My spouse says I never agree or always present a counter point

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dude. You have a choice to make in your marriage. Would you rather be right (and have your wife see you as a jerk) or would you rather be happy (and have to deal with some irrational behavior)?

Written by a man who has been married almost 2 decades and wanted to be more right than happy early on in his marriage and is still paying the price for it. I choose happiness today.

I like this response best. Thanks for sharing. It’s good advice and seems reasonable. I know in the age of outrage it’s crazy to say this, but I’ve come to see women (and I dated many before marriage) as generally much more emotionally inconsistent and volatile with regard to personality. Men are just more even tempered on the whole.

Thanks to all who said I was a lesbian. That’s a nice dream, but no, I am a guy. Lotta hate on this thread, but you all do you.

Jaysus you still don't get it do you OP. You walking around think you're 100% right all the time is going to show up regardless of how you tamp it down. You aren't doing anyone a favor by being so "smart". You are SUPER lucky to have found someone willing to be married to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dude. You have a choice to make in your marriage. Would you rather be right (and have your wife see you as a jerk) or would you rather be happy (and have to deal with some irrational behavior)?

Written by a man who has been married almost 2 decades and wanted to be more right than happy early on in his marriage and is still paying the price for it. I choose happiness today.

I like this response best. Thanks for sharing. It’s good advice and seems reasonable. I know in the age of outrage it’s crazy to say this, but I’ve come to see women (and I dated many before marriage) as generally much more emotionally inconsistent and volatile with regard to personality. Men are just more even tempered on the whole.

Thanks to all who said I was a lesbian. That’s a nice dream, but no, I am a guy. Lotta hate on this thread, but you all do you.

Trolly troll trolls.

[Anonymous]

There is a Grand Canyon between "walking on eggshells" and saying things that are intentionally cruel or unnecessarily argumentative.

Blaming it on your wife's emotional sensitivity or female hormones is a total cop-out. Just own the fact that you're an a-hole who doesn't consider anyone else's feelings.

Three guidelines to consider when deciding whether you really need to speak your mind:
1. Is it true?
2. Is it kind?
3. Is it necessary?

Even my 5yo gets these rules. You seem to be consistently failing #2 and 3, at least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dude. You have a choice to make in your marriage. Would you rather be right (and have your wife see you as a jerk) or would you rather be happy (and have to deal with some irrational behavior)?

Written by a man who has been married almost 2 decades and wanted to be more right than happy early on in his marriage and is still paying the price for it. I choose happiness today.

I like this response best. Thanks for sharing. It’s good advice and seems reasonable. I know in the age of outrage it’s crazy to say this, but I’ve come to see women (and I dated many before marriage) as generally much more emotionally inconsistent and volatile with regard to personality. Men are just more even tempered on the whole.

Thanks to all who said I was a lesbian. That’s a nice dream, but no, I am a guy. Lotta hate on this thread, but you all do you.

You're hilarious. I'll grant that you are consistent w/r/t personality, but it's because you consistently suck. Imagine thinking you're brave for this edgelord nonsense.

I really hope you're 25.

[Anonymous]

wow OP, you are so wrong.

All i keep hearing in your many responses is "My opinion is the correct one, I should be able to tell me wife that I think that her opinion is wrong and silly, because my opinion is the right one. I know my wife doesn't feel good when i do this, but my opinion is right, so I am going to keep doing it even though my wife is hurt by it"

notice this is all about OPINIONS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The general Takeaway I’m getting from this thread, is that I should simply bite my tongue, let things be and have a Coke and a smile and STFU. Lol. Thanks, all.

You should learn how to navigate the world, which is not to appoint yourself instructor on all things to everyone around you. If you interpret that as oppression, cool.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I do think that I have hit my limit in the last few years in entertaining or humoring conspiracy theories, anti-intellectualism, and anti-science views. Whether it’s 71 million people believing that Trump had his election stolen from him or that he is a good president, or that microwaves cause cancer or suck all the nutrients out of food or change the chemical composition of water, or that a skin cream actually does all that it claims. Basically, I can take a joke and generally have thick skin, maybe that’s more of a male trait, and I’m sorry I don’t mean to sound misogynistic, end it is my wife’s time of the month, which again I don’t mean to sound misogynistic or patronizing, but she does get annoyed and we you get in more fights around this time, but I want to be able to speak my mind not worry about offending somebody.

Translation, you want permission to be a jerk and not suffer consequences for it.

How is disagreeing or presenting relevant, science based evidence, being a jerk? Why indulge untruths, or present a counter claim, and have to live in fear of a harsh response? Microwaves are more the enemy. Botox works, most skin creams probably don’t (except for some with very specific ingredients)...

I don’t always disagree. We agree on many things, but I would want to be with someone who would be honest rather than a yes man.

A better question is to ask yourself - what are you trying to gain by disagreeing? it sure does sound like you want to point out, not only that you disagree, but that you think her opinion on the matter is wrong and ignorant. That is the problem

[Anonymous]

Dear Wife of OP, who I dearly hope finds this thread:

Girl, I hope you get all the face cream money you can out of this douchenozzle in the divorce settlement. Also, and importantly: Which cream? Where did you get it? Do you want to meet up for a Sephora session and some cocktails sometime?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dude. You have a choice to make in your marriage. Would you rather be right (and have your wife see you as a jerk) or would you rather be happy (and have to deal with some irrational behavior)?

Written by a man who has been married almost 2 decades and wanted to be more right than happy early on in his marriage and is still paying the price for it. I choose happiness today.

I like this response best. Thanks for sharing. It’s good advice and seems reasonable. I know in the age of outrage it’s crazy to say this, but I’ve come to see women (and I dated many before marriage) as generally much more emotionally inconsistent and volatile with regard to personality. Men are just more even tempered on the whole.

Thanks to all who said I was a lesbian. That’s a nice dream, but no, I am a guy. Lotta hate on this thread, but you all do you.

Jesus OP, keep it up with the misogyny! enjoy your lonely post-divorced life! You wife's new man will LOVE her facecream

[Anonymous]

Husband creates a thread to complain about wife who thinks that he's argumentative and likes to disagree all the time.

Husband then proceeds to argue and disagree with almost all posters.

lolz.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dude. You have a choice to make in your marriage. Would you rather be right (and have your wife see you as a jerk) or would you rather be happy (and have to deal with some irrational behavior)?

Written by a man who has been married almost 2 decades and wanted to be more right than happy early on in his marriage and is still paying the price for it. I choose happiness today.

I like this response best. Thanks for sharing. It’s good advice and seems reasonable. I know in the age of outrage it’s crazy to say this, but I’ve come to see women (and I dated many before marriage) as generally much more emotionally inconsistent and volatile with regard to personality. Men are just more even tempered on the whole.

Thanks to all who said I was a lesbian. That’s a nice dream, but no, I am a guy. Lotta hate on this thread, but you all do you.

Tell that to the guys who have a meltdown when their sports team loses, rage when their presidential candidate doesn't win, punch a dude at a bar for looking at him the wrong way, or retaliate against women who reject them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband creates a thread to complain about wife who thinks that he's argumentative and likes to disagree all the time.

Husband then proceeds to argue and disagree with almost all posters.

lolz.

Ha. This.

OP, you need to work on your emotional intelligence. How difficult would it have been to tell her she looked beautiful? She was making an attempt to feel some love and hear some encouragement from you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dude. You have a choice to make in your marriage. Would you rather be right (and have your wife see you as a jerk) or would you rather be happy (and have to deal with some irrational behavior)?

Written by a man who has been married almost 2 decades and wanted to be more right than happy early on in his marriage and is still paying the price for it. I choose happiness today.

I like this response best. Thanks for sharing. It’s good advice and seems reasonable. I know in the age of outrage it’s crazy to say this, but I’ve come to see women (and I dated many before marriage) as generally much more emotionally inconsistent and volatile with regard to personality. Men are just more even tempered on the whole.

Thanks to all who said I was a lesbian. That’s a nice dream, but no, I am a guy. Lotta hate on this thread, but you all do you.

Tell that to the guys who have a meltdown when their sports team loses, rage when their presidential candidate doesn't win, punch a dude at a bar for looking at him the wrong way, or retaliate against women who reject them.

this!

men are the real sensitive little snowflakes, we all know this. The are just big toddlers.

[Anonymous]

To add clarity, I told my wife she looks great, but that it was probably sleep and water that are the more important factors than an over the counter cream. Obviously, I can see the error of my ways now. I should not have dared to assert such “mansplaining” idiocy. I throw myself at the mercy of you happily married anonymous posters. The “get a divorce, girl!!!!l” posters definitely come across as stable and completely non-catty. Great advice across the board. Also, to you folks who don’t want a microwave because they magically inject cancer into your food or somehow detrimentally change its molecular structure more power to you. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To add clarity, I told my wife she looks great, but that it was probably sleep and water that are the more important factors than an over the counter cream. Obviously, I can see the error of my ways now. I should not have dared to assert such “mansplaining” idiocy. I throw myself at the mercy of you happily married anonymous posters. The “get a divorce, girl!!!!l” posters definitely come across as stable and completely non-catty. Great advice across the board. Also, to you folks who don’t want a microwave because they magically inject cancer into your food or somehow detrimentally change its molecular structure more power to you. Lol.

So, this is directed at exactly no one?

You're really starting to seem sad OP. Between the "I've dated a lot of women, believe you me!" and this ineffective attempt at a parting shot, it's just all so . . . pitiable.