But where does it end? The child with the July birthday now has to go with your child who will be a year older than them. If the July child redshirts, now the June birthday will be the youngest. The only thing I have issue with is that it becomes an endless competition to not have the youngest child in the class. |
It used to be a badge of honour to skip a grade and be the youngest in the class. It meant that you where clever. Hit Shows like Young Sheldon glorify child prodigies who are accelerated. |
Ask the private school where your child is applying where it ends. They will have a crisp answer that aligns with their admissions policies. Goodness. It is absolutely remarkable how many people in this thread do not have a basic grasp of private school admissions and how they work. |
It ends because not all children would benefit from being 1 year older. There are plenty of kids that for whatever reason are ready to go to school and be the youngest. Maybe because they have older siblings, maybe because they matured earlier, maybe because they are only children, maybe because they are girls… it does not matter why. Just how there are many reasons why some kids are not ready and would benefit from waiting 1 year, there are just as many kids who would be bored and would not gain anything from waiting 1 year. That’s what is so great about giving parents the ability to choose. We know our kids best and we know what would benefit them the most. I redshirted my eldest DD form 6 days before cut off because she was immature, insecure and socially behind. I did not redshirt my second daughter because she was advanced in many ways, confident, independent and used to be around older kids. |
Lol and you’re qualified as an armchair internet troll on an anonymous forum? The bottom line of redshirting is that your kid is expected to be within a 12-16 month range of development. Research shows the disadvantage of being on the younger side of that spectrum. cry about it all you want, but parents who have the choice between their children being more at risk as the youngest are making the safe call by holding them to be older. |
Or maybe you had unrealistic ideas of what a five year old should look like. No five year old should be mature. |
Reaseach like that is skewed to the results the reacher and reader want. It’s not healthy to have an 18 month age range in a classroom and it harms the kids held back as they are not maturing and getting the skills they need. Their birthday is essentially being reduced by a year so the expectations are changed for them. If your kid needs to be held back you need to get them help. Preschool teachers are not qualified. They have no training at all. Our preschool missed huge red flags but thankfully I saw it and got my child help early. If your kids are at risk you get them help. This is not about the kids but parents gaming the system so their less smart kids will get into the privates, magnets and sports. |
I wish I had redshirted my early summer boy. Read the article called something like “Let’s Redshirt All the Boys.” I think it was in The Atlantic. |
I just posted that I wish I had redshirted. It is not about wanting to game the system. It’s about his brain having time to catch up with his body. |
So you’re telling me that it’s okay to compare a January 1st, 2018 baby to a December 31st, 2018 baby and if the 12/31 baby needs to be held back because at a full year younger than the 1/1 baby, they have a special need? How do you not see the idiocy of the point you keep trying (and failing) to make? In addition, no one here invented redshirting. Everyone who has a young child will have to deal with many kids in the grade who are 12+ older than theirs. They have to make the same decision to avoid it. |
No, I didn’t. She was fine academically. She followed direction, she listened to the teacher, she was very well behaved. She, however, had trouble with friends. It was really heartbreaking to see how “behind” she was and how much that made her suffer. There are plenty of 5 year old “mean” girls in K. Allowing my DD to be among the oldest (never actually been the oldest in the class) gave her the confidence she needed and the time to catch up to be a PEER. It was the best choice for her. Could she do more academically than she is doing now? Yes… she is advanced in her class which means that she would have been 100% academically 1 year ahead, but at what cost? Her happiness? I don’t care… she is happy and well adjusted now with a solid group of friends. That was all I cared about… not give her some sort of academic advantage. |
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Also, the youngest girl in the k class my daughter attended, ended up being 10 months younger than my DD. I think there was an 11 month spread in K and there has never been a student a whole year younger than my DD. Redshirting her did not change the “traditional” class set up at all |
The natural law troll would insist that the only group that it is acceptable to compare The 12/31/18 baby is everyone also born in 2018. Apparently the 1/1/19 baby, born a day later, is not a peer, and they have nothing in common. Your peer can only be younger than you. How convenient for all the January 2018 babies and how incredibly inconvenient to the December 2018 babies. But tough shit for those 5 year olds! Sink or swim! |
Oops, a peer can only be older! Never a +/- 12 months. |