Do any of your boyfriends/ husbands like you a normal weight vs skinny?

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So is this supposed to be the epitome of feminine beauty?

We should all be white, with long blonde hair and approximately 135 lbs?

Yes. All paintings are orders that everyone in the world must look like the person depicted in it. It's also shaming people who cant fly or blow hurricanes out of their mouths

You yourself said you posted it as a representation of feminine beauty, You chose it. Don't bother gaslighting.

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Ummm ... ok?

I didn't post that picture but if you can't tell the person is showing that "maybe 23% body fat, with a bit of a tummy, hips, thighs, and just more meat on me overall" is a feminine beauty ideal that goes way, way back, I don't know how to help you.

All these PPs trying to convince OP her boyfriend is a chubby chaser or she must be obese because he isn't looking for someone with a six pack to match his are the crazies on the thread.

No one is doing that. That is you projecting.

Considering OP mentions stomach fat I assume she means America "Normal" or overweight.

Yes, a lot of men like chubbier women, but I find it concerning that your man is a health nut so he should no the major health conditions belly fat could mean, and yet he wants that for you,

So you're sticking with "cannot read," I take it?

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So is this supposed to be the epitome of feminine beauty?

We should all be white, with long blonde hair and approximately 135 lbs?

Yes. All paintings are orders that everyone in the world must look like the person depicted in it. It's also shaming people who cant fly or blow hurricanes out of their mouths

You yourself said you posted it as a representation of feminine beauty, You chose it. Don't bother gaslighting.

And almost every other painting depicting beautiful women from that period has the exact same body type. Dont know why this upsets you so much but oh well

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Anonymous wrote:Sure. My husband prefers me on the heavier side, like close to overweight. I prefer being thin and lean. I win, because it's my body. But there's indeed variation in male aesthetic preferences.

I agree with this. I take real issue with men who feel they have a say in their wife/girlfriends weight , and that he'd want her to put his views above her personal comfort that's an issue for me.

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So is this supposed to be the epitome of feminine beauty?

We should all be white, with long blonde hair and approximately 135 lbs?

Yes. All paintings are orders that everyone in the world must look like the person depicted in it. It's also shaming people who cant fly or blow hurricanes out of their mouths

You yourself said you posted it as a representation of feminine beauty, You chose it. Don't bother gaslighting.

And almost every other painting depicting beautiful women from that period has the exact same body type. Dont know why this upsets you so much but oh well

So you do think the feminine ideal is white and blone an 135 lbs.

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So is this supposed to be the epitome of feminine beauty?

We should all be white, with long blonde hair and approximately 135 lbs?

Yes. All paintings are orders that everyone in the world must look like the person depicted in it. It's also shaming people who cant fly or blow hurricanes out of their mouths

You yourself said you posted it as a representation of feminine beauty, You chose it. Don't bother gaslighting.

And almost every other painting depicting beautiful women from that period has the exact same body type. Dont know why this upsets you so much but oh well

So you do think the feminine ideal is white and blone an 135 lbs.

It's also laughable that you think this and maybe the handful of paintings you have seen from the period reprsents the ideal for women of an entire time period accross all cultures.

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Yes!!

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So is this supposed to be the epitome of feminine beauty?

We should all be white, with long blonde hair and approximately 135 lbs?

Yes. All paintings are orders that everyone in the world must look like the person depicted in it. It's also shaming people who cant fly or blow hurricanes out of their mouths

You yourself said you posted it as a representation of feminine beauty, You chose it. Don't bother gaslighting.

And almost every other painting depicting beautiful women from that period has the exact same body type. Dont know why this upsets you so much but oh well

So you do think the feminine ideal is white and blone an 135 lbs.

Well I mean it was made in Italy so yeah, pretty predictable that her skin color is white. Although- are you colorblind? Her hair is red. And considering this thread is about WEIGHT, that's obviously what comes up in this photo. Plenty of other pics where this came from. But you can stay angry about it.

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I am normal weight. Right smack in the middle of the “normal” range for my height. 5’5” 125 lbs. By current standards I would say I am thin. My husband seems fine with my weight but if it were to swing one way or the other, he would prefer up vs down. Too thin looks unhealthy. But 10 lbs over just looks softer and curvier, but not unhealthy.

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A little cushion for the pushin, as the kids say

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Anonymous wrote:I've always been on the very thin side even after two kids. I'm active, eat healthy foods and stay the same size. I always get comments from family and strangers about how thin I am. It's wrong that people so openly discuss someone's thinness but would never do the same to a person who is overweight

Actually people do very often talk about overweight individuals in the open. The difference is that people discuss obesity with disgust and thinness with reverence/jealousy. So I agree they shouldn’t be commented on anybody’s body, but don’t go around feeling that your plight is the same or harder than an obese person because your family talk about your thinness. Have you read the This Is Us threads on dcum? How many threads and multiple posters talk about how “distracting” Kate’s weight is to them and it makes it hard for them to watch scenes with her in it 🙄 I’ve never heard anyone say that about Beth who is quite thin. Or I’m blaming on the friend pregnant with Kevin’s babies. I’ve been overweight and I’ve been thin, and the comments on my m
Body when I was thin were much much kinder than when I was not.

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Anonymous wrote:Most guys want something a little soft and curvy in bed. They don’t like it when you’re stick thin and bony. That doesn’t mean they’re trying to jeopardize your health or make you be obese - they just want something to hold on to.

Complete truth. My husband also doesn't like when I get "too thin" which to him is a size 2-4. He definitely likes me at size 6 better.
My mom has told me that my dad has complained that she is too thin (likening her to a bag of coathangers? What a d!ick thing for my dad to say). He likes her a little less thin.

All the men I've dated have liked my little tummy.

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Anonymous wrote:Sure. My husband prefers me on the heavier side, like close to overweight. I prefer being thin and lean. I win, because it's my body. But there's indeed variation in male aesthetic preferences.

I agree with this. I take real issue with men who feel they have a say in their wife/girlfriends weight , and that he'd want her to put his views above her personal comfort that's an issue for me.

Oh, please. Nobody is asking if your DH makes you diet or gain weight intentionally. He has a preference. Just like a wife/girlfriend gets to have a preference on her DH/boyfriend. If he gets too fat he's going to hear about it.

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Anonymous wrote:The feminine ideal has long been curvy and soft, so yes, this is very normal and not a surprise at all.

Umm ... no it hasn’t been.

Yes, it has. Are you the same poster who's been going on nonstop about how 115 and 5'5 is not underweight? Because... maybe it's time to push back from the computer and take a walk. That will burn calories and keep you from gaining weight, which I'm sure you're thrilled about.

No, I’m the PP who said 5’5’’ 115 is nearly underweight (it’s 3 lbs away from being clinically underweight).

But take one look at any TV show or movie. How many chubby girls do you see?

Right, but I said "long".. as in for a very long time. Aka I'm not talking about a TV show filmed within the past 5 years.

And I actually see a fair amount of "normal weight" girls on TV more and more.

Show me a TV show filmed in the last 50 years that has a chubby girl on it as a main character. The only one I can think of is Roseanne.

I never said "chubby", I said normal weight. I would say a few of the girls on Riverdale, just off the top of my head, would fall into that category. I dont watch much TV, tbh, so my list of references is fairly short. But I know that's a big one.

Derry Girls is one with normal weight girls in it.

Roseanne wasn't just chubby. She was simply overweight. Obese, even.

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There was also a legitimately plus sized girl on Euphoria. Barbie Ferreira. She was also set up as a love interest/sex symbol