Why do demanding women seem to have the most loving, faithful husbands?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The demanding women are just babysitters. They monitor and schedule everything for their husbands so he doesn't have the chance to cheat.

lol

This is funny. I think only insecure people spend their life thinking their partner is cheating on them.

[Anonymous]

Mellow people sometimes aren't mellow on the inside. They are conflict adverse which means they put up with things that bother them instead of bring up the issues. I used to be one of those people. After awhile, it ruins relationships. Resentment builds up but instead of saying anything, you just let it keep building up. on the outside, everyone remarks how easy going and mellow you are, but on the inside the rage is building. Then it reaches a point of no return and what started as something small is now this huge issue along with 100 other issues. Relationship killer. thankfully a friend pointed out my pattern and I get therapy before I met DH. I'm still easy going and mellow (that's just my personality) but I"ve learned to also speak up when things are bothering me.

[Anonymous]

So much self-congratulating going on in this thread!

I will say, most of my friends treat their husbands terribly, in ways I would never tolerate in their DHs' shoes and would never dream of treating my DH -- nagging them like toddlers over imaginary germs and inconsequential details, replying to everything in a snippy way, rolling their eyes at them to others, demanding to be waited on, always "having a headache" -- and none ever seem to pay a price. I assumed these are the type of pansy men who have midlife crisis affairs with anyone who blows sunshine up their ass, because they're so desperate for respect and admiration. But who knows?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So much self-congratulating going on in this thread!

I will say, most of my friends treat their husbands terribly, in ways I would never tolerate in their DHs' shoes and would never dream of treating my DH -- nagging them like toddlers over imaginary germs and inconsequential details, replying to everything in a snippy way, rolling their eyes at them to others, demanding to be waited on, always "having a headache" -- and none ever seem to pay a price. I assumed these are the type of pansy men who have midlife crisis affairs with anyone who blows sunshine up their ass, because they're so desperate for respect and admiration. But who knows?

Awww sounds like this thread hit a nerve with you and there's a lot of projection going on (or wishful fantasizing)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much self-congratulating going on in this thread!

I will say, most of my friends treat their husbands terribly, in ways I would never tolerate in their DHs' shoes and would never dream of treating my DH -- nagging them like toddlers over imaginary germs and inconsequential details, replying to everything in a snippy way, rolling their eyes at them to others, demanding to be waited on, always "having a headache" -- and none ever seem to pay a price. I assumed these are the type of pansy men who have midlife crisis affairs with anyone who blows sunshine up their ass, because they're so desperate for respect and admiration. But who knows?

Awww sounds like this thread hit a nerve with you and there's a lot of projection going on (or wishful fantasizing)

Of course it's upsetting to watch people be rewarded for being unkind. Are you proud of it? (And if you're not unkind, then this wasn't about you.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much self-congratulating going on in this thread!

I will say, most of my friends treat their husbands terribly, in ways I would never tolerate in their DHs' shoes and would never dream of treating my DH -- nagging them like toddlers over imaginary germs and inconsequential details, replying to everything in a snippy way, rolling their eyes at them to others, demanding to be waited on, always "having a headache" -- and none ever seem to pay a price. I assumed these are the type of pansy men who have midlife crisis affairs with anyone who blows sunshine up their ass, because they're so desperate for respect and admiration. But who knows?

Awww sounds like this thread hit a nerve with you and there's a lot of projection going on (or wishful fantasizing)

Of course it's upsetting to watch people be rewarded for being unkind. Are you proud of it? (And if you're not unkind, then this wasn't about you.)

So you admit this is wishful thinking. Being demanding isn't being unkind, and you really need to check your conception of moral behavior required of women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've noticed this. Also, women with trust funds have husbands who are so in love. I'm sure those same women just think that they are #blessed. Money makes the world go round.

Ha! That’s funny. I think I’m what OP would consider “demanding.”

However, I came into my marriage with nothing and my family is poor. DH has a great job and a trust fund. No prenup. I think people like me figure out early on that if we don’t have standards, there is no back up plan. My choices are the only thing standing between me and extreme poverty. I have nowhere soft to land if I make a mistake. I also understood early on that who I married would be the biggest factor in my quality of life. Friends who put up with cheating, broke guys or abusive guys seemed to get a high out of beating the odds. Meaning the worse the situation, the more they were sure it proved they truly loved their man. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

I used to be nice and cool with my husband but it was such an empty marriage. Now I say my thoughts whatever they may be. I am way more high maintenance. And we are closer than ever.

[Anonymous]

When you’re treated like crap, you love them. When you’re treated nice, you screw them over.

[Anonymous]

I think this is the equivalent of all those guys who ask "Why do women like bad boys when I'm such a nice guy?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meanwhile, several mellow, fun, and easygoing women I know have been divorced, cheated on, and treated like crap.
Is this a Thing?
By demanding I don't mean bitchy so much as they rule the roost.

Lemme tell you something OP okay - you don’t know shit about other people.
But you think you do, you think you got everybody all figured out.
AND THAT is the real reason why you OP and several women you know have been divorced, cheated on, and treated like crap.
Because your ability to assess others sucks.
I mean let’s think about it...you were wrong as shit about your husbands, right?
I mean you and the women you know all thought you knew what kinda men you married until you woke up one morning miserable and mad at yourself for not seeing what a jerk he truly was.
Obviously that says your ability to assess the character of others sucks.
So why should your assessment of other women be any different?
Fact is you don’t know jack shit about about who’s easygoing and who’s demanding just like you didn’t know jack shit about who’s a loving, faithful husband and who’s not.

[Anonymous]

I’m pretty demanding. Husband chose me. I’m more the alpha and apparently he likes that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because demanding women are assertive women and opposites attract. Their husbands are passive. Passive men are less likely to cheat because they don't have the gumption.

Their husbands are homely looking little bitch boys. No one pretty much would have sex with them. They are fuggos and they do what they need to do so they can have a place to put their peen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've noticed this. Also, women with trust funds have husbands who are so in love. I'm sure those same women just think that they are #blessed. Money makes the world go round.

Ha! That’s funny. I think I’m what OP would consider “demanding.”

However, I came into my marriage with nothing and my family is poor. DH has a great job and a trust fund. No prenup. I think people like me figure out early on that if we don’t have standards, there is no back up plan. My choices are the only thing standing between me and extreme poverty. I have nowhere soft to land if I make a mistake. I also understood early on that who I married would be the biggest factor in my quality of life. Friends who put up with cheating, broke guys or abusive guys seemed to get a high out of beating the odds. Meaning the worse the situation, the more they were sure it proved they truly loved their man. No thanks.

That's it for me. My choices affect my quality of life, so I made damn sure to choose well. I'm known for having high standards and my dh and friends don't disappoint me and I return the loyalty in spades.

[Anonymous]

After the CEOs rejected them they went after all the unassuming beta men. These women are the alphas in their relationships and their husbands would never leave because they were pursued.