For those of you whose parents divorced when you were 20+, if one of your parents started a second

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family, what was that like?

I am in this boat now and it’s happening really fast. My parents were married for 30 years, then the divorce -> dad’s second wife (my “stepmom”) about to have her baby happened in a 5 year period. Should I be happy?

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Wow. That is difficult. How old is your dad? How old are you?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. That is difficult. How old is your dad? How old are you?

I’m 28, dad is 59.

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Why does it matter as you are grown? I am the second wife. We have kids and they are 20 years from the youngest and no big deal. Kids were adults so it did not impact their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:Why does it matter as you are grown? I am the second wife. We have kids and they are 20 years from the youngest and no big deal. Kids were adults so it did not impact their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. That is difficult. How old is your dad? How old are you?

I’m 28, dad is 59.

When I was 21, my dad's new family started. I have an "aunt" like relationship with their kids/my half siblings.

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Sure, why not be happy for them. How is it affecting you?

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Anonymous wrote:Sure, why not be happy for them. How is it affecting you?

It affects you because you are very rarely still treated as your parent's child. They are focused on a toddler and you're "all grown up". Men are not good with this.

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There’s nothing you can do to stop it so you may as well try to create an aunt like relationship. It’s good to have siblings who are much younger - they can be helpful when you are old.

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If you're dad is happy, you should try to be happy for him. It's ok to actually have mixed feelings.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. That is difficult. How old is your dad? How old are you?

I’m 28, dad is 59.

When I was 21, my dad's new family started. I have an "aunt" like relationship with their kids/my half siblings.

DP but similar. I'm 21 years older than my half sister. She's turning 30 now and we're pretty close as adults. She and I text daily, go on vacation together, and talk frequently. She is much closer to our father than I am so I am grateful to her for helping with his care.

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Anonymous wrote:Why does it matter as you are grown? I am the second wife. We have kids and they are 20 years from the youngest and no big deal. Kids were adults so it did not impact their lives.

Wow. I hope he divorces you someday and you will see your error.

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Anonymous wrote:Why does it matter as you are grown? I am the second wife. We have kids and they are 20 years from the youngest and no big deal. Kids were adults so it did not impact their lives.

Idiot second wives never think the first kids (even adults) should have feelings

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure, why not be happy for them. How is it affecting you?

It affects you because you are very rarely still treated as your parent's child. They are focused on a toddler and you're "all grown up". Men are not good with this.

Not to mention less funds for you when he kicks. And his wife is going to want 100% focus on her kids/immediate family.

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Anonymous wrote:Why does it matter as you are grown? I am the second wife. We have kids and they are 20 years from the youngest and no big deal. Kids were adults so it did not impact their lives.

oh wow