Why do demanding women seem to have the most loving, faithful husbands?
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Anonymous
Because we demand it. 
Look, I'm an alpha married to a beta. He says it, not me. I'm not bitchy either and the reason I "rule the roost" is b/c my husband doesn't want to rule. He doesn't want to make a decision. He doesn't want to be at the top of his company. I do. He gets money, an organized home filled with everything he needs, wonderful meals, and I'm funny (thank God). I get a wonderful man who won't cheat on me and who solves my technical problems and will do my "honey do" list and will cook dinner as long as I give him the game plan. Neither one of us gets a clean house. We have to pay for that but we can b/c i earn a stupid amount of money. but that's a different thread. |
Anonymous
| ^^ I really should put out more |
Anonymous
| Because women who are demanding also tend to give a lot in return. People who put a lot of thought into human interaction are generally both giving and demanding. |
Anonymous
| I follow the empowered wife by Laura Doyle. It helps me and my husband have a good relationship |
Anonymous
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It’s victim blaming. Op wants to be self-congratulated.
The “strong” women never tell anyone when their husband does stray. It would ruin their self-image and self-view. They find themselves doing something they would never EVER think they would do if their husband cheated: try to work it out and preserve the marriage for their children’s sake. You don’t have to be a b@tch or nasty to get treated right. A good, healthy relationship does not have those dynamics. |
Anonymous
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I know a ton of seemingly hen-pecked husbands in Long Island that are cheating like mad behind their bitchy wives back. They are the phonies about how living and faithful they are.
These same women clog up social media singing their spouses praises. Then everyone acts shocked when they divorce in their 50s-60s. It’s an act. My older sister is a demanding @sshole and we all feel sorry for her nice easy going husband. 25 years into marriage he just looks beaten down. He’s confused in my husband when drinking or at holidays how awful my sister can be. She’s funny, but prides herself on not taking shit but she is very unpleasant a lot of the time in her own home. The pp that mentioned Stockholm Syndrome actually wasn’t that far off the mark. |
Anonymous
*confessed |
Anonymous
Have a friend who fits this description. She is a multi-million trust fund child and was getting wedding and baby fever. She had a great education and is in a highly-paid profession. Met a guy on-line and within weeks had him move in. He is good looking and that's about the only attribute he has. Comes from a highly dysfunctional family with a father who is a multiple-times convicted felon and physical abuser and mother who died very young of chronic alcoholism. He never finished high school and works a blue collar job. Has very few basic social skills and is difficult to converse with due to his (honest) ignorance about many subjects. He is hard-core conservative politically, collect guns and blindly believes whatever he hears. But he is very brawny and handsome. She rules the roost (and the checkbook) and he worships the ground she walks on. For now. We had gone out to dinner with them and it was extremely uncomfortable because she was verging on verbal abuse of him. Referred to him as an idiot when he stepped away and she wasn't joking. When he expressed an opinion about something she gave him looks that could kill and told him that if he was a "real man" he would not think that way and would do what she said. Within a year she was pregnant and gave birth. We figured he is nothing more than a sperm donor. Predict one of two things: She will do a high-priced steamroll divorce and dump him before he knows what happens. Or his brawny brain will eventually click in and he will push back. Hard. |
Anonymous
| OP, will you pls give example of being Demanding With DH (or do you mean in general life?)? And of Easy-going? |
Anonymous
| Like pp, my husband and I have visibly cringed by demanding neighborhood women degrading their husbands in public and talking sh@t about them when they go out of the room. They treat them like he’s a sh@t heel. It’s gross to watch. |
Anonymous
And I'm sure they've cringed at the doormat lady and her loser husband. Oh well. |
Anonymous
| Perhaps because they demanded from themselves not to marry selfish losers? |
Anonymous
| So demanding women automatically means women degrading their husbands in public???! How so? Misogyny is so effing rampat in the U.S. To think that when I immigrated here from Europe in the early 90s I thought I was moving to a country with advanced social thinking! What crap. Living in the dark ages! |
Anonymous
This thread was started by a super embittered woman who can’t stand other women. Not by a progressive thinker! |
Anonymous
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I know two men who are controlled by their wives in ways that are painful to watch when we’re with them and both guys have said they like being bossed around. One says he likes not having to make his own choices. Doing just what his wife wants simplifies things.
I wish sometimes that I could be attracted to such pushover guys! |