For those of you whose parents divorced when you were 20+, if one of your parents started a second

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

My husband would have gladly had full custody but that’s not how things work. His ex took the kids and ran away cross country with her ap while he was at work. And, no he could not just up and move or he’d be court marshal led. See how that works.

He had recourse. He could have filed an emergency custody order. There is a nationwide law about this and she would have been forced to move back unless he was physically abusing her and the kids. Your DH is a bag of lies and excuses.
I can’t believe you actually believe this story. It’s not how the court system works.

NP here. He might have been an absent father to his first set of kids and he's an involved father to the second wife's kids. Biologically, a man's bond with his children is very much influenced by the relationship with the mom. We were in a very different situation (my dad was a widower with two kids when he married my mom) and he's much more involved with us, even as adults.

Nah. Most of it just age.

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It’s very sad to see all these second wives waving their superiority over the first wife. The point of the OP, and many others, is that kids from the first family wind up with short shrift, and as the father redirects his love and attention, the kids are shut out.

I’ve heard fathers say: I messed up before and I’m going to get it right this time. The first set of kids are a reminder of the father’s faults and easier to drop than face.
This is not the children’s fault. Stop glowing over their misfortune.
To say it doesn’t/shouldn’t matter to them shows a level of self-centeredness that negates your credibility on everything else. They are still his kids.

In circumstances where the second wife shows some genuine heart toward the children from the previous marriage, even adult children, things are likely to go a whole lot better.

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Anonymous wrote:family, what was that like?

I am in this boat now and it’s happening really fast. My parents were married for 30 years, then the divorce -> dad’s second wife (my “stepmom”) about to have her baby happened in a 5 year period. Should I be happy?

I'm sorry. Sending hugs as that has to be incredibly difficult.

I would not be pleased, that's for sure.

Good God! Jill Biden is a second wife and had another baby. Her daughter seems just fine

With a widower, not someone who walked out on a 30 year marriage and immediately started another family. Get a clue.

Stop being stupid. Read the thread. You have all claimed that men should not have any more children. And it's not men who always walk out on marriages

He didn’t abandon his kids with their mother. His new wife treated them like her own. Totally different.

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Anonymous wrote:family, what was that like?

I am in this boat now and it’s happening really fast. My parents were married for 30 years, then the divorce -> dad’s second wife (my “stepmom”) about to have her baby happened in a 5 year period. Should I be happy?

I'm sorry. Sending hugs as that has to be incredibly difficult.

I would not be pleased, that's for sure.

Good God! Jill Biden is a second wife and had another baby. Her daughter seems just fine

With a widower, not someone who walked out on a 30 year marriage and immediately started another family. Get a clue.

Stop being stupid. Read the thread. You have all claimed that men should not have any more children. And it's not men who always walk out on marriages

He didn’t abandon his kids with their mother. His new wife treated them like her own. Totally different.

So in this scenario it's justified to have another child? But not if there is a divorce?
Stop accusing dads of abandoning kids because they choose to remarry after a divorce.
Talk so much nonsense

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Anonymous wrote:family, what was that like?

I am in this boat now and it’s happening really fast. My parents were married for 30 years, then the divorce -> dad’s second wife (my “stepmom”) about to have her baby happened in a 5 year period. Should I be happy?

I'm sorry. Sending hugs as that has to be incredibly difficult.

I would not be pleased, that's for sure.

Good God! Jill Biden is a second wife and had another baby. Her daughter seems just fine

With a widower, not someone who walked out on a 30 year marriage and immediately started another family. Get a clue.

Stop being stupid. Read the thread. You have all claimed that men should not have any more children. And it's not men who always walk out on marriages

He didn’t abandon his kids with their mother. His new wife treated them like her own. Totally different.

So in this scenario it's justified to have another child? But not if there is a divorce?
Stop accusing dads of abandoning kids because they choose to remarry after a divorce.
Talk so much nonsense

Of course not all dads abandon their kid when they remarry. And not only widows. There are dads who take 50/50 custody and continue to have deep, meaningful relationships with their older kids.

I can tell you this though. No father like that would EVER claim that having more kids later had no impact on their older kids’ lives. They know it will because they have real relationships with their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:family, what was that like?

I am in this boat now and it’s happening really fast. My parents were married for 30 years, then the divorce -> dad’s second wife (my “stepmom”) about to have her baby happened in a 5 year period. Should I be happy?

I'm sorry. Sending hugs as that has to be incredibly difficult.

I would not be pleased, that's for sure.

Good God! Jill Biden is a second wife and had another baby. Her daughter seems just fine

With a widower, not someone who walked out on a 30 year marriage and immediately started another family. Get a clue.

Stop being stupid. Read the thread. You have all claimed that men should not have any more children. And it's not men who always walk out on marriages

He didn’t abandon his kids with their mother. His new wife treated them like her own. Totally different.

So in this scenario it's justified to have another child? But not if there is a divorce?
Stop accusing dads of abandoning kids because they choose to remarry after a divorce.
Talk so much nonsense

Of course not all dads abandon their kid when they remarry. And not only widows. There are dads who take 50/50 custody and continue to have deep, meaningful relationships with their older kids.

I can tell you this though. No father like that would EVER claim that having more kids later had no impact on their older kids’ lives. They know it will because they have real relationships with their kids.

Then by your logic moms shouldn't have any more kids after divorce

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Anonymous wrote:family, what was that like?

I am in this boat now and it’s happening really fast. My parents were married for 30 years, then the divorce -> dad’s second wife (my “stepmom”) about to have her baby happened in a 5 year period. Should I be happy?

I'm sorry. Sending hugs as that has to be incredibly difficult.

I would not be pleased, that's for sure.

Good God! Jill Biden is a second wife and had another baby. Her daughter seems just fine

With a widower, not someone who walked out on a 30 year marriage and immediately started another family. Get a clue.

Stop being stupid. Read the thread. You have all claimed that men should not have any more children. And it's not men who always walk out on marriages

He didn’t abandon his kids with their mother. His new wife treated them like her own. Totally different.

So in this scenario it's justified to have another child? But not if there is a divorce?
Stop accusing dads of abandoning kids because they choose to remarry after a divorce.
Talk so much nonsense

Of course not all dads abandon their kid when they remarry. And not only widows. There are dads who take 50/50 custody and continue to have deep, meaningful relationships with their older kids.

I can tell you this though. No father like that would EVER claim that having more kids later had no impact on their older kids’ lives. They know it will because they have real relationships with their kids.

Then by your logic moms shouldn't have any more kids after divorce

That’s the exact opposite of what I just said. It’s fine to have more kids if you take incredible care not to abandon the older kids. It would probably be better if you didn’t, and no good parent would pretend it will have no impact at all on older kids, but it can be done well. But a bunch of stepmoms in this thread have been modeling why it’s so hard to do well.

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Anonymous wrote:family, what was that like?

I am in this boat now and it’s happening really fast. My parents were married for 30 years, then the divorce -> dad’s second wife (my “stepmom”) about to have her baby happened in a 5 year period. Should I be happy?

I'm sorry. Sending hugs as that has to be incredibly difficult.

I would not be pleased, that's for sure.

Good God! Jill Biden is a second wife and had another baby. Her daughter seems just fine

With a widower, not someone who walked out on a 30 year marriage and immediately started another family. Get a clue.

Stop being stupid. Read the thread. You have all claimed that men should not have any more children. And it's not men who always walk out on marriages

He didn’t abandon his kids with their mother. His new wife treated them like her own. Totally different.

So in this scenario it's justified to have another child? But not if there is a divorce?
Stop accusing dads of abandoning kids because they choose to remarry after a divorce.
Talk so much nonsense

Of course not all dads abandon their kid when they remarry. And not only widows. There are dads who take 50/50 custody and continue to have deep, meaningful relationships with their older kids.

I can tell you this though. No father like that would EVER claim that having more kids later had no impact on their older kids’ lives. They know it will because they have real relationships with their kids.

Then by your logic moms shouldn't have any more kids after divorce

That’s the exact opposite of what I just said. It’s fine to have more kids if you take incredible care not to abandon the older kids. It would probably be better if you didn’t, and no good parent would pretend it will have no impact at all on older kids, but it can be done well. But a bunch of stepmoms in this thread have been modeling why it’s so hard to do well.

Actually I would say the opposite a bunch of first wives and kids have shown us how impossible it is for second wives and new kids. The greed is just disgusting.

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.

Does that make you feel better? Is that how you justified it your kids? When you denied them a relationship with their father so you could collect your child support check

Okay. Let’s say your spouse lost his mind and fled with your kids. He took them out of state or out of country or whatever it is you understand his ex to have done. What would you do? What if you talked to 5 lawyers who told you to just accept you’ll never see your kids again? You’d just accept it? I doubt it. It’s the rare mom who would. You’d probably move heaven and earth to make sure you were as close to your kids as possible as much as possible, right?

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.

Does that make you feel better? Is that how you justified it your kids? When you denied them a relationship with their father so you could collect your child support check

Okay. Let’s say your spouse lost his mind and fled with your kids. He took them out of state or out of country or whatever it is you understand his ex to have done. What would you do? What if you talked to 5 lawyers who told you to just accept you’ll never see your kids again? You’d just accept it? I doubt it. It’s the rare mom who would. You’d probably move heaven and earth to make sure you were as close to your kids as possible as much as possible, right?

Again if you are military and at war tell him which judge would grant you custody ? Especially if the mom is foreign and jurisdiction for child related issues falls there

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Anonymous wrote:family, what was that like?

I am in this boat now and it’s happening really fast. My parents were married for 30 years, then the divorce -> dad’s second wife (my “stepmom”) about to have her baby happened in a 5 year period. Should I be happy?

I'm sorry. Sending hugs as that has to be incredibly difficult.

I would not be pleased, that's for sure.

Good God! Jill Biden is a second wife and had another baby. Her daughter seems just fine

With a widower, not someone who walked out on a 30 year marriage and immediately started another family. Get a clue.

Stop being stupid. Read the thread. You have all claimed that men should not have any more children. And it's not men who always walk out on marriages

He didn’t abandon his kids with their mother. His new wife treated them like her own. Totally different.

So in this scenario it's justified to have another child? But not if there is a divorce?
Stop accusing dads of abandoning kids because they choose to remarry after a divorce.
Talk so much nonsense

Of course not all dads abandon their kid when they remarry. And not only widows. There are dads who take 50/50 custody and continue to have deep, meaningful relationships with their older kids.

I can tell you this though. No father like that would EVER claim that having more kids later had no impact on their older kids’ lives. They know it will because they have real relationships with their kids.

Then by your logic moms shouldn't have any more kids after divorce

That’s the exact opposite of what I just said. It’s fine to have more kids if you take incredible care not to abandon the older kids. It would probably be better if you didn’t, and no good parent would pretend it will have no impact at all on older kids, but it can be done well. But a bunch of stepmoms in this thread have been modeling why it’s so hard to do well.

It doesn't matter. Men have been having kids with second wives for forever and nobody asked the older kids' permission.

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Holy dysfunction. If I were part of 95% of the families discussed here, I’d be in therapy.

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.

Does that make you feel better? Is that how you justified it your kids? When you denied them a relationship with their father so you could collect your child support check

Okay. Let’s say your spouse lost his mind and fled with your kids. He took them out of state or out of country or whatever it is you understand his ex to have done. What would you do? What if you talked to 5 lawyers who told you to just accept you’ll never see your kids again? You’d just accept it? I doubt it. It’s the rare mom who would. You’d probably move heaven and earth to make sure you were as close to your kids as possible as much as possible, right?

Again if you are military and at war tell him which judge would grant you custody ? Especially if the mom is foreign and jurisdiction for child related issues falls there

If they were your kids. What would you do. How hard would you fight.

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Anonymous wrote:family, what was that like?

I am in this boat now and it’s happening really fast. My parents were married for 30 years, then the divorce -> dad’s second wife (my “stepmom”) about to have her baby happened in a 5 year period. Should I be happy?

I'm sorry. Sending hugs as that has to be incredibly difficult.

I would not be pleased, that's for sure.

Good God! Jill Biden is a second wife and had another baby. Her daughter seems just fine

With a widower, not someone who walked out on a 30 year marriage and immediately started another family. Get a clue.

Stop being stupid. Read the thread. You have all claimed that men should not have any more children. And it's not men who always walk out on marriages

He didn’t abandon his kids with their mother. His new wife treated them like her own. Totally different.

So in this scenario it's justified to have another child? But not if there is a divorce?
Stop accusing dads of abandoning kids because they choose to remarry after a divorce.
Talk so much nonsense

Of course not all dads abandon their kid when they remarry. And not only widows. There are dads who take 50/50 custody and continue to have deep, meaningful relationships with their older kids.

I can tell you this though. No father like that would EVER claim that having more kids later had no impact on their older kids’ lives. They know it will because they have real relationships with their kids.

Then by your logic moms shouldn't have any more kids after divorce

That’s the exact opposite of what I just said. It’s fine to have more kids if you take incredible care not to abandon the older kids. It would probably be better if you didn’t, and no good parent would pretend it will have no impact at all on older kids, but it can be done well. But a bunch of stepmoms in this thread have been modeling why it’s so hard to do well.

It doesn't matter. Men have been having kids with second wives for forever and nobody asked the older kids' permission.

True, but it doesn’t make them good people. It actually makes them garbage people.

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Anonymous wrote:family, what was that like?

I am in this boat now and it’s happening really fast. My parents were married for 30 years, then the divorce -> dad’s second wife (my “stepmom”) about to have her baby happened in a 5 year period. Should I be happy?

I'm sorry. Sending hugs as that has to be incredibly difficult.

I would not be pleased, that's for sure.

Good God! Jill Biden is a second wife and had another baby. Her daughter seems just fine

With a widower, not someone who walked out on a 30 year marriage and immediately started another family. Get a clue.

Stop being stupid. Read the thread. You have all claimed that men should not have any more children. And it's not men who always walk out on marriages

He didn’t abandon his kids with their mother. His new wife treated them like her own. Totally different.

So in this scenario it's justified to have another child? But not if there is a divorce?
Stop accusing dads of abandoning kids because they choose to remarry after a divorce.
Talk so much nonsense

Of course not all dads abandon their kid when they remarry. And not only widows. There are dads who take 50/50 custody and continue to have deep, meaningful relationships with their older kids.

I can tell you this though. No father like that would EVER claim that having more kids later had no impact on their older kids’ lives. They know it will because they have real relationships with their kids.

Then by your logic moms shouldn't have any more kids after divorce

That’s the exact opposite of what I just said. It’s fine to have more kids if you take incredible care not to abandon the older kids. It would probably be better if you didn’t, and no good parent would pretend it will have no impact at all on older kids, but it can be done well. But a bunch of stepmoms in this thread have been modeling why it’s so hard to do well.

It doesn't matter. Men have been having kids with second wives for forever and nobody asked the older kids' permission.

True, but it doesn’t make them good people. It actually makes them garbage people.

And both sets of kids end up dysfunctional and messed up. It is so sad to watch.