Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.

I posted earlier on page 1, and I'm still puzzled about my interactions. Is it just a part of customer service to enter your phone number into someone else's phone and then text them after, either asking for a picture or offering to meet up? Is it just being friendly to walk up to a stranger and say, "I don't mean to bother you, but you are a beautiful woman. Are you from around here?"

My take on these interactions -- which I have NEVER mentioned to anyone other than here, and dodged as quickly as I could -- was that they were likely hitting on me. Is that being delusional? Sincere question.

I think they are giving you compliment. There is a whole range of behavior: giving compliments while expecting nothing in return, having a bit of playful banter while wanting nothing in return, and flirting with the intention of figuring out if you can eventually ask the person out.

I also think only the last interaction is "hitting on"

[Anonymous]

Just waking around and interacting with the world. I get a ton of free things and people ask me out or simply say I'm nice and pretty.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes people stop to talk to me, pay me a compliment, ask for information about me, only to be trying to sell me something. Or invite me to their church. They aren't trying to date me and they aren't hitting on me. I'm normally suspicious of interactions like these because more often than not it is not genuine interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.

I posted earlier on page 1, and I'm still puzzled about my interactions. Is it just a part of customer service to enter your phone number into someone else's phone and then text them after, either asking for a picture or offering to meet up? Is it just being friendly to walk up to a stranger and say, "I don't mean to bother you, but you are a beautiful woman. Are you from around here?"

My take on these interactions -- which I have NEVER mentioned to anyone other than here, and dodged as quickly as I could -- was that they were likely hitting on me. Is that being delusional? Sincere question.

Wait. What? Maybe im misunderstanding your comment but why on earth would a stranger be holding your phone so they could enter their number? And then texting asking for a PICTURE?!! So incredibly creepy. This isn’t even being hit on this is just complete creep behavior. Did I read this wrong??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.

I posted earlier on page 1, and I'm still puzzled about my interactions. Is it just a part of customer service to enter your phone number into someone else's phone and then text them after, either asking for a picture or offering to meet up? Is it just being friendly to walk up to a stranger and say, "I don't mean to bother you, but you are a beautiful woman. Are you from around here?"

My take on these interactions -- which I have NEVER mentioned to anyone other than here, and dodged as quickly as I could -- was that they were likely hitting on me. Is that being delusional? Sincere question.

Wait. What? Maybe im misunderstanding your comment but why on earth would a stranger be holding your phone so they could enter their number? And then texting asking for a PICTURE?!! So incredibly creepy. This isn’t even being hit on this is just complete creep behavior. Did I read this wrong??

I don't think you read my original post on the first page.

In the first example, it was the guy in the store selling me a cell phone, and he entered his number so I could "text him if I had any problems or questions about it." And then he texted me a week later to see how things were going with the phone and offered to show me some of the local sights. Either just good customer service, or a simple compliment, according to a PP. Which, sure -- great customer service? I also thought ti was creeping.

The other was a similar sales situation, but a bit more contrived. No matter -- I also found it creepy, and I have too much going on to keep up with in my life right now anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes people stop to talk to me, pay me a compliment, ask for information about me, only to be trying to sell me something. Or invite me to their church. They aren't trying to date me and they aren't hitting on me. I'm normally suspicious of interactions like these because more often than not it is not genuine interest.

Agreed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.

I posted earlier on page 1, and I'm still puzzled about my interactions. Is it just a part of customer service to enter your phone number into someone else's phone and then text them after, either asking for a picture or offering to meet up? Is it just being friendly to walk up to a stranger and say, "I don't mean to bother you, but you are a beautiful woman. Are you from around here?"

My take on these interactions -- which I have NEVER mentioned to anyone other than here, and dodged as quickly as I could -- was that they were likely hitting on me. Is that being delusional? Sincere question.

Wait. What? Maybe im misunderstanding your comment but why on earth would a stranger be holding your phone so they could enter their number? And then texting asking for a PICTURE?!! So incredibly creepy. This isn’t even being hit on this is just complete creep behavior. Did I read this wrong??

I don't think you read my original post on the first page.

In the first example, it was the guy in the store selling me a cell phone, and he entered his number so I could "text him if I had any problems or questions about it." And then he texted me a week later to see how things were going with the phone and offered to show me some of the local sights. Either just good customer service, or a simple compliment, according to a PP. Which, sure -- great customer service? I also thought ti was creeping.

The other was a similar sales situation, but a bit more contrived. No matter -- I also found it creepy, and I have too much going on to keep up with in my life right now anyway.

I've had cable guys give me their numbers to text if I have more issues. In no way do I think they are hitting on me. Come on, some of you are not nearly as fabulous as you think you are. I'm not fabulous, I just think they are doing their jobs and trying to get me to give them 5 stars or whatever on a customer survey review so they can win a prize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.

I posted earlier on page 1, and I'm still puzzled about my interactions. Is it just a part of customer service to enter your phone number into someone else's phone and then text them after, either asking for a picture or offering to meet up? Is it just being friendly to walk up to a stranger and say, "I don't mean to bother you, but you are a beautiful woman. Are you from around here?"

My take on these interactions -- which I have NEVER mentioned to anyone other than here, and dodged as quickly as I could -- was that they were likely hitting on me. Is that being delusional? Sincere question.

Wait. What? Maybe im misunderstanding your comment but why on earth would a stranger be holding your phone so they could enter their number? And then texting asking for a PICTURE?!! So incredibly creepy. This isn’t even being hit on this is just complete creep behavior. Did I read this wrong??

I don't think you read my original post on the first page.

In the first example, it was the guy in the store selling me a cell phone, and he entered his number so I could "text him if I had any problems or questions about it." And then he texted me a week later to see how things were going with the phone and offered to show me some of the local sights. Either just good customer service, or a simple compliment, according to a PP. Which, sure -- great customer service? I also thought ti was creeping.

The other was a similar sales situation, but a bit more contrived. No matter -- I also found it creepy, and I have too much going on to keep up with in my life right now anyway.

Ewwwww. That is not a compliment, that is highly inappropriate behavior. Can you imagine how many women he is probably harassing through his job? I guess it’s a numbers game but I’d put him in the category of flashers and cat callers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.

I posted earlier on page 1, and I'm still puzzled about my interactions. Is it just a part of customer service to enter your phone number into someone else's phone and then text them after, either asking for a picture or offering to meet up? Is it just being friendly to walk up to a stranger and say, "I don't mean to bother you, but you are a beautiful woman. Are you from around here?"

My take on these interactions -- which I have NEVER mentioned to anyone other than here, and dodged as quickly as I could -- was that they were likely hitting on me. Is that being delusional? Sincere question.

Wait. What? Maybe im misunderstanding your comment but why on earth would a stranger be holding your phone so they could enter their number? And then texting asking for a PICTURE?!! So incredibly creepy. This isn’t even being hit on this is just complete creep behavior. Did I read this wrong??

I don't think you read my original post on the first page.

In the first example, it was the guy in the store selling me a cell phone, and he entered his number so I could "text him if I had any problems or questions about it." And then he texted me a week later to see how things were going with the phone and offered to show me some of the local sights. Either just good customer service, or a simple compliment, according to a PP. Which, sure -- great customer service? I also thought ti was creeping.

The other was a similar sales situation, but a bit more contrived. No matter -- I also found it creepy, and I have too much going on to keep up with in my life right now anyway.

I've had cable guys give me their numbers to text if I have more issues. In no way do I think they are hitting on me. Come on, some of you are not nearly as fabulous as you think you are. I'm not fabulous, I just think they are doing their jobs and trying to get me to give them 5 stars or whatever on a customer survey review so they can win a prize.

Not to press a point, but did the cable guys also offer to be your guide to the local attractions? That was the point that pushed me into "huh, I think he is hitting on me."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.

I posted earlier on page 1, and I'm still puzzled about my interactions. Is it just a part of customer service to enter your phone number into someone else's phone and then text them after, either asking for a picture or offering to meet up? Is it just being friendly to walk up to a stranger and say, "I don't mean to bother you, but you are a beautiful woman. Are you from around here?"

My take on these interactions -- which I have NEVER mentioned to anyone other than here, and dodged as quickly as I could -- was that they were likely hitting on me. Is that being delusional? Sincere question.

Wait. What? Maybe im misunderstanding your comment but why on earth would a stranger be holding your phone so they could enter their number? And then texting asking for a PICTURE?!! So incredibly creepy. This isn’t even being hit on this is just complete creep behavior. Did I read this wrong??

I don't think you read my original post on the first page.

In the first example, it was the guy in the store selling me a cell phone, and he entered his number so I could "text him if I had any problems or questions about it." And then he texted me a week later to see how things were going with the phone and offered to show me some of the local sights. Either just good customer service, or a simple compliment, according to a PP. Which, sure -- great customer service? I also thought ti was creeping.

The other was a similar sales situation, but a bit more contrived. No matter -- I also found it creepy, and I have too much going on to keep up with in my life right now anyway.

Ewwwww. That is not a compliment, that is highly inappropriate behavior. Can you imagine how many women he is probably harassing through his job? I guess it’s a numbers game but I’d put him in the category of flashers and cat callers.

I do not disagree with the Ewwwww.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get hit on everywhere I go all the time, but it has been my experience that there are few places where men will totally refrain from hitting on or (more accurately much of the time) sexually harassing women. As for why men pick me, I have no idea. I think if you are a woman between 12 and 50, men will sexually harass you on the street with little provocation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would get hit on all.the.time when my hair was worn long and straight. I’m 5’8” 145-150.

Work
Airport
Conferences
Grocery store
Parties
(Never in a bar surprisingly)

If I cut my hair of wore it curly I was invisible

To clarify it is not “just being nice”… it’s asking out, trying to kiss, asking a friend for my number, asking for my number, etc

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.

I posted earlier on page 1, and I'm still puzzled about my interactions. Is it just a part of customer service to enter your phone number into someone else's phone and then text them after, either asking for a picture or offering to meet up? Is it just being friendly to walk up to a stranger and say, "I don't mean to bother you, but you are a beautiful woman. Are you from around here?"

My take on these interactions -- which I have NEVER mentioned to anyone other than here, and dodged as quickly as I could -- was that they were likely hitting on me. Is that being delusional? Sincere question.

Wait. What? Maybe im misunderstanding your comment but why on earth would a stranger be holding your phone so they could enter their number? And then texting asking for a PICTURE?!! So incredibly creepy. This isn’t even being hit on this is just complete creep behavior. Did I read this wrong??

I don't think you read my original post on the first page.

In the first example, it was the guy in the store selling me a cell phone, and he entered his number so I could "text him if I had any problems or questions about it." And then he texted me a week later to see how things were going with the phone and offered to show me some of the local sights. Either just good customer service, or a simple compliment, according to a PP. Which, sure -- great customer service? I also thought ti was creeping.

The other was a similar sales situation, but a bit more contrived. No matter -- I also found it creepy, and I have too much going on to keep up with in my life right now anyway.

Ewwwww. That is not a compliment, that is highly inappropriate behavior. Can you imagine how many women he is probably harassing through his job? I guess it’s a numbers game but I’d put him in the category of flashers and cat callers.

I do not disagree with the Ewwwww.

NP. I wouldn’t categorize this as being hit on, personally. A homeless man told me I have sexy feet today and I didn’t consider that being hit on, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I use to have a game where I’d go sit at a bar alone where a lot of guys were and they’d usually check me out and then he’d show up and ask if he could sit next to me and then we’d pretend we had just met. He’d buy me a drink and then 30 minutes later we’d leave together. It was a stupid thing to do but we had fun. We’re too old to do it now!

Sounds like a cuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get hit on everywhere I go all the time, but it has been my experience that there are few places where men will totally refrain from hitting on or (more accurately much of the time) sexually harassing women. As for why men pick me, I have no idea. I think if you are a woman between 12 and 50, men will sexually harass you on the street with little provocation.

This.