Why do demanding women seem to have the most loving, faithful husbands?

[Anonymous]

Meanwhile, several mellow, fun, and easygoing women I know have been divorced, cheated on, and treated like crap.
Is this a Thing?
By demanding I don't mean bitchy so much as they rule the roost.

[Anonymous]

Because they demand it. "Easygoing and fun" also tends to go for "easygoing and fun" guys rather than "loving and faithful".

[Anonymous]

Hmm idk but I have posted in threads about this in the relationship forum (threads where the female OP is complaining about getting no help at home) and when I’ve responded about how I handle this issue, I’ve been told I sound demanding and bitchy, lol. However, we have a great marriage, my husband helps out at least 50/50 if not more, and he says he has no complaints about our relationship (we talked about this recently when my BIL announced a surprise divorce that shocked everyone in the family).

[Anonymous]

They have standards and good self esteem.

[Anonymous]

I've noticed this. Also, women with trust funds have husbands who are so in love. I'm sure those same women just think that they are #blessed. Money makes the world go round.

[Anonymous]

In my case, "easygoing and fun" was a cover for being a doormat. Hence, being cheated on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they demand it. "Easygoing and fun" also tends to go for "easygoing and fun" guys rather than "loving and faithful".

The idea that those things are not frequently in the same person is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm idk but I have posted in threads about this in the relationship forum (threads where the female OP is complaining about getting no help at home) and when I’ve responded about how I handle this issue, I’ve been told I sound demanding and bitchy, lol. However, we have a great marriage, my husband helps out at least 50/50 if not more, and he says he has no complaints about our relationship (we talked about this recently when my BIL announced a surprise divorce that shocked everyone in the family).

Same, also been told I sound demanding and bitchy over there.

If my husband does not do something to my standards (normal adult standards), I tell him and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here: we get worn down. It's Stockholm Syndrome, where we have internalized the standards of our oppressors.

I actually laughed out loud at this one. Sounds like a tiny part of you has resisted complete subjugation.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know if I am demanding, but I had a bad first marriage where I was both naive and in a very vulnerable position emotionally and financially. As a result, when physical abuse I began I was not in a position to easily exit. I promised myself that I would never again be exploited or trapped. I’m remarried and DH is wonderful. Mostly because I was very discerning, but also because I’m not going to tolerate any BS. He wanted to get married and he knows that I will walk away if I feel unsafe in any way. We’ve been super happy because no one is messing around with gray areas of what is acceptable.

[Anonymous]

Because we are excellent judges of character, we know our worth and we won't settle for less.

[Anonymous]

Demanding women know how to pick em

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here: we get worn down. It's Stockholm Syndrome, where we have internalized the standards of our oppressors.

I'd like to hear what happens if you tell her that!

[Anonymous]

I’m very demanding. I always got what I wanted in relationships before my husband, and do now too.

A guy who wasn’t cool with that never would have dated me or would have broken it off. Actually one of the guys I dated but broke up with quickly, we broke up because he didn’t like how demanding and high-expectations I am. He is a chronic cheater now.

But IME a lot of men actually want a demanding woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've noticed this. Also, women with trust funds have husbands who are so in love. I'm sure those same women just think that they are #blessed. Money makes the world go round.

+1

Yup. Woman has rich parents, so the husband kisses the wife's butt.