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[quote=Anonymous][quote]"back in the good old days" as you call it, women didn't have a lot of options, so they didn't have the luxury of being too superficial. They can now since they have more options.

Men, oth, could be superficial because they held all the power and bank accounts. Now that things are more equal, they are not happy that women are being just as superificial.[/quote]

Your concept of "the good old days when men ruled" is a strawman, constructed for feminists to attack, that never really existed in real life.

When, exactly, do you think "the good old days" were? I started dating in 1981 and men certainly did not have "all the power and bank accounts" then.

In the days when "the patriarchy" actually existed, men did not have a lot of options, either, nor could they be "too superficial".
- In those days, everyone's social circle was very small. People rarely went more than a few miles from home. The number of people you [i]could [/i]date or marry was relatively small. Men certainly did not get to have "no strings attached" sex with lots of women, not least because if you even tried it, the male relatives of those women would kill you.
- In those days, marriages were usually arranged by the parents. As a man, neither your parents nor hers would let you date (let alone marry) whoever you wanted. Your options were constrained by what your parents and the parents of the available women would permit. Marriage was too important to leave up to the emotional decisions of young men and women. 
- A man who married beneath himself, for superficial reasons, would find himself socially ostracized and cut off from his family.
- "Dating" was not even a thing before the 20th century. You did not interact with members of the opposite sex in public and unsupervised. As a man, you met women while under the supervision of her parents, and if you found a suitable woman (socially and financially) then you courted her - a formal process that took place under parental supervision - with the goal of marriage. Your "options" were not unlimited and your goal could not be superficial - you did not just get to "go out and have fun" let alone have sex - because her parents and yours wouldn't allow it.

The current "options" that men and women have in the Western world - to have as much sex with whoever they want, and to marry whoever they want - is a social experiment unprecedented in human history. Generally, people are only taught about the advantages of this system and the disadvantages of the old system ("the patriarchy") so that we think we've achieved "progress". A more balanced view is that the current system has disadvantages, and the older system had advantages, and thus the amount of "progress" is less than we are given to think.[/quote]

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