Why do demanding women seem to have the most loving, faithful husbands?

[Anonymous]

I remember reading a relationship book many years ago that suggested being bitchy in order to attract a husband. It suggested finding things about him to criticize and telling him you were going to fix things for him, making him dependent. It explained so much. I had a roommate in college who manipulated a college professor into marrying her. She convinced him that she was rescuing him from being a dorky loser by fixing his wardrobe etc. And he worshipped her. It was weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know two men who are controlled by their wives in ways that are painful to watch when we’re with them and both guys have said they like being bossed around. One says he likes not having to make his own choices. Doing just what his wife wants simplifies things.

I wish sometimes that I could be attracted to such pushover guys!

I could never be attracted to a guy like that.

I dated a guy prior to meeting my husband that never 'checked' me on anything. It was ridiculous after awhile. I found myself being nastier and him really never standing up for himself or rightfully telling me when I was legitimately being an 'a-hole'.

The relationship ended because I ended up having zero respect for him.

My husband of 22 years and I can butt heads from time to time because we both have strong alpha personalities. It works because we can call each other out when one of us is being unreasonable.

We have an equal partnership. We both contribute to the household and the finances. His salary grew larger than mine over the years, but are household dynamic has stayed very much eglatrian.

I don't get the women on some power trip thinking they are so 'demanding'. That reeks of insecurity to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So much self-congratulating going on in this thread!

I will say, most of my friends treat their husbands terribly, in ways I would never tolerate in their DHs' shoes and would never dream of treating my DH -- nagging them like toddlers over imaginary germs and inconsequential details, replying to everything in a snippy way, rolling their eyes at them to others, demanding to be waited on, always "having a headache" -- and none ever seem to pay a price. I assumed these are the type of pansy men who have midlife crisis affairs with anyone who blows sunshine up their ass, because they're so desperate for respect and admiration. But who knows?

Awww sounds like this thread hit a nerve with you and there's a lot of projection going on (or wishful fantasizing)

Of course it's upsetting to watch people be rewarded for being unkind. Are you proud of it? (And if you're not unkind, then this wasn't about you.)

So you admit this is wishful thinking. Being demanding isn't being unkind, and you really need to check your conception of moral behavior required of women.

Ok Karen

Great, well thought out comeback, Joyce!

You’re a strange little wannabe bully. A classic hollering hit dog. It’s pretty sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because demanding women are assertive women and opposites attract. Their husbands are passive. Passive men are less likely to cheat because they don't have the gumption.

Their husbands are homely looking little bitch boys. No one pretty much would have sex with them. They are fuggos and they do what they need to do so they can have a place to put their peen.

+1

They still call this whipped, I believe. How embarrassing for both sides! No one here has a sane, balanced relationship? That explains all the angry, snarky, haughty, bitter posts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So much self-congratulating going on in this thread!

I will say, most of my friends treat their husbands terribly, in ways I would never tolerate in their DHs' shoes and would never dream of treating my DH -- nagging them like toddlers over imaginary germs and inconsequential details, replying to everything in a snippy way, rolling their eyes at them to others, demanding to be waited on, always "having a headache" -- and none ever seem to pay a price. I assumed these are the type of pansy men who have midlife crisis affairs with anyone who blows sunshine up their ass, because they're so desperate for respect and admiration. But who knows?

Awww sounds like this thread hit a nerve with you and there's a lot of projection going on (or wishful fantasizing)

Of course it's upsetting to watch people be rewarded for being unkind. Are you proud of it? (And if you're not unkind, then this wasn't about you.)

So you admit this is wishful thinking. Being demanding isn't being unkind, and you really need to check your conception of moral behavior required of women.

Ok Karen

Great, well thought out comeback, Joyce!

You’re a strange little wannabe bully. A classic hollering hit dog. It’s pretty sad.

Lots of wannabe bullies here who get absolutely nothing. Sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So much self-congratulating going on in this thread!

I will say, most of my friends treat their husbands terribly, in ways I would never tolerate in their DHs' shoes and would never dream of treating my DH -- nagging them like toddlers over imaginary germs and inconsequential details, replying to everything in a snippy way, rolling their eyes at them to others, demanding to be waited on, always "having a headache" -- and none ever seem to pay a price. I assumed these are the type of pansy men who have midlife crisis affairs with anyone who blows sunshine up their ass, because they're so desperate for respect and admiration. But who knows?

Awww sounds like this thread hit a nerve with you and there's a lot of projection going on (or wishful fantasizing)

Of course it's upsetting to watch people be rewarded for being unkind. Are you proud of it? (And if you're not unkind, then this wasn't about you.)

So you admit this is wishful thinking. Being demanding isn't being unkind, and you really need to check your conception of moral behavior required of women.

Ok Karen

Great, well thought out comeback, Joyce!

You’re a strange little wannabe bully. A classic hollering hit dog. It’s pretty sad.

I'm a bully because I clapped back when you called me a Karen? And I called out your sad excuses for responses?

Anyway... get some therapy and stop taking out your anger here. It's boring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember reading a relationship book many years ago that suggested being bitchy in order to attract a husband. It suggested finding things about him to criticize and telling him you were going to fix things for him, making him dependent. It explained so much. I had a roommate in college who manipulated a college professor into marrying her. She convinced him that she was rescuing him from being a dorky loser by fixing his wardrobe etc. And he worshipped her. It was weird.

Good for her. Everyone wants to be worshipped! And they would if they could get it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Because demanding women are assertive women and opposites attract. Their husbands are passive. Passive men are less likely to cheat because they don't have the gumption.

Their husbands are homely looking little bitch boys. No one pretty much would have sex with them. They are fuggos and they do what they need to do so they can have a place to put their peen.

+1

They still call this whipped, I believe. How embarrassing for both sides! No one here has a sane, balanced relationship? That explains all the angry, snarky, haughty, bitter posts.

Yep. P*ssy whipped. It was never a flattering description of a male. I don't think biologically women are designed to want to make with those P-whipped type of men. I guess that is why those women act out on all of these threads. Unsatisfied.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because demanding women are assertive women and opposites attract. Their husbands are passive. Passive men are less likely to cheat because they don't have the gumption.

Their husbands are homely looking little bitch boys. No one pretty much would have sex with them. They are fuggos and they do what they need to do so they can have a place to put their peen.

+1

They still call this whipped, I believe. How embarrassing for both sides! No one here has a sane, balanced relationship? That explains all the angry, snarky, haughty, bitter posts.

Yep. P*ssy whipped. It was never a flattering description of a male. I don't think biologically women are designed to want to make with those P-whipped type of men. I guess that is why those women act out on all of these threads. Unsatisfied.

*not designed to mate with P-whipped men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because demanding women are assertive women and opposites attract. Their husbands are passive. Passive men are less likely to cheat because they don't have the gumption.

Their husbands are homely looking little bitch boys. No one pretty much would have sex with them. They are fuggos and they do what they need to do so they can have a place to put their peen.

+1

They still call this whipped, I believe. How embarrassing for both sides! No one here has a sane, balanced relationship? That explains all the angry, snarky, haughty, bitter posts.

Yep. P*ssy whipped. It was never a flattering description of a male. I don't think biologically women are designed to want to make with those P-whipped type of men. I guess that is why those women act out on all of these threads. Unsatisfied.

I think a lot of women act out on here because they're being treated badly by men who arent that into them but who trapped the man into marriage by being a doormat. And that's frustrating. And there's a lot of jealousy towards women who have it better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because demanding women are assertive women and opposites attract. Their husbands are passive. Passive men are less likely to cheat because they don't have the gumption.

Their husbands are homely looking little bitch boys. No one pretty much would have sex with them. They are fuggos and they do what they need to do so they can have a place to put their peen.

+1

They still call this whipped, I believe. How embarrassing for both sides! No one here has a sane, balanced relationship? That explains all the angry, snarky, haughty, bitter posts.

Yep. P*ssy whipped. It was never a flattering description of a male. I don't think biologically women are designed to want to make with those P-whipped type of men. I guess that is why those women act out on all of these threads. Unsatisfied.

I think a lot of women act out on here because they're being treated badly by men who arent that into them but who trapped the man into marriage by being a doormat. And that's frustrating. And there's a lot of jealousy towards women who have it better

Bingo!!!

[Anonymous]

So men are whipped if quiet and such, but women are great wives and housemakers if they are demure? How is it that we have so many women on dcum that hate women and propaged the worst sexist parctices every invented?!
What is wrong with you people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know two men who are controlled by their wives in ways that are painful to watch when we’re with them and both guys have said they like being bossed around. One says he likes not having to make his own choices. Doing just what his wife wants simplifies things.

I wish sometimes that I could be attracted to such pushover guys!

I could never be attracted to a guy like that.

I dated a guy prior to meeting my husband that never 'checked' me on anything. It was ridiculous after awhile. I found myself being nastier and him really never standing up for himself or rightfully telling me when I was legitimately being an 'a-hole'.

The relationship ended because I ended up having zero respect for him.

My husband of 22 years and I can butt heads from time to time because we both have strong alpha personalities. It works because we can call each other out when one of us is being unreasonable.

We have an equal partnership. We both contribute to the household and the finances. His salary grew larger than mine over the years, but are household dynamic has stayed very much eglatrian.

I don't get the women on some power trip thinking they are so 'demanding'. That reeks of insecurity to me.

Much healtheir than what OP describes. I never would want to be on either side of a lopsided marriage. I was fortunate to have parents that provided an excellent example of a healthy marriage and respect for one another.

[Anonymous]

There is so much projection in this thread towards women that are in great relationships with amazing men and being treated well certain women made bad life choices and they're mad that not everyone else did!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is so much projection in this thread towards women that are in great relationships with amazing men and being treated well certain women made bad life choices and they're mad that not everyone else did!

No. No. No no no no.
Women do not make bad life choices men are dogs.