Why do husbands never leave for the affair partner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men usually don’t leave bc men tend to affair down. They are looking for opportunity, not someone to date and grow a relationship. It’s common that the affair partner is much less attractive, accomplished, etc than the wife. Women tend to cheat for more emotional reasons and often are looking for exits.

Men seek affairs for their sexual needs that are not met within the marriage, in order to stay in the marriage. For that purpose, affair-ing up or down or sideways are all valid.
Women are rarely driven to affairs by unmet sexual needs (and let's face it her boring husband is right there if ever she "needs" sex) so there is just a lot more behind their affair choices.

if they accidentally knock them up, a lot will end up leaving to play house with the new family

[Anonymous]

Man here: i quite agree. Some fall in love with their AP, and some want family 2.0, but mostly they just want sex. Haven’t you ever slept with someone you did not see as relationship material?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They leave if they have money and financially secure and independent. As PP said it depends on your social status.

Umm. Not.

Donald Trump did. Twice.

[Anonymous]

+1. Factors for staying include big financial hit to leave, loss of time with kids, and AP isn’t long term wife material. My DH left his wife for me. They didn’t have kids, he left with more money than he had when he entered the relationship, I make more than his ex-wife, I’m younger and prettier than his ex-wife, and they had a terrible, non-existent sex life. They had been married for 10 years, and he left her a month after we met. If it wasn’t me, it would’ve been someone else. Some marriages aren’t built to last forever.

Wow, you think pretty highly of yourself for someone who does not seem very smart. What sane woman would believe that story and want a guy who would do that? Trashy.

[Anonymous]

^ +1. When he dumps you for his younger, prettier, higher-earning AP, remember that “some marriages aren’t built to last forever.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here: i quite agree. Some fall in love with their AP, and some want family 2.0, but mostly they just want sex. Haven’t you ever slept with someone you did not see as relationship material?

Of course, but most don't do it with the stakes as high as destroying their children's stability both emotionally and financially.

[Anonymous]

My father did. So did my best friend's father. And my SILs ex. My father and SILs ex are still married to their APs. My best friend's father ended up rekindling an earlier affair and marrying her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They do sometimes. My ex-DH left me for his affair partner some 20 years ago and he's just left his wife and 3 kids for another affair partner.

Never say never.

That’s surprising

Why is it surprising? If you are a serial adulterer sometimes you're going to move on with the person you cheat with. Law of averages.

That he cheated in his 2nd marriage on the one he cheated with during the firs marriage.

It was sarcasm.

You misunderstood or perhaps I didn't make it clear. He didn't marry the AP he left me for. No no no. That AP, She was 10 years older than me. He met his recent wife AFTER that, married, had three kids, continued to f around endlessly and then after 20 years he left for a younger woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeff bezos did

only when he got caught and it ended up in the tabloids (his mistress leaked the info). Mackenzie was rightfully furious and had to file for divorce. Otherwise, he wouldn't have left

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jeff bezos did

only when he got caught and it ended up in the tabloids (his mistress leaked the info). Mackenzie was rightfully furious and had to file for divorce. Otherwise, he wouldn't have left

His AP was a known gold digger. Her brother sold information. She screwed pro athletes for $. And then the rich computer geek took her used up in midlife. She looks like a total skank. Albeit...dumb, but crafty. Those fake lips and fake boobs- yuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here: i quite agree. Some fall in love with their AP, and some want family 2.0, but mostly they just want sex. Haven’t you ever slept with someone you did not see as relationship material?

I think more men have the capability of sleeping with women they don’t see as relationship material. Brothels, Asian massage parlors, Prostitution rings and Ashley Madison. All support that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here: i quite agree. Some fall in love with their AP, and some want family 2.0, but mostly they just want sex. Haven’t you ever slept with someone you did not see as relationship material?

I think more men have the capability of sleeping with women they don’t see as relationship material. Brothels, Asian massage parlors, Prostitution rings and Ashley Madison. All support that.

Yes. This is because average man needs lots more sex than average woman. Hence the vast gender difference in "options" and "standards" when it comes to sexual partners.

[Anonymous]

I think its interesting no one discusses the impact on men when women cheat and leave the marriage or the AP.

[Anonymous]

I’ve had an AP for three years and we both like our spouses except the marriages are sexless. There is a lot about my wife that I prefer over my AP and my AP is not someone I’d want to marry. She’s fun, likes sex and there are NSA.

[Anonymous]

I left my ex-DW for my AP. Both the best (leaving) and worst (cheating instead of ending marriage first) I ever made.