On a safari, should I try to have a fling with the guide??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m appalled. Especially during Covid.

He’ll wear a condom.

"Especially during Covid."

"He'll wear socks."


"Especially during Covid."

"He'll wear a clown wig."


"Especially during Covid."

"He'll wear chapstick."


"Especially during Covid."

"He'll wear a magic bracelet."


"Especially during Covid."

"He'll wear a condom.'



See how those things are the same, and how stupid your post was?

NP but I totally missed your point. Help me out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re not his type.

Why do you say that? FWIW, we’re both white, each have extended family in London and went to similar universities.

lol

...well that escalated quickly...

[Anonymous]

Sure but think about timing. Could be hella awkward afterwards and you still have a safari to enjoy.

[Anonymous]

Ask if he’s married first.

[Anonymous]

COVID: they’ve already been in the car a lot together.

Sex won’t make a difference at this point.

[Anonymous]

They are attracted to each other, they have similar backgrounds and upbringing. They both clearly like an adventurous lifestyle. Why can’t OP start something with this man? They don’t work together. It might be a one night stand, it might be more...

Go for it OP and then one back to tell us all about it! BTW, I am super envious! I always dreamed of living your life!

[Anonymous]

Give him a handy to gauge interest and test drive the equipment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re not his type.

Why do you say that? FWIW, we’re both white, each have extended family in London and went to similar universities.

Wow! Just wow! I kind of wish you could be id so you could lose your job, Someone with your attitude should not have the job that you do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No! You want to get a sexually transmitted disease from someone who has probably slept with many of the tourists he has taken to see the grove of trees 20 minutes out? He is using you. You will be another conquest for hi,... another notch on his belt. Have some self respect.

+1

As another long-time and current expat, just no. Terrible idea.

I hate that this is true, but when these things happen the Western woman is the one people laugh at and who usually ends up hurt or humiliated. (Lots of Western men find their first, second, third, and beyond wives this way).

How would OP end up hurt or humiliated by having a fling with a hot guy like this? She didn't say she'd like to have a fling then stay at the safari camp for the rest of her life as his wife - but oh no, he's got his eyes on the next dev worker coming through.

Well, first of all, we know two people who acquired STDs (despite condoms) sleeping with tour guide or professional boy toy type people in places like this. So that's the primary concern. But also, expat communities are small and mobile fishbowls, interconnected in ways you can't predict, and the gossip is concentrated and crazy. Almost every time we've moved to a new country, we've encountered colleagues who knew people we knew in other posts or even had people we worked with years ago suddenly pop up again. Everyone knows everything and nothing goes away, ever She'll talk or--worse--he will. Right or wrong, women who sleep with the tour guide types are regarded as pathetic, and I can't explain the reasons for that here because I don't have time, and also because I think you have to see it happen a few times to understand the dynamics of the situation. It's just a terrible idea.

+1. In addition, it is sexual harassment. OP, you are a client. It is his job to take you on safari and make you happy. But, it is not his job to sleep with you. You put him in a very awkward position by hitting on him. Even if he wants to he could be risking his job if found out.

Also, male development or humanitarian aid workers sleeping with local women, prostitutes, etc., is a major mission problem often resulting in situations of abuse, women being taken advantage of or outright criminal activity. Why would you want to normalize that by sleeping with local staff while on mission?

Just no. There are millions of men to pick up in the world. You can find someone who isn’t in an employment relationship with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are attracted to each other, they have similar backgrounds and upbringing. They both clearly like an adventurous lifestyle. Why can’t OP start something with this man? They don’t work together. It might be a one night stand, it might be more...

Go for it OP and then one back to tell us all about it! BTW, I am super envious! I always dreamed of living your life!

You forgot, they're also both white. What could go wrong?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you hot?
I’d say go for it if you can be safe.

I’m a DC 10 for sure lol

And what is a “DC 10” 20 something single women with no kids, in Africa, doing on a DC parenting forum. Weird, or made up

[Anonymous]

I am so confused about why this is a question? Better question - why is a 20 something in Africa posting on DCUM to get opinions on whether she should bang a hot guy or not? Either this is fake or you are an absolute loser. Why would you care about anyone's opinion? If he is hot and you want to, bang him. You are an adult. Act like it.

[Anonymous]

20 somethings worldwide having adventures and not worrying about escalating property prices or private school admissions flock to DCUM to further validate that they've made all the right life choices. It's a scientific fact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:20 somethings worldwide having adventures and not worrying about escalating property prices or private school admissions flock to DCUM to further validate that they've made all the right life choices. It's a scientific fact.

too funny!

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. Some day you'll be a 45 year old something married mom posting on DCUM about your sexless marriage. Have fun while you can.