On a safari, should I try to have a fling with the guide??
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Anonymous
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DCUM, help me out here. Long story short, I’m an ngo development worker out in Africa somewhere and I’m staying in a totally deserted lodge for a few days. Like, only me and the small staff. And the guide is HOT. He’s taken me out for several drives and hikes at this point and our conversations are so fun, full of banter and flirtation. Some of the drives/hikes are only meant to be 2-3 hours but I can tell how he is stretching them out for longer (oh, let me just show you these interesting trees, only 20 min out of the way) so I think he is interested as well. Can I put the moves on him at some point or is that wildly inappropriate?
FWIW, I am a late 20 woman (he is the same age) and if he wasn’t interested I would back off immediately. What say you, DCUM?? |
Anonymous
| Yes of course. That's what being a development worker is all about - sleeping your way around the world. |
Anonymous
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Why not?
Wear a condom. |
Anonymous
| On that continent, you would be wise to insist on condoms. |
Anonymous
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Once you commit to safe sex, then: why not?
Ah - to be 20 again. |
Anonymous
I was just thinking! OMG have a great time, OP. And then please come back and give us boring middle aged married people who aren't going ANYWHERE right now the details. You know what? I don't even care if this whole thing is made up. |
Anonymous
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OP here - late 20s - typo ok my first post. Yes, safe sex of course.
But how do I make this happen? I feel like all my game has evaporated this past pandemic year 
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Anonymous
| As long as he's not married either, why not? |
Anonymous
| No! You want to get a sexually transmitted disease from someone who has probably slept with many of the tourists he has taken to see the grove of trees 20 minutes out? He is using you. You will be another conquest for hi,... another notch on his belt. Have some self respect. |
Anonymous
| Of course. Just be safe. |
Anonymous
| You’re not his type. |
Anonymous
Why do you say that? FWIW, we’re both white, each have extended family in London and went to similar universities. |
Anonymous
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Are you hot?
I’d say go for it if you can be safe. |
Anonymous
Obviously you ask him to take you to where the tourists don't go - off the beaten track, etc. Or possibly a walk along a river to see a hippopotamus. The animals are out at twilight, then linger ... all the while asking him all sorts of questions so he can feel like you are really interested. Then when you are standing (or sitting) close to him, lean a bit closer ... possibly it is chillier than you would have thought, should have brought a sweater ... etc etc etc - Former development worker |
Anonymous
| Are you married? |