My friend came to my birthday party without a gift and yes, I am upset!

[Anonymous]

Had birthday party at a venue, invited 3 friends, paid everyone's entrance fee. Two brought gifts, the third is used to setups where everyone pays for the birthday person's food but brings no gift (we discussed that on a separate occasion). . However we ate at a place where you pay at the counter, so everyone paid for their own food. So the third guest ended up not giving any gift. I don't care about value of gift. But I feel like it was rude not giving anything at all. A card, flowers, a balloon, whatever.
I don't even have a question, I just need to vent. Thanks for listening.

[Anonymous]

Good lord. Are you in middle school? Who cares. She might have had too hectic a week to come up with some tchotchke.

[Anonymous]

She gave up her time to spend time together to celebrate your birthday. If you can't appreciate that, you should probably reevaluate what kind of friend YOU are! Not everyone is into gifts, especially for an adult's birthday. And it sounds like she was planning to buy your meal. I would give her a pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She gave up her time to spend time together to celebrate your birthday. If you can't appreciate that, you should probably reevaluate what kind of friend YOU are! Not everyone is into gifts, especially for an adult's birthday. And it sounds like she was planning to buy your meal. I would give her a pass.

Which means she viewed my party as an obligation, right?
i don't know, I don't attend parties I don't want to attend (unless it is work).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She gave up her time to spend time together to celebrate your birthday. If you can't appreciate that, you should probably reevaluate what kind of friend YOU are! Not everyone is into gifts, especially for an adult's birthday. And it sounds like she was planning to buy your meal. I would give her a pass.

Sending a gift card is pretty easy.

[Anonymous]

Why do adults insist on celebrating birthdays?

[Anonymous]

Since you mention work, I assume you are an adult. I would never think to take a present for an adult's birthday celebration nor would I expect one. It's nice to have a reason to get together and celebrate, but that's enough.

[Anonymous]

I would be okay with it since most adults pretty much just buy what they want usually.

A child would be totally different as kids value presents in a much different manner.

But as an adult, I really would be totally fine with it.
I do not need an extra candle or bath wash set,
And even if I did, I would just purchase it myself anyway.

[Anonymous]

You threw a tantrum, right?

[Anonymous]

This is idiotic. You're in the wrong, op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since you mention work, I assume you are an adult. I would never think to take a present for an adult's birthday celebration nor would I expect one. It's nice to have a reason to get together and celebrate, but that's enough.

+1

[Anonymous]

This is for an ADULT?

You sound like an exhausting, score keeping sort of 'friend'. This is not what adults with independent lives and normal priorities should be focused on. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since you mention work, I assume you are an adult. I would never think to take a present for an adult's birthday celebration nor would I expect one. It's nice to have a reason to get together and celebrate, but that's enough.

+1

+2

[Anonymous]

She gave you the gift of her time and attention. She came to celebrate your birthday! That's more important than a gift.

And you said yourself that she was expecting to pay for your meal.

Let it go. You aren't being a good friend, OP.

[Anonymous]

I would not have thought about bringing a gift for a minute for an adult. I would have payed for your meal at the counter though...and probably would have tried to pay for my ticket too.