Was accidentally on a group text...

[Anonymous]

They started a separate group text without you on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing you say is going to make her feel bad. Your kid is a wild child, most likely everyone in that text feels the same way.

+1

My first reaction would be to step back and think "is my kid's behavior out of control" before getting all defensive. But most people think their kids are perfect or not that bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is nice that they are including your child. He must be a nightmare. Be glad you have friends and laugh it off.

Most young boys are nightmares.

As a mom of boys (and a girl), I agree that young boys are much harder to handle than young girls, but parenting still plays an enormous part. My boys actually have ADHD but nobody outside the home would guess that. I have very strong expectations on behavior and we only attend things that they can handle. If one is having a bad day for example, they (or maybe all of us) stay home. Or we come home immediately. They know how it works - best behavior only.

So you punish your other kids for their siblings behavior...Your parenting as good as you think it is.

I am a mother of two girls and a cousin and aunty to many young boys. They are different. There is not enough "good" parenting in the world to change this.

[Anonymous]

I'd reply "Susie, did you get started on the wine early and not realize that I (Larlo's mom) am on this group text? Yikes."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing you say is going to make her feel bad. Your kid is a wild child, most likely everyone in that text feels the same way.

+1

My first reaction would be to step back and think "is my kid's behavior out of control" before getting all defensive. But most people think their kids are perfect or not that bad.

Not really some women are overly controlling and sensitive.

We just got rid of them from our friends group so our boys could play in peace.

[Anonymous]

I would not confront her in the group text. If you are compelled, say something to her face-to-face in private.

[Anonymous]

No one responded, because one of the other moms texted her separately and told her she screwed up. They're waiting to see if you respond. Please let us know what you did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd reply "Susie, did you get started on the wine early and not realize that I (Larlo's mom) am on this group text? Yikes."

Maybe the other mom just doesn't care anymore. Manners only matter when the other person has them too. It seems like OP knows her kid is a problem but just doesn't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one responded, because one of the other moms texted her separately and told her she screwed up. They're waiting to see if you respond. Please let us know what you did.

If the friends didn't agree, then one or more people would have texted OP privately to apologize and make it clear that the rude one doesn't speak for the group. It sounds like they all feel that way though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is nice that they are including your child. He must be a nightmare. Be glad you have friends and laugh it off.

Most young boys are nightmares.

As a mom of boys (and a girl), I agree that young boys are much harder to handle than young girls, but parenting still plays an enormous part. My boys actually have ADHD but nobody outside the home would guess that. I have very strong expectations on behavior and we only attend things that they can handle. If one is having a bad day for example, they (or maybe all of us) stay home. Or we come home immediately. They know how it works - best behavior only.

So you punish your other kids for their siblings behavior...Your parenting as good as you think it is.

I am a mother of two girls and a cousin and aunty to many young boys. They are different. There is not enough "good" parenting in the world to change this.

Seriously. Parents of only girls or girl+boy are SO JUDGY of all boy sibling sets. They really have no idea. I consider myself a good parent and my boys are well behaved. Boys are just different though.

[Anonymous]

OP come on update us.

[Anonymous]

“That was really rude and hurtful, Susie.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is nice that they are including your child. He must be a nightmare. Be glad you have friends and laugh it off.

Most young boys are nightmares.

As a mom of boys (and a girl), I agree that young boys are much harder to handle than young girls, but parenting still plays an enormous part. My boys actually have ADHD but nobody outside the home would guess that. I have very strong expectations on behavior and we only attend things that they can handle. If one is having a bad day for example, they (or maybe all of us) stay home. Or we come home immediately. They know how it works - best behavior only.

So you punish your other kids for their siblings behavior...Your parenting as good as you think it is.

I am a mother of two girls and a cousin and aunty to many young boys. They are different. There is not enough "good" parenting in the world to change this.

Seriously. Parents of only girls or girl+boy are SO JUDGY of all boy sibling sets. They really have no idea. I consider myself a good parent and my boys are well behaved. Boys are just different though.

No, that generalization is a lie. Some boys are a handful, and some girls are too!!!

[Anonymous]

I would just reply with “wow.” Let her stew and drop them all as friends. They were 100% all talking about you/and your kid outside of this text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is nice that they are including your child. He must be a nightmare. Be glad you have friends and laugh it off.

Most young boys are nightmares.

As a mom of boys (and a girl), I agree that young boys are much harder to handle than young girls, but parenting still plays an enormous part. My boys actually have ADHD but nobody outside the home would guess that. I have very strong expectations on behavior and we only attend things that they can handle. If one is having a bad day for example, they (or maybe all of us) stay home. Or we come home immediately. They know how it works - best behavior only.

So you punish your other kids for their siblings behavior...Your parenting as good as you think it is.

I am a mother of two girls and a cousin and aunty to many young boys. They are different. There is not enough "good" parenting in the world to change this.

Seriously. Parents of only girls or girl+boy are SO JUDGY of all boy sibling sets. They really have no idea. I consider myself a good parent and my boys are well behaved. Boys are just different though.

No, that generalization is a lie. Some boys are a handful, and some girls are too!!!

True but in my own personal experience for the last 6 years as a parent it’s true. Of course there have been a few exceptions for some fun, wild girls in our group. But for the most part they are typical girly girls and their energy seems to balance that of their brothers. Only boy or all boy sibling sets are just a different ball game. Some can’t hang and that’s okay. They should just shut up and stop patting themselves on the back in the meantime.