Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before I gained pandemic weight, I got hit on at bars, Wegman's, standing on the street, in Ubers.....

Define “ getting hit on” vs somebody making conversation, being nice.

They asked for my phone number, or asked me to go on a date. So, pretty obvious, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before I gained pandemic weight, I got hit on at bars, Wegman's, standing on the street, in Ubers.....

What do you think attracted them enough they didn't heed to the me too fears?

They started with a normal conversation, and I am friendly, so I chatted back. Then they asked for my number. I am in my 50s,

I am blond and have big boobs. I also have had guys ask for my number while i am driving around in my convertible!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you met men?

#notallmen
#butalotofthem

Seriously, there is a very visible subset of men who seem off the charts pissed that "you can't approach women in public anymore" and "how am I supposed to meet women now?" And there is another visible subset who just keep doing it anyway.

Are these great men? No. Should you be honored to be a target? No. Are they hitting on women? Yes.

It helps a lot to have RBF. When you have resting-friendly-face, not so helpful in these cases.

The homeless man sitting in a cafe I was in the other day told me I had nice hair, then stared at me for awhile. Was he hitting on me? I don't tend to think of it as being hit on. Often times it's not legit or serious so I don't need to tell them "Sorry, I'm married."

Yeah some of the examples posters are giving are more being sexually harassed than hit on.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who complains she always gets hit on. She is talkative and extremely flirty (idk if she realizes how much of a flirt she is being?) and perceives any positive make attention as being hit on. Though she complains about it I definitely think it is an ego bump for her. She is cuteish/fairly average looking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who complains she always gets hit on. She is talkative and extremely flirty (idk if she realizes how much of a flirt she is being?) and perceives any positive make attention as being hit on. Though she complains about it I definitely think it is an ego bump for her. She is cuteish/fairly average looking.

*positive male attention

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before I gained pandemic weight, I got hit on at bars, Wegman's, standing on the street, in Ubers.....

What do you think attracted them enough they didn't heed to the me too fears?

They started with a normal conversation, and I am friendly, so I chatted back. Then they asked for my number. I am in my 50s,

He probably just wants to send you a pic of his member.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you met men?

#notallmen
#butalotofthem

Seriously, there is a very visible subset of men who seem off the charts pissed that "you can't approach women in public anymore" and "how am I supposed to meet women now?" And there is another visible subset who just keep doing it anyway.

Are these great men? No. Should you be honored to be a target? No. Are they hitting on women? Yes.

It helps a lot to have RBF. When you have resting-friendly-face, not so helpful in these cases.

The homeless man sitting in a cafe I was in the other day told me I had nice hair, then stared at me for awhile. Was he hitting on me? I don't tend to think of it as being hit on. Often times it's not legit or serious so I don't need to tell them "Sorry, I'm married."

Yeah some of the examples posters are giving are more being sexually harassed than hit on.

What's the clear dividing line between "hit on" and "sexually harassed?"

Or ... do you just "know it when you see it?"

[Anonymous]

I got hit on by a guy who played our friend’s wedding at a bar afterward. I was pregnant but I think he didn’t notice…or care. He was or is a well-known DC artist type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you met men?

#notallmen
#butalotofthem

Seriously, there is a very visible subset of men who seem off the charts pissed that "you can't approach women in public anymore" and "how am I supposed to meet women now?" And there is another visible subset who just keep doing it anyway.

Are these great men? No. Should you be honored to be a target? No. Are they hitting on women? Yes.

It helps a lot to have RBF. When you have resting-friendly-face, not so helpful in these cases.

The homeless man sitting in a cafe I was in the other day told me I had nice hair, then stared at me for awhile. Was he hitting on me? I don't tend to think of it as being hit on. Often times it's not legit or serious so I don't need to tell them "Sorry, I'm married."

Yeah some of the examples posters are giving are more being sexually harassed than hit on.

What's the clear dividing line between "hit on" and "sexually harassed?"

Or ... do you just "know it when you see it?"

I would view being hit on as being approached and talked up by a man (sound of mind- not in drugs or mentally ill) who then asks for my number to get drinks/dinner etc. This would not include getting catcalled (hey there sexy!; hey blonde lady, give me your #!), completely plastered guy slurring out “hey come home with me”, having friendly conversations in public areas that don’t end in an ask for a date, or random service workers obtaining my number and reaching out to me (as in one of the very creepy stories a pp posted). I’d consider most of these harassment except, obviously, the friendly convo but I’d just consider that flirtatious, not being hit on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you met men?

#notallmen
#butalotofthem

Seriously, there is a very visible subset of men who seem off the charts pissed that "you can't approach women in public anymore" and "how am I supposed to meet women now?" And there is another visible subset who just keep doing it anyway.

Are these great men? No. Should you be honored to be a target? No. Are they hitting on women? Yes.

It helps a lot to have RBF. When you have resting-friendly-face, not so helpful in these cases.

The homeless man sitting in a cafe I was in the other day told me I had nice hair, then stared at me for awhile. Was he hitting on me? I don't tend to think of it as being hit on. Often times it's not legit or serious so I don't need to tell them "Sorry, I'm married."

Yeah some of the examples posters are giving are more being sexually harassed than hit on.

What's the clear dividing line between "hit on" and "sexually harassed?"

Or ... do you just "know it when you see it?"

If a guy is hitting on you, he will stop when it’s clear you aren’t interested. The second a guy is persisting even though the woman has said no, turned away, asked him to leave, decided to leave, etc., it’s harassment even if it started more innocently.

Also, some things are always harassment even if he thinks it’s not. Saying crass or cruel things, unwanted touching, for instance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank God it’s tapered off with age. I do not enjoy managing interactions with men.

Absolutely this. It used to make me extremely uncomfortable and I don’t miss it. Like many people said, being hit on is not usually so overt. It’s more like continued interest and gradual escalation of a conversation you usually didn’t want to have in the first place. I remember a guy following me around a department store trying to act helpful. It was worse when i traveled alone, particularly outside the US. For those of you wishing people hit on you, honestly, don’t bother. You’re not missing much and of all those random conversations that people stated with me I can’t think of one that actually worked out and evolved into a relationship. I was just thinking the other day how magical it was to be able to eat in a restaurant alone at a bar and be invisible. Entering my 40s has been a huge relief.

[Anonymous]

Definitely tapered off for me now that I’m in my 50s. But it still happens every once in a while. Recently at WF - I wonder if being masked make men bolder. Also happened at the beach a few weeks ago and sometimes with outside people I meet due to my work. I think it happens to all women especially when you’re young. By middle age you’re invisible to alit of men and I’m fine with that!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you met men?

#notallmen
#butalotofthem

Seriously, there is a very visible subset of men who seem off the charts pissed that "you can't approach women in public anymore" and "how am I supposed to meet women now?" And there is another visible subset who just keep doing it anyway.

Are these great men? No. Should you be honored to be a target? No. Are they hitting on women? Yes.

It helps a lot to have RBF. When you have resting-friendly-face, not so helpful in these cases.

The homeless man sitting in a cafe I was in the other day told me I had nice hair, then stared at me for awhile. Was he hitting on me? I don't tend to think of it as being hit on. Often times it's not legit or serious so I don't need to tell them "Sorry, I'm married."

Yeah some of the examples posters are giving are more being sexually harassed than hit on.

What's the clear dividing line between "hit on" and "sexually harassed?"

Or ... do you just "know it when you see it?"

I would view being hit on as being approached and talked up by a man (sound of mind- not in drugs or mentally ill) who then asks for my number to get drinks/dinner etc. This would not include getting catcalled (hey there sexy!; hey blonde lady, give me your #!), completely plastered guy slurring out “hey come home with me”, having friendly conversations in public areas that don’t end in an ask for a date, or random service workers obtaining my number and reaching out to me (as in one of the very creepy stories a pp posted). I’d consider most of these harassment except, obviously, the friendly convo but I’d just consider that flirtatious, not being hit on.

Do you think that's a complete definition?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you met men?

#notallmen
#butalotofthem

Seriously, there is a very visible subset of men who seem off the charts pissed that "you can't approach women in public anymore" and "how am I supposed to meet women now?" And there is another visible subset who just keep doing it anyway.

Are these great men? No. Should you be honored to be a target? No. Are they hitting on women? Yes.

It helps a lot to have RBF. When you have resting-friendly-face, not so helpful in these cases.

The homeless man sitting in a cafe I was in the other day told me I had nice hair, then stared at me for awhile. Was he hitting on me? I don't tend to think of it as being hit on. Often times it's not legit or serious so I don't need to tell them "Sorry, I'm married."

Yeah some of the examples posters are giving are more being sexually harassed than hit on.

What's the clear dividing line between "hit on" and "sexually harassed?"

Or ... do you just "know it when you see it?"

I would view being hit on as being approached and talked up by a man (sound of mind- not in drugs or mentally ill) who then asks for my number to get drinks/dinner etc. This would not include getting catcalled (hey there sexy!; hey blonde lady, give me your #!), completely plastered guy slurring out “hey come home with me”, having friendly conversations in public areas that don’t end in an ask for a date, or random service workers obtaining my number and reaching out to me (as in one of the very creepy stories a pp posted). I’d consider most of these harassment except, obviously, the friendly convo but I’d just consider that flirtatious, not being hit on.

Do you think that's a complete definition?

I think it probably encompasses most of what women are experiencing in this thread (harassment, being asked out/hit on, and friendly slightly flirtatious banter).

[Anonymous]

Ha!!! Until they remove their makeup.