat stuff with other patients


Do you think he is testing the waters with me? Does this sound like more flirting than is normal?

When you say that he does that stuff with other patients, do you mean in a harmless way (as in him being over-friendly) or in a lecherous way? I'm having a very hard time reading this or figuring out how to take this to the next level. I am MASSIVELY attracted to this man and I talked to my husband and he agreed to an open relationship since our sex life has been non-existent for several years. I would even say something direct to this man...but will die of embarrassment if I've read this wrong and he's just being a harmless flirt with no intentions of it going anywhere.


Just say to your doctor, it's too bad I only see you in the office, how come I never run into you in the city? If he's interested, he will take it from there.


This is a good approach.

Just curious DL, how often do you see this doctor.? I rarely see any doctor more than twice in one year.
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