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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.

Does that make you feel better? Is that how you justified it your kids? When you denied them a relationship with their father so you could collect your child support check

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.

Does that make you feel better? Is that how you justified it your kids? When you denied them a relationship with their father so you could collect your child support check

I’m not divorced, never received an alimony check… never abandoned my children like your H did.

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.

Does that make you feel better? Is that how you justified it your kids? When you denied them a relationship with their father so you could collect your child support check

Girl what are you talking about.

I’m a lawyer. Here’s my experience. Moms: do anything, move heaven and earth to be with their kids; find the money for a lawyer, move into a weird living situation to stay close to them and keep them in their school/minimize disruption. Dads: give up before there’s even a fight, claim they can’t take the kids when they have work (meanwhile working moms figure it out), miss court dates, blow off visitations.

Not all dads! But any dad who doesn’t have 50/50 custody, he didn’t do the very bare minimum to get it. I’ve seen dads get custody with DUIs, history of DV, just out of drug rehab… If they’re willing to go through the motions (often with their mom as puppeteer making sure they make their court dates) they get it. And this is from 2000 on.

If your husband didn’t get custody, he didn’t try. Period.

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.

Does that make you feel better? Is that how you justified it your kids? When you denied them a relationship with their father so you could collect your child support check

I’m not divorced, never received an alimony check… never abandoned my children like your H did.

Why are you so hostile and nasty then?

No one's husband's abandoned the kids if they were refused contact by the mother? Maybe your Dad abandoned you or maybe your mom refused contact. Either way, time for you to move on.

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.

Does that make you feel better? Is that how you justified it your kids? When you denied them a relationship with their father so you could collect your child support check

Girl what are you talking about.

I’m a lawyer. Here’s my experience. Moms: do anything, move heaven and earth to be with their kids; find the money for a lawyer, move into a weird living situation to stay close to them and keep them in their school/minimize disruption. Dads: give up before there’s even a fight, claim they can’t take the kids when they have work (meanwhile working moms figure it out), miss court dates, blow off visitations.

Not all dads! But any dad who doesn’t have 50/50 custody, he didn’t do the very bare minimum to get it. I’ve seen dads get custody with DUIs, history of DV, just out of drug rehab… If they’re willing to go through the motions (often with their mom as puppeteer making sure they make their court dates) they get it. And this is from 2000 on.

If your husband didn’t get custody, he didn’t try. Period.

Maybe Dad's give up because they get lousy attorneys like you who don't fight for them and they know it's a losing cause. Ever think you are the problem? Or, maybe attorney's like you will not fight for basics like Dad getting his visitation - that was our experience after calling many attorneys. Very few would fight for visitation. None would file contempt.

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.

Does that make you feel better? Is that how you justified it your kids? When you denied them a relationship with their father so you could collect your child support check

I’m not divorced, never received an alimony check… never abandoned my children like your H did.

Why are you so hostile and nasty then?

No one's husband's abandoned the kids if they were refused contact by the mother? Maybe your Dad abandoned you or maybe your mom refused contact. Either way, time for you to move on.

There’s no such thing as refuse contact by the mother. Dads who care go to court and get custody. I’m sick of man we find 50-50. It’s too much work, and then blame lives for keeping their children from them.. you fell for it hook line and sinker though

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.

Does that make you feel better? Is that how you justified it your kids? When you denied them a relationship with their father so you could collect your child support check

Girl what are you talking about.

I’m a lawyer. Here’s my experience. Moms: do anything, move heaven and earth to be with their kids; find the money for a lawyer, move into a weird living situation to stay close to them and keep them in their school/minimize disruption. Dads: give up before there’s even a fight, claim they can’t take the kids when they have work (meanwhile working moms figure it out), miss court dates, blow off visitations.

Not all dads! But any dad who doesn’t have 50/50 custody, he didn’t do the very bare minimum to get it. I’ve seen dads get custody with DUIs, history of DV, just out of drug rehab… If they’re willing to go through the motions (often with their mom as puppeteer making sure they make their court dates) they get it. And this is from 2000 on.

If your husband didn’t get custody, he didn’t try. Period.

Maybe Dad's give up because they get lousy attorneys like you who don't fight for them and they know it's a losing cause. Ever think you are the problem? Or, maybe attorney's like you will not fight for basics like Dad getting his visitation - that was our experience after calling many attorneys. Very few would fight for visitation. None would file contempt.

This sounds 100% made up. I don't know a single lawyer, even the most bottom barrel quality, who would have refused to fight for visitation and file for contempt if it were justified.

But besides that, since family lawyers always charge for consultations, I find it not credible that you paid "many attorneys" consultation fees then walked away from the money, "many" times, because they wouldn't do what their client wanted, when what the client wanted was perfectly ethical and even routine.

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

No because she moved out of the country.

So

So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.

So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care. Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability. He went to court many times. The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid. When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing. You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course.

No, that's not true. Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+. Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded.

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.

Does that make you feel better? Is that how you justified it your kids? When you denied them a relationship with their father so you could collect your child support check

I’m not divorced, never received an alimony check… never abandoned my children like your H did.

Why are you so hostile and nasty then?

No one's husband's abandoned the kids if they were refused contact by the mother? Maybe your Dad abandoned you or maybe your mom refused contact. Either way, time for you to move on.

There’s no such thing as refuse contact by the mother. Dads who care go to court and get custody. I’m sick of man we find 50-50. It’s too much work, and then blame lives for keeping their children from them.. you fell for it hook line and sinker though

Courts don’t change custody like that. You go to court, judge tells the other parent to follow the order, they don’t, go back to court and same thing. You sound like a very unhappy person.

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

It’s not illegal if there is no existing custody order and the parents are still married.
You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

My husband would have gladly had full custody but that’s not how things work. His ex took the kids and ran away cross country with her ap while he was at work. And, no he could not just up and move or he’d be court marshal led. See how that works.

What she did is illegal. Your husband could’ve gone to court and gotten full custody.

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

My husband would have gladly had full custody but that’s not how things work. His ex took the kids and ran away cross country with her ap while he was at work. And, no he could not just up and move or he’d be court marshal led. See how that works.

He had recourse. He could have filed an emergency custody order. There is a nationwide law about this and she would have been forced to move back unless he was physically abusing her and the kids. Your DH is a bag of lies and excuses.
I can’t believe you actually believe this story. It’s not how the court system works.

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OP, this thread has turned into a dumpster fire and many of the comments seem to be from people not in your position. I have BTDT (I posted way earlier in the thread). You can be happy if you want to be. Your family is changing, whether you want it to or not. You can embrace that change and be part of your new family or not. It’s up to you. I have really enjoyed having my “baby” brother in my life. My advice is for now, be positive and see how things go. If the new dynamic becomes a problem for you, you can step away for a while.

And as to inheritance, I am not expecting anything from my dad. I will inherit from my mom and i have a full time job (thanks to my parents paying for my college) and can support myself. My father is more to me than an inheritance.

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Anonymous wrote:No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children.

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book.
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?

My husband would have gladly had full custody but that’s not how things work. His ex took the kids and ran away cross country with her ap while he was at work. And, no he could not just up and move or he’d be court marshal led. See how that works.

He had recourse. He could have filed an emergency custody order. There is a nationwide law about this and she would have been forced to move back unless he was physically abusing her and the kids. Your DH is a bag of lies and excuses.
I can’t believe you actually believe this story. It’s not how the court system works.

NP here. He might have been an absent father to his first set of kids and he's an involved father to the second wife's kids. Biologically, a man's bond with his children is very much influenced by the relationship with the mom. We were in a very different situation (my dad was a widower with two kids when he married my mom) and he's much more involved with us, even as adults.

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Anonymous wrote:family, what was that like?

I am in this boat now and it’s happening really fast. My parents were married for 30 years, then the divorce -> dad’s second wife (my “stepmom”) about to have her baby happened in a 5 year period. Should I be happy?

I'm sorry. Sending hugs as that has to be incredibly difficult.

I would not be pleased, that's for sure.