On a safari, should I try to have a fling with the guide??

[Anonymous]

YAAAAS! This is so the meet cute plot of A Christmas Prince: Tanzania Dreams. You do you, girl! Get it!

[Anonymous]

Your stories are improving. One day you'll make it big! I have faith in you aspiring screenwriter/ novelist. Dream big beyond DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No! You want to get a sexually transmitted disease from someone who has probably slept with many of the tourists he has taken to see the grove of trees 20 minutes out? He is using you. You will be another conquest for hi,... another notch on his belt. Have some self respect.

+1

As another long-time and current expat, just no. Terrible idea.

I hate that this is true, but when these things happen the Western woman is the one people laugh at and who usually ends up hurt or humiliated. (Lots of Western men find their first, second, third, and beyond wives this way).

[Anonymous]

I’m appalled. This is just wildly inappropriate and wrong. Especially during Covid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No! You want to get a sexually transmitted disease from someone who has probably slept with many of the tourists he has taken to see the grove of trees 20 minutes out? He is using you. You will be another conquest for hi,... another notch on his belt. Have some self respect.

+1

As another long-time and current expat, just no. Terrible idea.

I hate that this is true, but when these things happen the Western woman is the one people laugh at and who usually ends up hurt or humiliated. (Lots of Western men find their first, second, third, and beyond wives this way).

How would OP end up hurt or humiliated by having a fling with a hot guy like this? She didn't say she'd like to have a fling then stay at the safari camp for the rest of her life as his wife - but oh no, he's got his eyes on the next dev worker coming through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No! You want to get a sexually transmitted disease from someone who has probably slept with many of the tourists he has taken to see the grove of trees 20 minutes out? He is using you. You will be another conquest for hi,... another notch on his belt. Have some self respect.

Sexist much? women want sex too so maybe OP is using him. if they are both into it, why not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Condoms and penicillin.

Enjoy.

WE ARE STILL IN A COVID ENVIRONMENT!!

Wtf

No. Don't do it. Do you want to be sick with covid all the way in BFE wherever you are??

She’d said there’d be condoms-required. It’s fine.

Duh.

[Anonymous]

I am a middle-aged woman in practical shoes, housebound in suburbia for the last year and married for 25.

For the sweet love of the Flying Spaghetti Monster, OP, do it! If not for you, then for all of us living vicariously through you.

[Anonymous]

My friend did this with her scuba instructor in Belize and still got herpes despite the condom and him not showing signs. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Show him a video of two wild animals mating and ask if he can re-enact it with you.

Perfect!

[Anonymous]

I would enjoy the flirting and say yes if he asks (and you want to) but don’t ask him. He’s at work. He could just be buttering you up for tips. Or he could be bored and enjoy your company! Or he could want to bang. But if he does and you miss out, nbd, the flirtation is probably the most fun part anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m appalled. Especially during Covid.

He’ll wear a condom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No! You want to get a sexually transmitted disease from someone who has probably slept with many of the tourists he has taken to see the grove of trees 20 minutes out? He is using you. You will be another conquest for hi,... another notch on his belt. Have some self respect.

+1

As another long-time and current expat, just no. Terrible idea.

I hate that this is true, but when these things happen the Western woman is the one people laugh at and who usually ends up hurt or humiliated. (Lots of Western men find their first, second, third, and beyond wives this way).

How would OP end up hurt or humiliated by having a fling with a hot guy like this? She didn't say she'd like to have a fling then stay at the safari camp for the rest of her life as his wife - but oh no, he's got his eyes on the next dev worker coming through.

Well, first of all, we know two people who acquired STDs (despite condoms) sleeping with tour guide or professional boy toy type people in places like this. So that's the primary concern. But also, expat communities are small and mobile fishbowls, interconnected in ways you can't predict, and the gossip is concentrated and crazy. Almost every time we've moved to a new country, we've encountered colleagues who knew people we knew in other posts or even had people we worked with years ago suddenly pop up again. Everyone knows everything and nothing goes away, ever She'll talk or--worse--he will. Right or wrong, women who sleep with the tour guide types are regarded as pathetic, and I can't explain the reasons for that here because I don't have time, and also because I think you have to see it happen a few times to understand the dynamics of the situation. It's just a terrible idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m appalled. Especially during Covid.

He’ll wear a condom.

"Especially during Covid."

"He'll wear socks."


"Especially during Covid."

"He'll wear a clown wig."


"Especially during Covid."

"He'll wear chapstick."


"Especially during Covid."

"He'll wear a magic bracelet."


"Especially during Covid."

"He'll wear a condom.'



See how those things are the same, and how stupid your post was?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re not his type.

Why do you say that? FWIW, we’re both white, each have extended family in London and went to similar universities.

lol