Vent about marrying someone from a very underdeveloped country

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Come on OP, you can't be that naive. Your DH was probably just pranking you. Of course the younger women wear underclothes. It's older women from villages who don't (maybe those in their 70's).

Women in rural areas dry their underwear under their sarees, salwars or towels on the clothes line with the clothes clips.

I can’t figure from this thread whether OP or the DH is the bigger doofus.

I can’t tell if the DH is a doofus or a dick or both. OP sounds sweet but low IQ. What a fascinating thread. [/quote

Op here. I think he's unaware. Bengali men are more clueless about women. He hasn't lived in Bangladesh in 15 years. They also don't date before marriage and his schools were all boys until college. His sister did say she's embarrassed to buy underwear so there must be something cultural going on. They don't have Amazon here. Shopping is done in person mainly. I do have a lower IQ. I get accommodations at work. I have dyslexia and some other learning disabilities. They have gotten worse with kids due to stress but my work has been amazing and life goes on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
From Jeff's daily rundown:

"The most active thread yesterday was titled, "Vent about marrying someone from a very underdeveloped country". The thread was originally posted in the "Off-Topic" forum but I moved it to the "Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)" forum. The original poster says that she and her family are visiting her husband's family in a country that is much less developed than the United States. They are staying with her husband's family in a house in which taking a warm shower requires mixing boiling hot water with cold water and using a bucket. There is no air conditioning or heat and stores that have the items they would like to purchase are a three-hour drive away. The original poster and her kids are miserable but her husband is not understanding of the challenges they are facing. The original poster is very upset with him and using this thread to vent. This thread has already reached 21 pages. There are posters who are not sympathetic to the original poster and generally criticized her attitude and provided advice regarding what they believe are easy things that she can do to adjust. Other posters are more supportive of her and critical of her husband. The original poster has previously posted other threads about her husband and travels to his native country which results in the original poster being recognized by others who linked to her earlier threads. There are a number of disputes about whether or not the original poster is a troll, with one poster even starting a thread asking this in the "Website Feedback" forum. As I said in that thread, the poster is posting from Bangladesh, the country to which posters identified her as referring.

🚩However, this morning I noticed that the original poster has done quite a bit of sock puppeting, mostly offering what appears to be third-person defenses of herself. The thread is full of repeated patterns in which the original poster complained about something, posters offered advice for improving whatever that is, the original poster then explains why the advice won't work, other posters criticize her, the original poster sock puppets a supportive message, and then the original poster again explains why the advice won't work.

The thread is also full of Indians, people related to Indians, or people who have been to India who believe that they have all the answers for the original poster. But, as with all other advice, the original poster is not receptive and is convinced that what applies to India is irrelevent to Bangladesh. Some posters engage with this thread as if it is some sort of mystery that they most solve. The city in which she is visiting was identified and posters provided the average daily temperatures, population statistics, and other information that they think shows the original poster is misstating the reality of conditions.

🚩Given the frequency with which the original poster has been posting — over 60 posts in 24 hours — it is clear that while the home in which she is staying may not have running warm water, heat, or a modern kitchen, it has a good Internet connection."


Come on, OP.
It's never good to sockpuppet your own posts -- especially when you're looking for support from us. 😕

Has OP mentioned anything about why she's been sock puppeting??
I see that she's answered every single other post, but conveniently not that one.

I really hope the OP isn't the person that wrote "To be fair to Jeff (not a sock puppeter!!)" because Jeff checks for sock puppeting by IP address, not the region or country your in.
Jeff wouldn't say OP was sock puppeting unless he knew for sure.

Also, he said the writing style is very obvious, but that's beside the point.

She said she forgot to identify herself as OP in those posts, but never responded when it was pointed out she referred to herself in the 3rd person.

She also hasn’t responded to other questions like who is translating for her (I would die to see my husband translate her sister talking about her underwear!), when/where her husband learned English (purely out of curiosity since my own husband learned English as an adult), or what she plans to do with the husband who threatened divorce if she didn’t go but then doesn’t seem to care about her or the kids now that they are there.

As Jeff said, for being forced to stay in a place with such abysmal conditions (no hot water in the house, etc) she sure does have a strong internet connection & charging capabilities!

Third world country in some ways, high tech in others!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
From Jeff's daily rundown:

"The most active thread yesterday was titled, "Vent about marrying someone from a very underdeveloped country". The thread was originally posted in the "Off-Topic" forum but I moved it to the "Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)" forum. The original poster says that she and her family are visiting her husband's family in a country that is much less developed than the United States. They are staying with her husband's family in a house in which taking a warm shower requires mixing boiling hot water with cold water and using a bucket. There is no air conditioning or heat and stores that have the items they would like to purchase are a three-hour drive away. The original poster and her kids are miserable but her husband is not understanding of the challenges they are facing. The original poster is very upset with him and using this thread to vent. This thread has already reached 21 pages. There are posters who are not sympathetic to the original poster and generally criticized her attitude and provided advice regarding what they believe are easy things that she can do to adjust. Other posters are more supportive of her and critical of her husband. The original poster has previously posted other threads about her husband and travels to his native country which results in the original poster being recognized by others who linked to her earlier threads. There are a number of disputes about whether or not the original poster is a troll, with one poster even starting a thread asking this in the "Website Feedback" forum. As I said in that thread, the poster is posting from Bangladesh, the country to which posters identified her as referring.

🚩However, this morning I noticed that the original poster has done quite a bit of sock puppeting, mostly offering what appears to be third-person defenses of herself. The thread is full of repeated patterns in which the original poster complained about something, posters offered advice for improving whatever that is, the original poster then explains why the advice won't work, other posters criticize her, the original poster sock puppets a supportive message, and then the original poster again explains why the advice won't work.

The thread is also full of Indians, people related to Indians, or people who have been to India who believe that they have all the answers for the original poster. But, as with all other advice, the original poster is not receptive and is convinced that what applies to India is irrelevent to Bangladesh. Some posters engage with this thread as if it is some sort of mystery that they most solve. The city in which she is visiting was identified and posters provided the average daily temperatures, population statistics, and other information that they think shows the original poster is misstating the reality of conditions.

🚩Given the frequency with which the original poster has been posting — over 60 posts in 24 hours — it is clear that while the home in which she is staying may not have running warm water, heat, or a modern kitchen, it has a good Internet connection."


Come on, OP.
It's never good to sockpuppet your own posts -- especially when you're looking for support from us. 😕

Has OP mentioned anything about why she's been sock puppeting??
I see that she's answered every single other post, but conveniently not that one.

I really hope the OP isn't the person that wrote "To be fair to Jeff (not a sock puppeter!!)" because Jeff checks for sock puppeting by IP address, not the region or country your in.
Jeff wouldn't say OP was sock puppeting unless he knew for sure.

Also, he said the writing style is very obvious, but that's beside the point.

She said she forgot to identify herself as OP in those posts, but never responded when it was pointed out she referred to herself in the 3rd person.

She also hasn’t responded to other questions like who is translating for her (I would die to see my husband translate her sister talking about her underwear!), when/where her husband learned English (purely out of curiosity since my own husband learned English as an adult), or what she plans to do with the husband who threatened divorce if she didn’t go but then doesn’t seem to care about her or the kids now that they are there.

Oh, of course!
I always refer to myself in the third person when I'm replying to my self (ie; "I'm on your side, OP!). 😂

Just admit you were sock puppeting, OP.
Your excuse that you forgot to identify yourself makes zero sense, because you were replying to your own post but acting like a new poster and agreeing with yourself, and taking your side!

Puhlease.

[Anonymous]

OP strikes me as the type of person who probably got picked on in school but thought that the people laughing at her actually liked her and wanted to be her friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
From Jeff's daily rundown:

"The most active thread yesterday was titled, "Vent about marrying someone from a very underdeveloped country". The thread was originally posted in the "Off-Topic" forum but I moved it to the "Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)" forum. The original poster says that she and her family are visiting her husband's family in a country that is much less developed than the United States. They are staying with her husband's family in a house in which taking a warm shower requires mixing boiling hot water with cold water and using a bucket. There is no air conditioning or heat and stores that have the items they would like to purchase are a three-hour drive away. The original poster and her kids are miserable but her husband is not understanding of the challenges they are facing. The original poster is very upset with him and using this thread to vent. This thread has already reached 21 pages. There are posters who are not sympathetic to the original poster and generally criticized her attitude and provided advice regarding what they believe are easy things that she can do to adjust. Other posters are more supportive of her and critical of her husband. The original poster has previously posted other threads about her husband and travels to his native country which results in the original poster being recognized by others who linked to her earlier threads. There are a number of disputes about whether or not the original poster is a troll, with one poster even starting a thread asking this in the "Website Feedback" forum. As I said in that thread, the poster is posting from Bangladesh, the country to which posters identified her as referring.

🚩However, this morning I noticed that the original poster has done quite a bit of sock puppeting, mostly offering what appears to be third-person defenses of herself. The thread is full of repeated patterns in which the original poster complained about something, posters offered advice for improving whatever that is, the original poster then explains why the advice won't work, other posters criticize her, the original poster sock puppets a supportive message, and then the original poster again explains why the advice won't work.

The thread is also full of Indians, people related to Indians, or people who have been to India who believe that they have all the answers for the original poster. But, as with all other advice, the original poster is not receptive and is convinced that what applies to India is irrelevent to Bangladesh. Some posters engage with this thread as if it is some sort of mystery that they most solve. The city in which she is visiting was identified and posters provided the average daily temperatures, population statistics, and other information that they think shows the original poster is misstating the reality of conditions.

🚩Given the frequency with which the original poster has been posting — over 60 posts in 24 hours — it is clear that while the home in which she is staying may not have running warm water, heat, or a modern kitchen, it has a good Internet connection."


Come on, OP.
It's never good to sockpuppet your own posts -- especially when you're looking for support from us. 😕

Has OP mentioned anything about why she's been sock puppeting??
I see that she's answered every single other post, but conveniently not that one.

I really hope the OP isn't the person that wrote "To be fair to Jeff (not a sock puppeter!!)" because Jeff checks for sock puppeting by IP address, not the region or country your in.
Jeff wouldn't say OP was sock puppeting unless he knew for sure.

Also, he said the writing style is very obvious, but that's beside the point.

She said she forgot to identify herself as OP in those posts, but never responded when it was pointed out she referred to herself in the 3rd person.

She also hasn’t responded to other questions like who is translating for her (I would die to see my husband translate her sister talking about her underwear!), when/where her husband learned English (purely out of curiosity since my own husband learned English as an adult), or what she plans to do with the husband who threatened divorce if she didn’t go but then doesn’t seem to care about her or the kids now that they are there.

As Jeff said, for being forced to stay in a place with such abysmal conditions (no hot water in the house, etc) she sure does have a strong internet connection & charging capabilities!

Third world country in some ways, high tech in others!

As has been pointed out by others, rural India and Bangladesh have excellent Internet and cell phone service because many people rely on their mobile phones to transact all their business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
From Jeff's daily rundown:

"The most active thread yesterday was titled, "Vent about marrying someone from a very underdeveloped country". The thread was originally posted in the "Off-Topic" forum but I moved it to the "Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)" forum. The original poster says that she and her family are visiting her husband's family in a country that is much less developed than the United States. They are staying with her husband's family in a house in which taking a warm shower requires mixing boiling hot water with cold water and using a bucket. There is no air conditioning or heat and stores that have the items they would like to purchase are a three-hour drive away. The original poster and her kids are miserable but her husband is not understanding of the challenges they are facing. The original poster is very upset with him and using this thread to vent. This thread has already reached 21 pages. There are posters who are not sympathetic to the original poster and generally criticized her attitude and provided advice regarding what they believe are easy things that she can do to adjust. Other posters are more supportive of her and critical of her husband. The original poster has previously posted other threads about her husband and travels to his native country which results in the original poster being recognized by others who linked to her earlier threads. There are a number of disputes about whether or not the original poster is a troll, with one poster even starting a thread asking this in the "Website Feedback" forum. As I said in that thread, the poster is posting from Bangladesh, the country to which posters identified her as referring.

🚩However, this morning I noticed that the original poster has done quite a bit of sock puppeting, mostly offering what appears to be third-person defenses of herself. The thread is full of repeated patterns in which the original poster complained about something, posters offered advice for improving whatever that is, the original poster then explains why the advice won't work, other posters criticize her, the original poster sock puppets a supportive message, and then the original poster again explains why the advice won't work.

The thread is also full of Indians, people related to Indians, or people who have been to India who believe that they have all the answers for the original poster. But, as with all other advice, the original poster is not receptive and is convinced that what applies to India is irrelevent to Bangladesh. Some posters engage with this thread as if it is some sort of mystery that they most solve. The city in which she is visiting was identified and posters provided the average daily temperatures, population statistics, and other information that they think shows the original poster is misstating the reality of conditions.

🚩Given the frequency with which the original poster has been posting — over 60 posts in 24 hours — it is clear that while the home in which she is staying may not have running warm water, heat, or a modern kitchen, it has a good Internet connection."


Come on, OP.
It's never good to sockpuppet your own posts -- especially when you're looking for support from us. 😕

Has OP mentioned anything about why she's been sock puppeting??
I see that she's answered every single other post, but conveniently not that one.

I really hope the OP isn't the person that wrote "To be fair to Jeff (not a sock puppeter!!)" because Jeff checks for sock puppeting by IP address, not the region or country your in.
Jeff wouldn't say OP was sock puppeting unless he knew for sure.

Also, he said the writing style is very obvious, but that's beside the point.

She said she forgot to identify herself as OP in those posts, but never responded when it was pointed out she referred to herself in the 3rd person.

She also hasn’t responded to other questions like who is translating for her (I would die to see my husband translate her sister talking about her underwear!), when/where her husband learned English (purely out of curiosity since my own husband learned English as an adult), or what she plans to do with the husband who threatened divorce if she didn’t go but then doesn’t seem to care about her or the kids now that they are there.

His sister speaks English pretty well. This is OP. I have been in the area by Zum Zum Tower in Uttara. With two kids it's hard to get over to Gulshan. It would be two hours out of the way.

Op here. I went to Gulshan finally today. We had the driver take us. It was nice but we didn't have a lot of time. We left at 6:30 am today to drive to Dhaka. Dh went to a Baptist private missionary school. He started learning English in first grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP strikes me as the type of person who probably got picked on in school but thought that the people laughing at her actually liked her and wanted to be her friend.

Op here. You strike me as someone insecure. Very strange for a grown adult to even bring up to stuff like this. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
From Jeff's daily rundown:

"The most active thread yesterday was titled, "Vent about marrying someone from a very underdeveloped country". The thread was originally posted in the "Off-Topic" forum but I moved it to the "Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)" forum. The original poster says that she and her family are visiting her husband's family in a country that is much less developed than the United States. They are staying with her husband's family in a house in which taking a warm shower requires mixing boiling hot water with cold water and using a bucket. There is no air conditioning or heat and stores that have the items they would like to purchase are a three-hour drive away. The original poster and her kids are miserable but her husband is not understanding of the challenges they are facing. The original poster is very upset with him and using this thread to vent. This thread has already reached 21 pages. There are posters who are not sympathetic to the original poster and generally criticized her attitude and provided advice regarding what they believe are easy things that she can do to adjust. Other posters are more supportive of her and critical of her husband. The original poster has previously posted other threads about her husband and travels to his native country which results in the original poster being recognized by others who linked to her earlier threads. There are a number of disputes about whether or not the original poster is a troll, with one poster even starting a thread asking this in the "Website Feedback" forum. As I said in that thread, the poster is posting from Bangladesh, the country to which posters identified her as referring.

🚩However, this morning I noticed that the original poster has done quite a bit of sock puppeting, mostly offering what appears to be third-person defenses of herself. The thread is full of repeated patterns in which the original poster complained about something, posters offered advice for improving whatever that is, the original poster then explains why the advice won't work, other posters criticize her, the original poster sock puppets a supportive message, and then the original poster again explains why the advice won't work.

The thread is also full of Indians, people related to Indians, or people who have been to India who believe that they have all the answers for the original poster. But, as with all other advice, the original poster is not receptive and is convinced that what applies to India is irrelevent to Bangladesh. Some posters engage with this thread as if it is some sort of mystery that they most solve. The city in which she is visiting was identified and posters provided the average daily temperatures, population statistics, and other information that they think shows the original poster is misstating the reality of conditions.

🚩Given the frequency with which the original poster has been posting — over 60 posts in 24 hours — it is clear that while the home in which she is staying may not have running warm water, heat, or a modern kitchen, it has a good Internet connection."


Come on, OP.
It's never good to sockpuppet your own posts -- especially when you're looking for support from us. 😕

Has OP mentioned anything about why she's been sock puppeting??
I see that she's answered every single other post, but conveniently not that one.

I really hope the OP isn't the person that wrote "To be fair to Jeff (not a sock puppeter!!)" because Jeff checks for sock puppeting by IP address, not the region or country your in.
Jeff wouldn't say OP was sock puppeting unless he knew for sure.

Also, he said the writing style is very obvious, but that's beside the point.

She said she forgot to identify herself as OP in those posts, but never responded when it was pointed out she referred to herself in the 3rd person.

She also hasn’t responded to other questions like who is translating for her (I would die to see my husband translate her sister talking about her underwear!), when/where her husband learned English (purely out of curiosity since my own husband learned English as an adult), or what she plans to do with the husband who threatened divorce if she didn’t go but then doesn’t seem to care about her or the kids now that they are there.

As Jeff said, for being forced to stay in a place with such abysmal conditions (no hot water in the house, etc) she sure does have a strong internet connection & charging capabilities!

Third world country in some ways, high tech in others!

You can VPN into IPs all over if you want to appear somewhere.

op is full of constant BS. But hey, troll got her largest troll thread ever! 43 pages+

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP strikes me as the type of person who probably got picked on in school but thought that the people laughing at her actually liked her and wanted to be her friend.

Op here. You strike me as someone insecure. Very strange for a grown adult to even bring up to stuff like this. Grow up.

Good evening OP!

What was for dinner this fine Saturday?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assume all the posts where OP is given compliments, like how reading her comments is a treat and how she should start a blog, are written by OP herself. She has a very simple way of writing. I actually thought at first that she was not American/not a native English speaker, because of how simply she writes, but she didn’t make any grammar mistakes so I changed my mind on that.

OP, won’t people be able to figure out your identity if this thread gets attention in your community?

Go post it on one of those ethic sites and find out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op has so much patience to deal with the constant challenges to her posts here. I assume that perseverance is how she is able to handle the trip.

Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP strikes me as the type of person who probably got picked on in school but thought that the people laughing at her actually liked her and wanted to be her friend.

Op here. You strike me as someone insecure. Very strange for a grown adult to even bring up to stuff like this. Grow up.

Grow up, says the sock puppet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op is not claiming to speak for Bengalis. That's why this thread is interesting. She is perceiving it as a normal white woman. It's quite fascinating because she is really doing the real deal and not staying in hotels.

Someone started another thread on Bangladesh. No one was interested, because there's a unique perspective here that many of us can relate to. We can always Google Bangladesh if we want to learn the facts. I especially enjoy her pictures and impressions.

She's a foreigner and naturally will get some stuff wrong. But she has a good eye for detail and personality and I'm totally hooked.

Op here. I think you're giving me too much credit. It's hard to sleep because I am overwhelmed. The mosque close by is constantly blaring music but it's really not normal music. They are singing verses from the Quran. They have a unique way to recite it. I am in a bed with my husband and two kids. All three are snoring. The mosquito net is secured well and I heard a strange animal outside I couldn't identify. Today there was a random cow I saw on the street. According to DH the cow wasn't lost. Most likely it wandered off its property and the owners will get him. I also was confused this evening when his family was discussing who would all go to Dhaka tomorrow because I recognized chicken in Bengali and names of family members. I asked why they were talking about chickens and if they would take the chickens to Dhaka. They thought it was hilarious. They were discussing who would stay home to babysit the chicken and rooster. Apparently, chickens fly over the concrete fence that's pretty high up. Who knew? Dhs family really wants to gift me a traditional three-price dress. We will go tomorrow to pick out the fabric and a tailor will custom make it. This is the way his sister usually purchases her clothes and I think it's common to still do this. The other types of clothes (the type we buy in the US ) are called ready-made. Another neat fact is furniture is sometimes made at your house right of if you and it is beautifully carved. It's easier to get it through the doorway. Their beds are typically huge because they co-sleep. Dh's nephew who is 11 sleeps with his mom and SIL and BIL sleep in another room. My MIL is sleeping with her sister right now who is visiting for two days.

Yes, we all know co-sleeping in a hut is common for billions of people in overcrowded, poor emerging market countries.
So what.

No one is forcing you to read every thread on DCUM!

I am enjoying her unprofessional cranky ramblings. I'd be doing the same thing in her place.

+1 click another topic, you don't have to read this!
Personally, I'm enjoying these descriptions

Same. I am NOT the OP (have Jeff check you paranoid people) and I do think these posts are a treat and I'm very invested in the OP's adventure. I'm the pp early in the thread who told her to go immediately to the airport! I'm glad she didn't!
Is anyone else checking maps of Bangladesh now? I have a friend from there (he's a US citizen) so it will be fun to catch up with him and ask him about memories of home. Unlike OP's husband his family all came over as well, so I think his memories will be 20 years out of date too.

[Anonymous]

No and nope.

80% of the posts here are one person stirring thing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No and nope.

80% of the posts here are one person stirring thing up.

Probably. There seems to be a pattern.

First OP rambles something about what she did/will do that day

Then she sock puppets and accuses (herself) as sock puppeting.

The VPN thing could be possible too. Maybe OP is in California.