Conservative DCUM'ers: how far back do you want LGBTQ rights rolled back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:1) Leave the kids alone

2) Don’t ask me to “affirm” your delusions

3) Leave the kids alone

Leave the trans kids alone.

Stop thinking about children's genitals.

Leave the trans kids alone.

Sorry but there is no such thing as a naturally born trans kid.

Sorry, but no one knows what causes people to be trans. My guess it's a genetic predisposition along with hormones in the womb.

Your “guess?” Laughable. It’s 100% social contagion

It's scary. One day you too may catch it.

I won’t because I’m a sane and rational person. But many kids are vulnerable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) Leave the kids alone

2) Don’t ask me to “affirm” your delusions

3) Leave the kids alone

Leave the trans kids alone.

Stop thinking about children's genitals.

Leave the trans kids alone.

Sorry but there is no such thing as a naturally born trans kid.

Sorry, but no one knows what causes people to be trans. My guess it's a genetic predisposition along with hormones in the womb.

Your “guess?” Laughable. It’s 100% social contagion

It's scary. One day you too may catch it.

True. How do we know what our gender really is? If it is just a social construct, can we even have a gender? And if it requires society to recognize, shouldn't our gender be a mutual agreement between the individual and society? Points to ponder, now that we know that biology and sex are completely unrelated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) Leave the kids alone

2) Don’t ask me to “affirm” your delusions

3) Leave the kids alone

Leave the trans kids alone.

Stop thinking about children's genitals.

Leave the trans kids alone.

Sorry but there is no such thing as a naturally born trans kid.

Sorry, but no one knows what causes people to be trans. My guess it's a genetic predisposition along with hormones in the womb.

Your “guess?” Laughable. It’s 100% social contagion

It's scary. One day you too may catch it.

True. How do we know what our gender really is? If it is just a social construct, can we even have a gender? And if it requires society to recognize, shouldn't our gender be a mutual agreement between the individual and society? Points to ponder, now that we know that biology and sex are completely unrelated.

Uh-oh, you're catching the trans right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely curious what the ultimate objective of the DeSantis wing is regarding LGBTQ people. Are you really a libertarian "I don't care what consenting adults do" as long as it isn't discussed in the school system? Or do you think that the LGBTQ lifestyle itself is detrimental to national identity? Are you in favor of abolishing the right to gay marriage? Or making homosexuality a crime? It does feel that something changed recently and this is the first Pride month since the late 1990's where corporations and local governments seem to be afraid to wave the rainbow flag.

Not a Republican nor a Democrat; however, I and all my friends and acquaintances (of both parties); don't want any LGBTQ rights rolled back. Everyone in the LGBTQ community should have the same rights as everyone else. We just ask that schools leave our kids alone. We want our teachers to teach reading, math, science, and history. We do not want them teaching our kids, especially the young ones, that they can easily change their gender. That's none of the school's business. That's our business, not yours.

[Anonymous]

NP. I want transwomen out of women's spaces, and I vote Democrat.

I am done with this woke gender cult and its constant gaslighting of women.

Frankly, the entire trans ideology and fake nonbinary ideology is built on sexist stereotypes about "femininity" and it needs to go.

I support lesbians and gays, but I don't believe "nonbinary" is a real identity and I think most trans people are brainwashed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thing is, if your promotion of trans rights means that you favor removing women’s ability to create and maintain single sex-based rights, you are therefore in favor of removing rights that women have historically fought for at tremendous cost. Women in the US have been killed, been raped, been assaulted, and been subjected to horrific violence to protect their hard-earned sex-based rights, which grew out of many years of sex-based oppression.

You can’t expect people to just happily accept destruction of sex-based rights. Therefore, you see a lot of pushback. If trans rights were just accretive to society and didn’t come with cost to women’s sex-based rights, I don’t think there would be much pushback at all.

Beautifully stated, but your plain logic is as wasted on these people as it would be on evangelical Christians. They demand “no debate” so stop trying to debate the unreasonable and join with everyone else in voting their agenda away. There are more of us (people who think the trans agenda is destructive, predatory, and corrosive) than they are of them. If we stop letting them emotionally blackmail us with the nonexistent “genocide” they’re facing and shake off their parasitic attempts at forced teaming, they’ll be over very quickly. Honestly, all we have to do stand aside and let the Republicans handle them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The actual risk of an assault in a women's bathroom or locker room is minuscule but I think the problem is women not feeling comfortable in the space. For example, how many mothers would feel comfortable if they saw a 6'2" transwoman going into a bathroom or locker room where their 10 year old daughter is? How many mothers do you think would feel comfortable having their daughter and even themselves undress and change in a locker room that is no longer a female only space? I've heard stories of women who won't use gym locker rooms anymore because they don't feel comfortable and will wait until they are home to change. This is the reality of these policies. Women will feel driven out of their own spaces.

This is ridiculous. The vast majority of women will never come in contact with a trans person. It’s a small percentage of the population. How could a population that small drive out the overwhelming number of CIS women?! Your numbers and panic make zero sense. You need to find a real problem.

This is an argument in bad faith. The issue isnt primarily that truly trans women will assault women and girls. You know that. The issue is that there is now no definition of "woman" and any man can enter spaces that used to be for women. And men rape at much higher rates, and they seek women who are vulnerable due to location, intoxication, etc. Women want to be able to enter, for example, the gym locker room without fear.

I work out in a secluded gym with no staff. You just badge in. The locker rooms have badge entries, but we have tested and men's badges are coded to give them access to the women's locker room. I still work out there. But I'm scared every time I go into the locker room. This is the issue. I'm not scared of trans women. I'm scared of men.

This kind of fear is legitimate. I had a friend who was raped in a bar bathroom, by a stranger, when I was in college. Ever since, I’ve been slightly nervous in setting like isolated public bathrooms.

The thing is, my friend’s rape was by a cos man. I would wager all or very nearly all attacks like this are by cis men. They have absolutely no reason to go through the trouble of disguising themselves as women because they can just take advantage of isolation, greater physical strength, lack of belief in/care about women victims, and everything else they’ve always used as weapons. Why go through an elaborate ruse? Your enemy isn’t trans women.

It’s also true that some public places have taken really misguided steps to make their spaces more gender-inclusive. Your gym’s badge system may be one of them, it may be to let employees in to opposite-gender spaces for repair or emergencies, or it may just be an oversight. I’ve seen gender-neutral bathrooms that also raise risks for women — eg, they make one big enclosed room with gender-neutral stalls and shared sink space. I was in one like that at the Navy Yards Whole Foods where the only occupants were me and a cis man, side by side at the sinks, and given my friend’s story I was extremely uncomfortable. But, again, situations like that aren’t the fault of trans women (and trans men) or non-binary people or whoever for existing and having needs. They’re the fault of companies that are doing a crappy job of finding solutions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The actual risk of an assault in a women's bathroom or locker room is minuscule but I think the problem is women not feeling comfortable in the space. For example, how many mothers would feel comfortable if they saw a 6'2" transwoman going into a bathroom or locker room where their 10 year old daughter is? How many mothers do you think would feel comfortable having their daughter and even themselves undress and change in a locker room that is no longer a female only space? I've heard stories of women who won't use gym locker rooms anymore because they don't feel comfortable and will wait until they are home to change. This is the reality of these policies. Women will feel driven out of their own spaces.

This is ridiculous. The vast majority of women will never come in contact with a trans person. It’s a small percentage of the population. How could a population that small drive out the overwhelming number of CIS women?! Your numbers and panic make zero sense. You need to find a real problem.

This is an argument in bad faith. The issue isnt primarily that truly trans women will assault women and girls. You know that. The issue is that there is now no definition of "woman" and any man can enter spaces that used to be for women. And men rape at much higher rates, and they seek women who are vulnerable due to location, intoxication, etc. Women want to be able to enter, for example, the gym locker room without fear.

I work out in a secluded gym with no staff. You just badge in. The locker rooms have badge entries, but we have tested and men's badges are coded to give them access to the women's locker room. I still work out there. But I'm scared every time I go into the locker room. This is the issue. I'm not scared of trans women. I'm scared of men.

This kind of fear is legitimate. I had a friend who was raped in a bar bathroom, by a stranger, when I was in college. Ever since, I’ve been slightly nervous in setting like isolated public bathrooms.

The thing is, my friend’s rape was by a cos man. I would wager all or very nearly all attacks like this are by cis men. They have absolutely no reason to go through the trouble of disguising themselves as women because they can just take advantage of isolation, greater physical strength, lack of belief in/care about women victims, and everything else they’ve always used as weapons. Why go through an elaborate ruse? Your enemy isn’t trans women.

It’s also true that some public places have taken really misguided steps to make their spaces more gender-inclusive. Your gym’s badge system may be one of them, it may be to let employees in to opposite-gender spaces for repair or emergencies, or it may just be an oversight. I’ve seen gender-neutral bathrooms that also raise risks for women — eg, they make one big enclosed room with gender-neutral stalls and shared sink space. I was in one like that at the Navy Yards Whole Foods where the only occupants were me and a cis man, side by side at the sinks, and given my friend’s story I was extremely uncomfortable. But, again, situations like that aren’t the fault of trans women (and trans men) or non-binary people or whoever for existing and having needs. They’re the fault of companies that are doing a crappy job of finding solutions.

How do you know that a “cis” man committed the rape? Did you ask his gender identity?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The actual risk of an assault in a women's bathroom or locker room is minuscule but I think the problem is women not feeling comfortable in the space. For example, how many mothers would feel comfortable if they saw a 6'2" transwoman going into a bathroom or locker room where their 10 year old daughter is? How many mothers do you think would feel comfortable having their daughter and even themselves undress and change in a locker room that is no longer a female only space? I've heard stories of women who won't use gym locker rooms anymore because they don't feel comfortable and will wait until they are home to change. This is the reality of these policies. Women will feel driven out of their own spaces.

This is ridiculous. The vast majority of women will never come in contact with a trans person. It’s a small percentage of the population. How could a population that small drive out the overwhelming number of CIS women?! Your numbers and panic make zero sense. You need to find a real problem.

This is an argument in bad faith. The issue isnt primarily that truly trans women will assault women and girls. You know that. The issue is that there is now no definition of "woman" and any man can enter spaces that used to be for women. And men rape at much higher rates, and they seek women who are vulnerable due to location, intoxication, etc. Women want to be able to enter, for example, the gym locker room without fear.

I work out in a secluded gym with no staff. You just badge in. The locker rooms have badge entries, but we have tested and men's badges are coded to give them access to the women's locker room. I still work out there. But I'm scared every time I go into the locker room. This is the issue. I'm not scared of trans women. I'm scared of men.

This kind of fear is legitimate. I had a friend who was raped in a bar bathroom, by a stranger, when I was in college. Ever since, I’ve been slightly nervous in setting like isolated public bathrooms.

The thing is, my friend’s rape was by a cos man. I would wager all or very nearly all attacks like this are by cis men. They have absolutely no reason to go through the trouble of disguising themselves as women because they can just take advantage of isolation, greater physical strength, lack of belief in/care about women victims, and everything else they’ve always used as weapons. Why go through an elaborate ruse? Your enemy isn’t trans women.

It’s also true that some public places have taken really misguided steps to make their spaces more gender-inclusive. Your gym’s badge system may be one of them, it may be to let employees in to opposite-gender spaces for repair or emergencies, or it may just be an oversight. I’ve seen gender-neutral bathrooms that also raise risks for women — eg, they make one big enclosed room with gender-neutral stalls and shared sink space. I was in one like that at the Navy Yards Whole Foods where the only occupants were me and a cis man, side by side at the sinks, and given my friend’s story I was extremely uncomfortable. But, again, situations like that aren’t the fault of trans women (and trans men) or non-binary people or whoever for existing and having needs. They’re the fault of companies that are doing a crappy job of finding solutions.

What’s the difference between a “cis” man, and the same man who then claims to be trans?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The actual risk of an assault in a women's bathroom or locker room is minuscule but I think the problem is women not feeling comfortable in the space. For example, how many mothers would feel comfortable if they saw a 6'2" transwoman going into a bathroom or locker room where their 10 year old daughter is? How many mothers do you think would feel comfortable having their daughter and even themselves undress and change in a locker room that is no longer a female only space? I've heard stories of women who won't use gym locker rooms anymore because they don't feel comfortable and will wait until they are home to change. This is the reality of these policies. Women will feel driven out of their own spaces.

This is ridiculous. The vast majority of women will never come in contact with a trans person. It’s a small percentage of the population. How could a population that small drive out the overwhelming number of CIS women?! Your numbers and panic make zero sense. You need to find a real problem.

This is an argument in bad faith. The issue isnt primarily that truly trans women will assault women and girls. You know that. The issue is that there is now no definition of "woman" and any man can enter spaces that used to be for women. And men rape at much higher rates, and they seek women who are vulnerable due to location, intoxication, etc. Women want to be able to enter, for example, the gym locker room without fear.

I work out in a secluded gym with no staff. You just badge in. The locker rooms have badge entries, but we have tested and men's badges are coded to give them access to the women's locker room. I still work out there. But I'm scared every time I go into the locker room. This is the issue. I'm not scared of trans women. I'm scared of men.

This kind of fear is legitimate. I had a friend who was raped in a bar bathroom, by a stranger, when I was in college. Ever since, I’ve been slightly nervous in setting like isolated public bathrooms.

The thing is, my friend’s rape was by a cos man. I would wager all or very nearly all attacks like this are by cis men. They have absolutely no reason to go through the trouble of disguising themselves as women because they can just take advantage of isolation, greater physical strength, lack of belief in/care about women victims, and everything else they’ve always used as weapons. Why go through an elaborate ruse? Your enemy isn’t trans women.

It’s also true that some public places have taken really misguided steps to make their spaces more gender-inclusive. Your gym’s badge system may be one of them, it may be to let employees in to opposite-gender spaces for repair or emergencies, or it may just be an oversight. I’ve seen gender-neutral bathrooms that also raise risks for women — eg, they make one big enclosed room with gender-neutral stalls and shared sink space. I was in one like that at the Navy Yards Whole Foods where the only occupants were me and a cis man, side by side at the sinks, and given my friend’s story I was extremely uncomfortable. But, again, situations like that aren’t the fault of trans women (and trans men) or non-binary people or whoever for existing and having needs. They’re the fault of companies that are doing a crappy job of finding solutions.

This is religion. Nevermind the MANY examples of men who claim to be “trans” attacking, raping, murdering women, you literally believe that once a man claims to be “trans” then he is cleansed of the predatory nature that leads men to commit 97% of physical and sexual assaults against women and he suddenly loses awareness of the obvious physical disparity between himself and real women that make real women sitting ducks for him. This is on par with the Christian belief that repeating John 3:16 automatically cleanses you of all sin.

Your religious belief is not a legitimate basis to reorganize society. You have every right to believe demonstrably false nonsense and we have every right to reject your attempt to force a theocracy on the rest of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The actual risk of an assault in a women's bathroom or locker room is minuscule but I think the problem is women not feeling comfortable in the space. For example, how many mothers would feel comfortable if they saw a 6'2" transwoman going into a bathroom or locker room where their 10 year old daughter is? How many mothers do you think would feel comfortable having their daughter and even themselves undress and change in a locker room that is no longer a female only space? I've heard stories of women who won't use gym locker rooms anymore because they don't feel comfortable and will wait until they are home to change. This is the reality of these policies. Women will feel driven out of their own spaces.

This is ridiculous. The vast majority of women will never come in contact with a trans person. It’s a small percentage of the population. How could a population that small drive out the overwhelming number of CIS women?! Your numbers and panic make zero sense. You need to find a real problem.

This is an argument in bad faith. The issue isnt primarily that truly trans women will assault women and girls. You know that. The issue is that there is now no definition of "woman" and any man can enter spaces that used to be for women. And men rape at much higher rates, and they seek women who are vulnerable due to location, intoxication, etc. Women want to be able to enter, for example, the gym locker room without fear.

I work out in a secluded gym with no staff. You just badge in. The locker rooms have badge entries, but we have tested and men's badges are coded to give them access to the women's locker room. I still work out there. But I'm scared every time I go into the locker room. This is the issue. I'm not scared of trans women. I'm scared of men.

This kind of fear is legitimate. I had a friend who was raped in a bar bathroom, by a stranger, when I was in college. Ever since, I’ve been slightly nervous in setting like isolated public bathrooms.

The thing is, my friend’s rape was by a cos man. I would wager all or very nearly all attacks like this are by cis men. They have absolutely no reason to go through the trouble of disguising themselves as women because they can just take advantage of isolation, greater physical strength, lack of belief in/care about women victims, and everything else they’ve always used as weapons. Why go through an elaborate ruse? Your enemy isn’t trans women.

It’s also true that some public places have taken really misguided steps to make their spaces more gender-inclusive. Your gym’s badge system may be one of them, it may be to let employees in to opposite-gender spaces for repair or emergencies, or it may just be an oversight. I’ve seen gender-neutral bathrooms that also raise risks for women — eg, they make one big enclosed room with gender-neutral stalls and shared sink space. I was in one like that at the Navy Yards Whole Foods where the only occupants were me and a cis man, side by side at the sinks, and given my friend’s story I was extremely uncomfortable. But, again, situations like that aren’t the fault of trans women (and trans men) or non-binary people or whoever for existing and having needs. They’re the fault of companies that are doing a crappy job of finding solutions.

What’s the difference between a “cis” man, and the same man who then claims to be trans?

Gender dysphoria and medical transition. Since this is DC and 1 in 33 people are trans, you probably see trans women all the time and can't even tell. That person next to you on the Metro might be a trans woman. Scary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Transgender people are so new. One wrote this in the 14th century.
https://opensiddur.org/prayers/civic-calendar/international-civil-calendar/transgender-day-of-visibility/prayer-of-kalonymus-from-sefer-even-bohan-1322/

And of course there's the Roman emperor Elagabalus who offered money if someone could find a way to allow him to transition.

All this proves is that gender non-conforming men and men with gender dysphoria have long existed.

It does NOT prove that trans women are actually women and should have access to women’s spaces and sports as a matter of right. THAT key lie and power grab that your movement keeps trying to sneak on society is why you have met with backlash. A gender dysphoric male remains a male whether or not he likes it.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The actual risk of an assault in a women's bathroom or locker room is minuscule but I think the problem is women not feeling comfortable in the space. For example, how many mothers would feel comfortable if they saw a 6'2" transwoman going into a bathroom or locker room where their 10 year old daughter is? How many mothers do you think would feel comfortable having their daughter and even themselves undress and change in a locker room that is no longer a female only space? I've heard stories of women who won't use gym locker rooms anymore because they don't feel comfortable and will wait until they are home to change. This is the reality of these policies. Women will feel driven out of their own spaces.

This is ridiculous. The vast majority of women will never come in contact with a trans person. It’s a small percentage of the population. How could a population that small drive out the overwhelming number of CIS women?! Your numbers and panic make zero sense. You need to find a real problem.

This is an argument in bad faith. The issue isnt primarily that truly trans women will assault women and girls. You know that. The issue is that there is now no definition of "woman" and any man can enter spaces that used to be for women. And men rape at much higher rates, and they seek women who are vulnerable due to location, intoxication, etc. Women want to be able to enter, for example, the gym locker room without fear.

I work out in a secluded gym with no staff. You just badge in. The locker rooms have badge entries, but we have tested and men's badges are coded to give them access to the women's locker room. I still work out there. But I'm scared every time I go into the locker room. This is the issue. I'm not scared of trans women. I'm scared of men.

This kind of fear is legitimate. I had a friend who was raped in a bar bathroom, by a stranger, when I was in college. Ever since, I’ve been slightly nervous in setting like isolated public bathrooms.

The thing is, my friend’s rape was by a cos man. I would wager all or very nearly all attacks like this are by cis men. They have absolutely no reason to go through the trouble of disguising themselves as women because they can just take advantage of isolation, greater physical strength, lack of belief in/care about women victims, and everything else they’ve always used as weapons. Why go through an elaborate ruse? Your enemy isn’t trans women.

It’s also true that some public places have taken really misguided steps to make their spaces more gender-inclusive. Your gym’s badge system may be one of them, it may be to let employees in to opposite-gender spaces for repair or emergencies, or it may just be an oversight. I’ve seen gender-neutral bathrooms that also raise risks for women — eg, they make one big enclosed room with gender-neutral stalls and shared sink space. I was in one like that at the Navy Yards Whole Foods where the only occupants were me and a cis man, side by side at the sinks, and given my friend’s story I was extremely uncomfortable. But, again, situations like that aren’t the fault of trans women (and trans men) or non-binary people or whoever for existing and having needs. They’re the fault of companies that are doing a crappy job of finding solutions.

What’s the difference between a “cis” man, and the same man who then claims to be trans?

Gender dysphoria and medical transition. Since this is DC and 1 in 33 people are trans, you probably see trans women all the time and can't even tell. That person next to you on the Metro might be a trans woman. Scary.

Try again. According to your movement, a man is trans as soon as he identifies as such, without any medical transition. So, again, what is the difference between a “cis” man, and the same man who then claims to be trans?

[Anonymous]

I don't care what other people do for the most part. I just want biological men to stay out of our locker rooms and sports (Safety issues! And I have PTSD from being raped so I don't want men near me in such vulnerable places). I also don't want ideology pushed on my children in public schools or through big library displays in the children's section. If John and James want to get married, go for it. There's no reason for my 2nd grader to know what a drag queen is. If a man wants to dress up to read to kids, he can dress up like a pirate and read a pirate story. Dressing like a deranged parody of a woman to read a book is nothing more than involving children in his fetish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The actual risk of an assault in a women's bathroom or locker room is minuscule but I think the problem is women not feeling comfortable in the space. For example, how many mothers would feel comfortable if they saw a 6'2" transwoman going into a bathroom or locker room where their 10 year old daughter is? How many mothers do you think would feel comfortable having their daughter and even themselves undress and change in a locker room that is no longer a female only space? I've heard stories of women who won't use gym locker rooms anymore because they don't feel comfortable and will wait until they are home to change. This is the reality of these policies. Women will feel driven out of their own spaces.

This is ridiculous. The vast majority of women will never come in contact with a trans person. It’s a small percentage of the population. How could a population that small drive out the overwhelming number of CIS women?! Your numbers and panic make zero sense. You need to find a real problem.

This is an argument in bad faith. The issue isnt primarily that truly trans women will assault women and girls. You know that. The issue is that there is now no definition of "woman" and any man can enter spaces that used to be for women. And men rape at much higher rates, and they seek women who are vulnerable due to location, intoxication, etc. Women want to be able to enter, for example, the gym locker room without fear.

I work out in a secluded gym with no staff. You just badge in. The locker rooms have badge entries, but we have tested and men's badges are coded to give them access to the women's locker room. I still work out there. But I'm scared every time I go into the locker room. This is the issue. I'm not scared of trans women. I'm scared of men.

This kind of fear is legitimate. I had a friend who was raped in a bar bathroom, by a stranger, when I was in college. Ever since, I’ve been slightly nervous in setting like isolated public bathrooms.

The thing is, my friend’s rape was by a cos man. I would wager all or very nearly all attacks like this are by cis men. They have absolutely no reason to go through the trouble of disguising themselves as women because they can just take advantage of isolation, greater physical strength, lack of belief in/care about women victims, and everything else they’ve always used as weapons. Why go through an elaborate ruse? Your enemy isn’t trans women.

It’s also true that some public places have taken really misguided steps to make their spaces more gender-inclusive. Your gym’s badge system may be one of them, it may be to let employees in to opposite-gender spaces for repair or emergencies, or it may just be an oversight. I’ve seen gender-neutral bathrooms that also raise risks for women — eg, they make one big enclosed room with gender-neutral stalls and shared sink space. I was in one like that at the Navy Yards Whole Foods where the only occupants were me and a cis man, side by side at the sinks, and given my friend’s story I was extremely uncomfortable. But, again, situations like that aren’t the fault of trans women (and trans men) or non-binary people or whoever for existing and having needs. They’re the fault of companies that are doing a crappy job of finding solutions.

What’s the difference between a “cis” man, and the same man who then claims to be trans?

Gender dysphoria and medical transition. Since this is DC and 1 in 33 people are trans, you probably see trans women all the time and can't even tell. That person next to you on the Metro might be a trans woman. Scary.

Then why are there people who claim it's intolerant to say you need to have dysphoria to be trans? And many trans people never pursue medical transition.