Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a great smile and great figure. They hit on me anywhere. The funny part is when they are hitting on me and DH comes up, he almost 6’4”, 260 lbs and ripped.

So what?

[Anonymous]

When I was younger I definitely used to get a lot of commentary and stares and random men talking to me. I did not think of this as "hitting on me". I thought of this as seriously annoying. It would be when I was walking around in the city. Sometimes in stores. Definitely if I was out in a bar.

I am tall and used to have long blonde hair and I think that's why I got noticed. And thin and a good figure back in the day. I just stuck out more than the average person. Some guys are just looking for someone to bother and they pick the most obvious targets.

This will be an unpopular opinion, but I think if a woman wants a lot of attention it's not that hard to figure out how to get it and that's the main factor. I happened to have something I could not ever "put away"...my height.

[Anonymous]

I would get hit on all.the.time when my hair was worn long and straight. I’m 5’8” 145-150.

Work
Airport
Conferences
Grocery store
Parties
(Never in a bar surprisingly)

If I cut my hair of wore it curly I was invisible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would get hit on all.the.time when my hair was worn long and straight. I’m 5’8” 145-150.

Work
Airport
Conferences
Grocery store
Parties
(Never in a bar surprisingly)

If I cut my hair of wore it curly I was invisible

So interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would get hit on all.the.time when my hair was worn long and straight. I’m 5’8” 145-150.

Work
Airport
Conferences
Grocery store
Parties
(Never in a bar surprisingly)

If I cut my hair of wore it curly I was invisible

So interesting.

I’m brunette btw

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to get hit on a lot in my early 20s. I think this is because I went to school in a college town with lots of guys my age. I’d usually get hit on at bars, on campus, or at my pt job. Now in my early 30s and I never get hit on. I never go to bars anymore, never really out to eat unless with DH, pretty much always with my kids when I go out. Fine by me

Did you get fat?

[Anonymous]

Tall and willowy women absolutely get hit on more. 5-8 to 6-0. I have a tall and thin friend who I hung out with a lot through my college years and 20s and she got noticed constantly.

[Anonymous]

Thank God it’s tapered off with age. I do not enjoy managing interactions with men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to get hit on a lot in my early 20s. I think this is because I went to school in a college town with lots of guys my age. I’d usually get hit on at bars, on campus, or at my pt job. Now in my early 30s and I never get hit on. I never go to bars anymore, never really out to eat unless with DH, pretty much always with my kids when I go out. Fine by me

Did you get fat?

Um no. I live in a suburb where the vast majority of men my age are coupled up. Fortunately, I haven’t had any married creepers try to pick me up at the grocery store when I’m with my kids. I also assume I probably present as much more closed off to advances since I’m not interested whereas in my 20s I was more flirty, open to meeting guys etc since I was single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A huge factor hear is that some women who say "I get hit on a lot" tend to be women who perceive a lot of interactions as "being hit on" that some people might not.

The two women I've known who genuinely got hit on everywhere they went had big boobs and tended to show them off -- low cut tanks, tight tees, etc. They weren't courting the attention -- they just had nice, big boobs and liked how the looked. But a lot of men see BOOBS and that's it for them. So this gets a lot of attention no matter what.

I have known many other women who are like "omg I get hit on so much!" but then I'll be out with them and we'll order drinks from a bartender who is friendly but not overly so, and who does not ask them out or spend any more time talking to them than anyone else. And they'll be like "that bartender was so into me, oh my gosh should I give him my number?" It's funny. I'm not making fun -- I think that's a good attitude and a lot of confidence but that's not really what this means.

I completely know what you mean. My MIL is like this; she looks nice, aging gracefully with partially greying hair and decent body for her age (though she wears very age appropriate and more conservative styles). A car horn will honk across the street, clearly due to a traffic situation, and she'll look up and comment how men are always honking at her, we will go out to eat and a friendly 20 something waiter will ask how our day is going and she’ll roll her eyes once he’s gone and remark on how he is too friendly and she is not interested in dating him. It’s the funniest thing. On one hand, I am awed by her confidence level but I’m also a bit bemused at the pretty far fetched assumptions she makes.

[Anonymous]

In my late 20’s and 30’s I traveled for business a lot and got hit on frequently. I finally stopped dining alone and just ordered room service. And never sit at a bar alone! And I hated conferences where maybe 10% of the attendees were women because the jerks assumed you were a desperate and horny wife.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I use to have a game where I’d go sit at a bar alone where a lot of guys were and they’d usually check me out and then he’d show up and ask if he could sit next to me and then we’d pretend we had just met. He’d buy me a drink and then 30 minutes later we’d leave together. It was a stupid thing to do but we had fun. We’re too old to do it now!

[Anonymous]

I'm a guy, and super extroverted guy that talks to EVERYONE. Literally, I'll shoot the breeze with anyone. Grocery checkout line. Little league game. School bus stop.

And it has gotten me into some awkward spots on occassion where a women will interrupt me and just say something like "I'm married." or "I have a boyfriend" when I was def not hitting on them.

But, to be fair, I don't think they were wrong to do that, and it doesnt bother me. I figure they've probably had plenty of bad experiences in the past and wouldn't just do that if they didn't think it necessary.

But it also makes me wonder how many other woman have walked away thinking "wow, that guy was super into me."

[Anonymous]

People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.

I posted earlier on page 1, and I'm still puzzled about my interactions. Is it just a part of customer service to enter your phone number into someone else's phone and then text them after, either asking for a picture or offering to meet up? Is it just being friendly to walk up to a stranger and say, "I don't mean to bother you, but you are a beautiful woman. Are you from around here?"

My take on these interactions -- which I have NEVER mentioned to anyone other than here, and dodged as quickly as I could -- was that they were likely hitting on me. Is that being delusional? Sincere question.