A cautionary tale of how not to parent

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Anonymous wrote: - great work of friction - are you shopping the story idea around for publication?

It's spelled "fiction".

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe all he needed was some tennis lessons.

Love it!

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So he isn't doing well in his ap classes and was a no show to work. nonee of that is a big deal. the stealing money from teh cash register is bad - but that si likely the product of dad's cheapness. i don't see mom as problem. dad is problem.

You don't see it as a problem? If you stole money and your mom is like "don't worry, we'll find you another job" and then she accused the people you stole from that they didn't look after her child and didn't inform her of him being late, missing shifts, etc.

In terms of who is impacting the boy, na, likely the mom is not having the big negative impact you think she is. He was fired and experienced natural consequence and her hissy fit with the resturant owener is not taking that away. I know you don't approve of her parenting. And it doesn't sound ideal or healthy. But outcomes are not as directly related to connected to parenting styles as you think. The doing harm here is likely the parent who is chonically withholding approval and using money as power. It's imteresting that you have more crictism for the overinvolved mom than the truely toxic dad. . .

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Anonymous wrote:This is really bdly written short story. It doesn't read anything like a post here about a family op knows. Also it feels like an unreliable narrator. Not sure if that was your goal or not.

It needs a lot of work op. Nanowrimo is going on, maybe you can do that and work on it.

OMG yes. OP is the ultimate unreliable narrator, so sure she is right when all her info is gossip second hand from a wronged party.

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In terms of who is impacting the boy, na, likely the mom is not having the big negative impact you think she is. He was fired and experienced natural consequence and her hissy fit with the resturant owener is not taking that away. I know you don't approve of her parenting. And it doesn't sound ideal or healthy. But outcomes are not as directly related to connected to parenting styles as you think. The doing harm here is likely the parent who is chonically withholding approval and using money as power. It's imteresting that you have more crictism for the overinvolved mom than the truely toxic dad. . .

OP here. I think his dad is a total POS. Excuse my language. I think both of them are toxic. I don't know why but I blame her for not protecting the kid - not telling her husband to shut up and not leaving him. Maybe she thinks she can counter that damage dad was causing with her overbearing love.

Yes, outcomes vary. But one thing I know for sure - if you don't let your kid fail and experience the consequences of failing, if you keep removing consequences for them and fixing everything for them, it's a recipe for disaster.

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No way this is true.

She ate lunch with him at school...”every day for the first few months of school and then 3 times a week for the rest of school year. Until 7th grade.”

Sadly, it's true.

No, dear it isn’t. No one thinks that is true.

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This is anecdotal, but out of all my friends, the two who had the strictest parents also rebelled the most. Never underestimate the appeal of sweet, forbidden freedom to a developing young mind.

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In terms of who is impacting the boy, na, likely the mom is not having the big negative impact you think she is. He was fired and experienced natural consequence and her hissy fit with the resturant owener is not taking that away. I know you don't approve of her parenting. And it doesn't sound ideal or healthy. But outcomes are not as directly related to connected to parenting styles as you think. The doing harm here is likely the parent who is chonically withholding approval and using money as power. It's imteresting that you have more crictism for the overinvolved mom than the truely toxic dad. . .

OP here. I think his dad is a total POS. Excuse my language. I think both of them are toxic. I don't know why but I blame her for not protecting the kid - not telling her husband to shut up and not leaving him. Maybe she thinks she can counter that damage dad was causing with her overbearing love.

Yes, outcomes vary. But one thing I know for sure - if you don't let your kid fail and experience the consequences of failing, if you keep removing consequences for them and fixing everything for them, it's a recipe for disaster.

Where's the disaster exactly? I'm still trying to figure out what happened that's so bad to the kid. As I was reading your OP, I kept thinking the kid became homeless, drug addict, suicide or something disasterous. But...he lost his waitstaff/cashier job? He'll get another job and move on.

And, How do you know the Dad is a POS if you only know the restaurant people that hired him? It's like you know every fight or insult the dad had with the kid.

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Anonymous wrote:You are disgusting, OP.

Why? Because I'm judgmental?

And smugly pleased about another family’s struggles.

You are far from perfect.

I’m glad you’re not my friend.

I'm not smugly pleased. I find it monstrous what this family does. The only person I feel bad for in this family is that kid but I don't think he has any chances at this point.
I posted it so all you hovering, helicoptering moms out there learn how it effects kids.

I'm not a hovering or a helicopter mom, but I do have self-awareness. I'm aware that right now, I'm speaking as a mom of a 4yo and a 6yo who are healthy, doing very well in school and in preschool, and who are well-behaved. I am aware that I might be struggling when I'm a mom of older kids/tweens/teens, when my kids have issues and challenges that I cannot yet anticipate.

Wait. Your oldest kid is 6!!!!!!! So you decided to come of the teen board and bash the parenting of a teen at great length and with a great deal of self satisfaction while having no idea what it’s like to parent a teen? WTF is wrong with you?

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Anonymous wrote:God, perfect mothers of two-year-olds are insufferable.

I know, right? It’s like people who have never had kids getting judgmental because a 2 year old has a meltdown.

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OP, are you the boy in your story and are unhappy with your parents? You know communication is way more effective than posting with exaggeration on an anonymous forum.

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Where's the disaster exactly? I'm still trying to figure out what happened that's so bad to the kid. As I was reading your OP, I kept thinking the kid became homeless, drug addict, suicide or something disasterous. But...he lost his waitstaff/cashier job? He'll get another job and move on.

Disaster is not being able to keep a simple restaurant job and stealing from it. I think stealing money is probably what makes the checkmark. He's lucky they didn't call police.

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And, How do you know the Dad is a POS if you only know the restaurant people that hired him? It's like you know every fight or insult the dad had with the kid.

I know both families like I said.

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Anonymous wrote:You are disgusting, OP.

Why? Because I'm judgmental?

And smugly pleased about another family’s struggles.

You are far from perfect.

I’m glad you’re not my friend.

I'm not smugly pleased. I find it monstrous what this family does. The only person I feel bad for in this family is that kid but I don't think he has any chances at this point.
I posted it so all you hovering, helicoptering moms out there learn how it effects kids.

I'm not a hovering or a helicopter mom, but I do have self-awareness. I'm aware that right now, I'm speaking as a mom of a 4yo and a 6yo who are healthy, doing very well in school and in preschool, and who are well-behaved. I am aware that I might be struggling when I'm a mom of older kids/tweens/teens, when my kids have issues and challenges that I cannot yet anticipate.

Wait. Your oldest kid is 6!!!!!!! So you decided to come of the teen board and bash the parenting of a teen at great length and with a great deal of self satisfaction while having no idea what it’s like to parent a teen? WTF is wrong with you?

OMG, take your Valium. It's a different poster, not OP.

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Am I the only one who was hoping the denouement was the writer revealing the subject was themself?

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.........and then his parents, they got Larlo another job! This time at a country club where he met all kind and manner of hooligan and low life. He got caught up in their shenanigans and spent most of his free time trying to kill the gophers that plagued the country club when he wasn't dancing with the daughters of the rich families who came there. They even blew up the golf course trying to kill those darned gophers. Well then, one day his regular dance partner turns up pregnant by another spoiled son but this one was going to Yale and she had an abortion that meant that she couldn't dance with Larlo anymore in the big dance finale so this other girl named Enfanta stands in and dances with Larlo and they wow the whole crowd and Enfanta's dad likes Larlo and offers him a job at his conglomerate making widgets. Where he became their top salesman.

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