Do any of your boyfriends/ husbands like you a normal weight vs skinny?

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Ummm ... ok?

I didn't post that picture but if you can't tell the person is showing that "maybe 23% body fat, with a bit of a tummy, hips, thighs, and just more meat on me overall" is a feminine beauty ideal that goes way, way back, I don't know how to help you.

All these PPs trying to convince OP her boyfriend is a chubby chaser or she must be obese because he isn't looking for someone with a six pack to match his are the crazies on the thread.

He's not a Chubby Chaser.

He's a Feeder.

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OP is asking about skinny vs NORMAL. Not being overweight or obese.

If men had to pick, I think the vast majority of men would pick a woman with a BMI of 23 more appealing over a BMI of 18.

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Ummm ... ok?

I didn't post that picture but if you can't tell the person is showing that "maybe 23% body fat, with a bit of a tummy, hips, thighs, and just more meat on me overall" is a feminine beauty ideal that goes way, way back, I don't know how to help you.

All these PPs trying to convince OP her boyfriend is a chubby chaser or she must be obese because he isn't looking for someone with a six pack to match his are the crazies on the thread.

He's not a Chubby Chaser.

He's a Feeder.

I dont think you know what either of those words mean. Sad.

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Yes.

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Anonymous wrote:The feminine ideal has long been curvy and soft, so yes, this is very normal and not a surprise at all.

Umm ... no it hasn’t been.

Yes, it has. Are you the same poster who's been going on nonstop about how 115 and 5'5 is not underweight? Because... maybe it's time to push back from the computer and take a walk. That will burn calories and keep you from gaining weight, which I'm sure you're thrilled about.

No, I’m the PP who said 5’5’’ 115 is nearly underweight (it’s 3 lbs away from being clinically underweight).

But take one look at any TV show or movie. How many chubby girls do you see?

Right, but I said "long".. as in for a very long time. Aka I'm not talking about a TV show filmed within the past 5 years.

And I actually see a fair amount of "normal weight" girls on TV more and more.

Show me a TV show filmed in the last 50 years that has a chubby girl on it as a main character. The only one I can think of is Roseanne.

Off the top of my head


Shrill, the parkers, ugly betty, girls ( lena dunham is not thin)

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Anonymous wrote:I've always been on the very thin side even after two kids. I'm active, eat healthy foods and stay the same size. I always get comments from family and strangers about how thin I am. It's wrong that people so openly discuss someone's thinness but would never do the same to a person who is overweight

wrong.

People always think they can comment if someone is overweight or has gained weight.

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Wow this thread has some crazies....
To answer the actual questions - Yes, my DH does not like skinny, and neither did any of my exes. They also liked that I am not diet crazy and can actually enjoy eating with no guilt, thinking anything is "bad" or other weird attitudes towards food.

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I think DH likes me on the thinner side. I was heavier when we met (5’5” 170). I’ve worked hard over the years, and I’m now around 140. My goal weight is 125, but I’m struggling with the last 15 lbs.

DH comments if I eat something unhealthy ie high calorie. If he’s serving food he gives me the tiniest portion. Example - I weigh my food and eat 4oz of protein at each meal. We had streak and he gave me a very small piece. I weighed it, and it was 2.5 oz. I added meat so my price was 4 oz. He said, wow that looks like a lot for you.

He won’t comment on my appearance, but says he wants to support my healthy habits. I imagine it’s a difficult spot for spouses - we should love our mates at any weight. He doesn’t hide well that he prefers the smaller version of me. While 140 isn’t exactly skinny, I think he’d like if I could get down to 125.

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Anonymous wrote:I think DH likes me on the thinner side. I was heavier when we met (5’5” 170). I’ve worked hard over the years, and I’m now around 140. My goal weight is 125, but I’m struggling with the last 15 lbs.

DH comments if I eat something unhealthy ie high calorie. If he’s serving food he gives me the tiniest portion. Example - I weigh my food and eat 4oz of protein at each meal. We had streak and he gave me a very small piece. I weighed it, and it was 2.5 oz. I added meat so my price was 4 oz. He said, wow that looks like a lot for you.

He won’t comment on my appearance, but says he wants to support my healthy habits. I imagine it’s a difficult spot for spouses - we should love our mates at any weight. He doesn’t hide well that he prefers the smaller version of me. While 140 isn’t exactly skinny, I think he’d like if I could get down to 125.

How big is he? Is he a fitness nut?

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Anonymous wrote:I think DH likes me on the thinner side. I was heavier when we met (5’5” 170). I’ve worked hard over the years, and I’m now around 140. My goal weight is 125, but I’m struggling with the last 15 lbs.

DH comments if I eat something unhealthy ie high calorie. If he’s serving food he gives me the tiniest portion. Example - I weigh my food and eat 4oz of protein at each meal. We had streak and he gave me a very small piece. I weighed it, and it was 2.5 oz. I added meat so my price was 4 oz. He said, wow that looks like a lot for you.

He won’t comment on my appearance, but says he wants to support my healthy habits. I imagine it’s a difficult spot for spouses - we should love our mates at any weight. He doesn’t hide well that he prefers the smaller version of me. While 140 isn’t exactly skinny, I think he’d like if I could get down to 125.

How big is he? Is he a fitness nut?

He is fit and exercises regularly. He doesn’t always eat well, but goes on super health kicks where he only eats a handful of almonds for dinner. He’s a great guy and we have an otherwise great life together. The weight issue is a weird dynamic that I sort of look past. It’s partly my issue as well - I didn’t get so big without my own host of food issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow this thread has some crazies....
To answer the actual questions - Yes, my DH does not like skinny, and neither did any of my exes. They also liked that I am not diet crazy and can actually enjoy eating with no guilt, thinking anything is "bad" or other weird attitudes towards food.

+1. Mine had a girlfriend who was anorexic and it really did a number on him in terms of not wanting to be with someone who has food issues. I can have a day when I get busy and won't eat for a longer period and he is quickly in the refrigerator looking to heat me up a plate of something while I work. Pre-covid we enjoyed eating out a lot and now we do a lot of cooking. I'm normal weight at 5'5 and around 125, but I have been slightly higher and as low as 105 and he vastly prefers the higher end.

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Anonymous wrote:Im not sure what you mean by “normal weight”. I’m 5’5 and 115 pounds. I’m 55 years old. Other than when I was pregnant, I’ve been the same weight since high school. 115 is normal for me. I eat a ton. I’m just very active. I’ll never be heavier than this. My husband seems ok with it given the obesity too often seen in women my age.

Presumably "normal weight" as in the normal weight range as designated by the government. You would probably be underweight, aka not that range

Considering OP mentions stomach fat I assume she means America "Normal" or overweight. The pp you are replying to is not underweight.

5’5’’ 115 is a BMI of 19.13. It’s barely within the healthy range.

It's well within the healthy range.

Under 20% for women is just outside the healthy range

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Anonymous wrote:I think DH likes me on the thinner side. I was heavier when we met (5’5” 170). I’ve worked hard over the years, and I’m now around 140. My goal weight is 125, but I’m struggling with the last 15 lbs.

DH comments if I eat something unhealthy ie high calorie. If he’s serving food he gives me the tiniest portion. Example - I weigh my food and eat 4oz of protein at each meal. We had streak and he gave me a very small piece. I weighed it, and it was 2.5 oz. I added meat so my price was 4 oz. He said, wow that looks like a lot for you.

He won’t comment on my appearance, but says he wants to support my healthy habits. I imagine it’s a difficult spot for spouses - we should love our mates at any weight. He doesn’t hide well that he prefers the smaller version of me. While 140 isn’t exactly skinny, I think he’d like if I could get down to 125.

How big is he? Is he a fitness nut?

He is fit and exercises regularly. He doesn’t always eat well, but goes on super health kicks where he only eats a handful of almonds for dinner. He’s a great guy and we have an otherwise great life together. The weight issue is a weird dynamic that I sort of look past. It’s partly my issue as well - I didn’t get so big without my own host of food issues.

So he's very lean, body fat wise?

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Dh likes me at around a size 8. I can tell by his reactions.

I've been a size 4 and a size 18. So he's had the full range of my sizes. But an an 8 I've got big boobs, a nice butt, and a small waist. I wish I appreciated my body at that size as.much as he does

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Anonymous wrote:Dh likes me at around a size 8. I can tell by his reactions.

I've been a size 4 and a size 18. So he's had the full range of my sizes. But an an 8 I've got big boobs, a nice butt, and a small waist. I wish I appreciated my body at that size as.much as he does

DH is exactly like that.

I am in the 8 to 10 range and at 48 he seems more attracted to my body now than at any time in the last 23 years.