Have you even had the opportunity to have an affair you didn't seek out?

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Anonymous wrote:When my kids were in day care, I had numerous affair opportunities because I did the after-work pickup and I would talk to the moms who were picking up their kids. Often I’d be with the mom for some time if her kid and mine had a play date. These moms came on to me, I didn’t come on to them.

Really? Are you sure these moms came on to you or were they just being friendly? I just find it hard to believe that you've had multiple moms at the daycare come on to you. 'm a very friendly person and I can see why someone who isn't used to interacting with this type of personality, would misinterpret my genuine interest in talking and joking around with someone of the opposite sex as being flirtatious.

Yes, I am sure they came on to me. For example, do you rub your tits on guys you are “just being friendly” with?

NP, so they/she “rubbed” her “tits” on you in broad daylight in a daycare classroom in the middle of busy pickup? Come on.

are you talking about hugging?

FFS I know the difference between a hug and a woman rubbing her tits on me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When my kids were in day care, I had numerous affair opportunities because I did the after-work pickup and I would talk to the moms who were picking up their kids. Often I’d be with the mom for some time if her kid and mine had a play date. These moms came on to me, I didn’t come on to them.

That’s ridiculous! I do pre-school drop off and pick up and I always chat with the women as they are very friendly. But these moms are definitely not dressed for adult “pick ups”.

You don’t need to “dress for a pickup” to indicate sexual interest in a man.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When my kids were in day care, I had numerous affair opportunities because I did the after-work pickup and I would talk to the moms who were picking up their kids. Often I’d be with the mom for some time if her kid and mine had a play date. These moms came on to me, I didn’t come on to them.

Really? Are you sure these moms came on to you or were they just being friendly? I just find it hard to believe that you've had multiple moms at the daycare come on to you. 'm a very friendly person and I can see why someone who isn't used to interacting with this type of personality, would misinterpret my genuine interest in talking and joking around with someone of the opposite sex as being flirtatious.

Yes, I am sure they came on to me. For example, do you rub your tits on guys you are “just being friendly” with?

LOL, definitely not. I'm just shocked at the outward in your face approach that these women were taking. Didn't realize this was so common!

Man here: It's common but they're not coming on to him for sex. They're just thirsty for acknowledgment and approval. Quite common for moms as they get older. It's that, "do I still have it?" mentality. They'd never act on it and it seems like PP has given them the approval that they needed.

Nothing to see here.

Sorry, I'm still not buying that multiple women have rubbed their breasts against him at daycare pick-up.

(shrug) I don’t care if you believe it or not. Any guy over 20 knows the difference between “just being friendly” and “indicating sexual interest”. They weren’t just being friendly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When my kids were in day care, I had numerous affair opportunities because I did the after-work pickup and I would talk to the moms who were picking up their kids. Often I’d be with the mom for some time if her kid and mine had a play date. These moms came on to me, I didn’t come on to them.

Really? Are you sure these moms came on to you or were they just being friendly? I just find it hard to believe that you've had multiple moms at the daycare come on to you. 'm a very friendly person and I can see why someone who isn't used to interacting with this type of personality, would misinterpret my genuine interest in talking and joking around with someone of the opposite sex as being flirtatious.

Yes, I am sure they came on to me. For example, do you rub your tits on guys you are “just being friendly” with?

LOL, definitely not. I'm just shocked at the outward in your face approach that these women were taking. Didn't realize this was so common!

Man here: It's common but they're not coming on to him for sex. They're just thirsty for acknowledgment and approval. Quite common for moms as they get older. It's that, "do I still have it?" mentality. They'd never act on it and it seems like PP has given them the approval that they needed.

Nothing to see here.

Sorry, I'm still not buying that multiple women have rubbed their breasts against him at daycare pick-up.

(shrug) I don’t care if you believe it or not. Any guy over 20 knows the difference between “just being friendly” and “indicating sexual interest”. They weren’t just being friendly.

What? No they don’t. DH genuinely believes that attractive 22 year waitresses are flirting with him, bless his heart. I guarantee you that they are not!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When my kids were in day care, I had numerous affair opportunities because I did the after-work pickup and I would talk to the moms who were picking up their kids. Often I’d be with the mom for some time if her kid and mine had a play date. These moms came on to me, I didn’t come on to them.

Really? Are you sure these moms came on to you or were they just being friendly? I just find it hard to believe that you've had multiple moms at the daycare come on to you. 'm a very friendly person and I can see why someone who isn't used to interacting with this type of personality, would misinterpret my genuine interest in talking and joking around with someone of the opposite sex as being flirtatious.

Yes, I am sure they came on to me. For example, do you rub your tits on guys you are “just being friendly” with?

LOL, definitely not. I'm just shocked at the outward in your face approach that these women were taking. Didn't realize this was so common!

Man here: It's common but they're not coming on to him for sex. They're just thirsty for acknowledgment and approval. Quite common for moms as they get older. It's that, "do I still have it?" mentality. They'd never act on it and it seems like PP has given them the approval that they needed.

Nothing to see here.

Sorry, I'm still not buying that multiple women have rubbed their breasts against him at daycare pick-up.

(shrug) I don’t care if you believe it or not. Any guy over 20 knows the difference between “just being friendly” and “indicating sexual interest”. They weren’t just being friendly.

Let me guess... you also think the 7-11 clerk is flirting when she gives you change after you pay for your Slurpee?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When my kids were in day care, I had numerous affair opportunities because I did the after-work pickup and I would talk to the moms who were picking up their kids. Often I’d be with the mom for some time if her kid and mine had a play date. These moms came on to me, I didn’t come on to them.

Really? Are you sure these moms came on to you or were they just being friendly? I just find it hard to believe that you've had multiple moms at the daycare come on to you. 'm a very friendly person and I can see why someone who isn't used to interacting with this type of personality, would misinterpret my genuine interest in talking and joking around with someone of the opposite sex as being flirtatious.

Yes, I am sure they came on to me. For example, do you rub your tits on guys you are “just being friendly” with?

LOL, definitely not. I'm just shocked at the outward in your face approach that these women were taking. Didn't realize this was so common!

Man here: It's common but they're not coming on to him for sex. They're just thirsty for acknowledgment and approval. Quite common for moms as they get older. It's that, "do I still have it?" mentality. They'd never act on it and it seems like PP has given them the approval that they needed.

Nothing to see here.

Sorry, I'm still not buying that multiple women have rubbed their breasts against him at daycare pick-up.

Yup me neither! Sounds like more of wishful thinking on his part. I'd like to know where this daycare is.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife here. I've had multiple opportunities while on a vacation with my girlfriends or being out at a bar. When things are rough in my marriage, yes it's hard to not reciprocate but there's always that voice in the back of my mind that says not a good idea. I also haven't given up on my marriage but I can see it going differently if I have. Marriage is hard and it requires a commitment and a promise to yourself that you will not jeopardize your marriage even if you want to bail out of it.

This question is for men only. Women have infinite opportunities for unsought affairs. Multiple men, every day. A thread about women's affair opportunities is like asking "have you ever walked by a water fountain that was just sitting right there ready to give you a drink of water?" Pretty boring stuff.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wife here. I've had multiple opportunities while on a vacation with my girlfriends or being out at a bar. When things are rough in my marriage, yes it's hard to not reciprocate but there's always that voice in the back of my mind that says not a good idea. I also haven't given up on my marriage but I can see it going differently if I have. Marriage is hard and it requires a commitment and a promise to yourself that you will not jeopardize your marriage even if you want to bail out of it.

This question is for men only. Women have infinite opportunities for unsought affairs. Multiple men, every day. A thread about women's affair opportunities is like asking "have you ever walked by a water fountain that was just sitting right there ready to give you a drink of water?" Pretty boring stuff.

I know, right? And the women bragging about banging married men. You are giving your p@ssy away for free. It’s not an accomplishment and means nothing about your worth, looks, intelligence (or more likely lack thereof). It only shows you have bad character.

[Anonymous]

I have never looked for one, but the opportunity has come up a lot. We lived apart for a few years early in our marriage. As a woman, if your spouse isn’t physically with you, men pretty much consider you single and act accordingly.

As a SAHM now I rarely see men socially. Now and then other dads are flirty or hold a gaze for a bit too long, but nothing inappropriate. They could just be friendly and/or find me attractive and nothing more, which is what I assume.

[Anonymous]

I’m very attractive and have been hit on my entire life—workplace, outside of workplace, neighborhood, gym, etc. Even when single, I wanted zero to do with married men and would be disgusted by anyone that would cheat on their wife. Absolutely disgusted.

When we lived abroad briefly and my husband had to return to the states, I had a guy flat out try to get me out to hang out with him. I did not.

I never have put myself in a vulnerable situation.

I have a hard stop on cheating. I am vehemently opposed to infidelity/unfaithfulness.

I’ve been married 22 years. No way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wife here. I've had multiple opportunities while on a vacation with my girlfriends or being out at a bar. When things are rough in my marriage, yes it's hard to not reciprocate but there's always that voice in the back of my mind that says not a good idea. I also haven't given up on my marriage but I can see it going differently if I have. Marriage is hard and it requires a commitment and a promise to yourself that you will not jeopardize your marriage even if you want to bail out of it.

This question is for men only. Women have infinite opportunities for unsought affairs. Multiple men, every day. A thread about women's affair opportunities is like asking "have you ever walked by a water fountain that was just sitting right there ready to give you a drink of water?" Pretty boring stuff.

I know, right? And the women bragging about banging married men. You are giving your p@ssy away for free. It’s not an accomplishment and means nothing about your worth, looks, intelligence (or more likely lack thereof). It only shows you have bad character.

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Women have opportunity any time they want it. Those with morals do not choose it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife here. I've had multiple opportunities while on a vacation with my girlfriends or being out at a bar. When things are rough in my marriage, yes it's hard to not reciprocate but there's always that voice in the back of my mind that says not a good idea. I also haven't given up on my marriage but I can see it going differently if I have. Marriage is hard and it requires a commitment and a promise to yourself that you will not jeopardize your marriage even if you want to bail out of it.

This question is for men only. Women have infinite opportunities for unsought affairs. Multiple men, every day. A thread about women's affair opportunities is like asking "have you ever walked by a water fountain that was just sitting right there ready to give you a drink of water?" Pretty boring stuff.

I know, right? And the women bragging about banging married men. You are giving your p@ssy away for free. It’s not an accomplishment and means nothing about your worth, looks, intelligence (or more likely lack thereof). It only shows you have bad character.

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Women have opportunity any time they want it. Those with morals do not choose it.

So stupid how many women keep posting how they constantly get hit on. Yes we know!! Guess what? Men wanting sex with you is not thread worthy or the least bit interesting.
Just like me (a guy) having some needy woman give me the "opportunity" to validate her emotions. Somebody call CNN.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife here. I've had multiple opportunities while on a vacation with my girlfriends or being out at a bar. When things are rough in my marriage, yes it's hard to not reciprocate but there's always that voice in the back of my mind that says not a good idea. I also haven't given up on my marriage but I can see it going differently if I have. Marriage is hard and it requires a commitment and a promise to yourself that you will not jeopardize your marriage even if you want to bail out of it.

This question is for men only. Women have infinite opportunities for unsought affairs. Multiple men, every day. A thread about women's affair opportunities is like asking "have you ever walked by a water fountain that was just sitting right there ready to give you a drink of water?" Pretty boring stuff.

I know, right? And the women bragging about banging married men. You are giving your p@ssy away for free. It’s not an accomplishment and means nothing about your worth, looks, intelligence (or more likely lack thereof). It only shows you have bad character.

+1

Women have opportunity any time they want it. Those with morals do not choose it.

So stupid how many women keep posting how they constantly get hit on. Yes we know!! Guess what? Men wanting sex with you is not thread worthy or the least bit interesting.
Just like me (a guy) having some needy woman give me the "opportunity" to validate her emotions. Somebody call CNN.

To be fair, OP posted his question “to anyone”

[Anonymous]

I travel a lot...or did....for business and this is my standard reply-

1. Guy asks me to dinner “thanks, that would be nice but I have a ton of work I need to complete before tomorrow”
2. After a group dinner a guy invites me for a drink “thanks, that would be nice but I need to catch up with my husband and children.”

I have no interest in finding myself in some guys sights as it happened a lot when I was single and I wanted nothing to do with it. I’m sure many of the guys are good guys and I hate to tar them all but a few rotten apples are to blame.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When my kids were in day care, I had numerous affair opportunities because I did the after-work pickup and I would talk to the moms who were picking up their kids. Often I’d be with the mom for some time if her kid and mine had a play date. These moms came on to me, I didn’t come on to them.

That’s ridiculous! I do pre-school drop off and pick up and I always chat with the women as they are very friendly. But these moms are definitely not dressed for adult “pick ups”.

+1 I can’t imagine this. I mean - once, maybe, with a very forward person, but multiple times? I don’t care how attractive you are - I don’t buy it.