Why do husbands never leave for the affair partner?

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why go to the trouble? Especially if you have kids? People who are up for an affair generally aren’t looking for love.


+1

Nowadays a lot look for sex on Internet apps. Do you think married men on Ashley Madison are looking for love? Nope. They are looking for easy, strange p@ssy.


Yep. Sex. Period. They need to feel their ego stroked too and “powerful” over some bimbo that thinks they are wonderful.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:They leave if they have money and financially secure and independent. As PP said it depends on your social status.


Umm. Not.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Mine stayed with the AP after I kicked him out, but didn't "leave for" the AP. She was just there when he lost the house, the respect of our teenagers, and his job (she was a subordinate) due to the affair. After you give up all of that, I guess you probably feel some loyalty to the person.


Well- who the h@ll wants a loser like that? Just a skank
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why go to the trouble? Especially if you have kids? People who are up for an affair generally aren’t looking for love.


+1

Nowadays a lot look for sex on Internet apps. Do you think married men on Ashley Madison are looking for love? Nope. They are looking for easy, strange p@ssy.


Yep. Sex. Period. They need to feel their ego stroked too and “powerful” over some bimbo that thinks they are wonderful.


The sad part is the women on there are looking for exit affairs. The men are not, but will lead them on.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:They leave if they have money and financially secure and independent. As PP said it depends on your social status.


+1. Factors for staying include big financial hit to leave, loss of time with kids, and AP isn’t long term wife material. My DH left his wife for me. They didn’t have kids, he left with more money than he had when he entered the relationship, I make more than his ex-wife, I’m younger and prettier than his ex-wife, and they had a terrible, non-existent sex life. They had been married for 10 years, and he left her a month after we met. If it wasn’t me, it would’ve been someone else. Some marriages aren’t built to last forever.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They leave if they have money and financially secure and independent. As PP said it depends on your social status.


+1. Factors for staying include big financial hit to leave, loss of time with kids, and AP isn’t long term wife material. My DH left his wife for me. They didn’t have kids, he left with more money than he had when he entered the relationship, I make more than his ex-wife, I’m younger and prettier than his ex-wife, and they had a terrible, non-existent sex life. They had been married for 10 years, and he left her a month after we met. If it wasn’t me, it would’ve been someone else. Some marriages aren’t built to last forever.


Why did you want somebody else’s trash? Were you not hot enough to get a successful, good-looking single man? I would never want a married men.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Just wait. 2nd marriages have a 70-75% failure rate. It sounds like he did a real number on you.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why go to the trouble? Especially if you have kids? People who are up for an affair generally aren’t looking for love.


+1

Nowadays a lot look for sex on Internet apps. Do you think married men on Ashley Madison are looking for love? Nope. They are looking for easy, strange p@ssy.


Yep. Sex. Period. They need to feel their ego stroked too and “powerful” over some bimbo that thinks they are wonderful.


The sad part is the women on there are looking for exit affairs. The men are not, but will lead them on.


That’s so pathetic.
Anonymous
Men usually don’t leave bc men tend to affair down. They are looking for opportunity, not someone to date and grow a relationship. It’s common that the affair partner is much less attractive, accomplished, etc than the wife. Women tend to cheat for more emotional reasons and often are looking for exits.
Anonymous
They do sometimes. My ex-DH left me for his affair partner some 20 years ago and he's just left his wife and 3 kids for another affair partner.

Never say never.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why go to the trouble? Especially if you have kids? People who are up for an affair generally aren’t looking for love.


+1

Nowadays a lot look for sex on Internet apps. Do you think married men on Ashley Madison are looking for love? Nope. They are looking for easy, strange p@ssy.


Yep. Sex. Period. They need to feel their ego stroked too and “powerful” over some bimbo that thinks they are wonderful.


The sad part is the women on there are looking for exit affairs. The men are not, but will lead them on.


Yes. It’s a shame they can’t find catches like the 3 husbands and counting who did this despite having perfect, always up for it DWs. Once all that childhood trauma forces them to betray, it’s awful.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Men usually don’t leave bc men tend to affair down. They are looking for opportunity, not someone to date and grow a relationship. It’s common that the affair partner is much less attractive, accomplished, etc than the wife. Women tend to cheat for more emotional reasons and often are looking for exits.


Bingo. No job, not as intelligent, not as attractive. Willing to settle for scraps. That describes the AP’s of the men I know. None of them had plans to leave. Mid-life escapism.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:They do sometimes. My ex-DH left me for his affair partner some 20 years ago and he's just left his wife and 3 kids for another affair partner.

Never say never.


That’s surprising
Anonymous
I think most men don’t leave for financial reasons, for DC stability, and in some cases social stigma. (I have a large extended Catholic family and very few divorces- maybe 1 per generation. While it would be excepted there is a lot of pressure to make it work b/c it just doesn’t happen.)
Anonymous
I have seen it happen twice. Second marriage with APs are going on longer than the first marriage (second marriages longer than 15 and 10 years, respectively)

Both of those instances were people in the wrong marriage to begin with.
Anonymous
My reasons: I love my wife and family but my wife doesn't want to have sex, so I found someone who does. She is great in bed, we mesh on some levels but it wouldn't work long term. If I leave my wife, I want to be single for at least a while, not to jump into another relationship. Also, I am very jaded about long term relationships, at least when it comes to sex. I assume my AP will tire of having sex with me too, it's not personal, just how long term relationships go.
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