A cautionary tale of how not to parent

[Anonymous]

Toxic combination of perfectionism, coddling and criticism. Never works out for the child.

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Anonymous wrote:You are disgusting, OP.

Why? Because I'm judgmental?

And smugly pleased about another family’s struggles.

You are far from perfect.

I’m glad you’re not my friend.

I'm not smugly pleased. I find it monstrous what this family does. The only person I feel bad for in this family is that kid but I don't think he has any chances at this point.
I posted it so all you hovering, helicoptering moms out there learn how it effects kids.

I'm not a hovering or a helicopter mom, but I do have self-awareness. I'm aware that right now, I'm speaking as a mom of a 4yo and a 6yo who are healthy, doing very well in school and in preschool, and who are well-behaved. I am aware that I might be struggling when I'm a mom of older kids/tweens/teens, when my kids have issues and challenges that I cannot yet anticipate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are disgusting, OP.

Why? Because I'm judgmental?

And smugly pleased about another family’s struggles.

You are far from perfect.

I’m glad you’re not my friend.

I'm not smugly pleased. I find it monstrous what this family does. The only person I feel bad for in this family is that kid but I don't think he has any chances at this point.
I posted it so all you hovering, helicoptering moms out there learn how it effects kids.

I'm not a hovering or a helicopter mom, but I do have self-awareness. I'm aware that right now, I'm speaking as a mom of a 4yo and a 6yo who are healthy, doing very well in school and in preschool, and who are well-behaved. I am aware that I might be struggling when I'm a mom of older kids/tweens/teens, when my kids have issues and challenges that I cannot yet anticipate.

Go back got the preschool and elementary school board. Jesus leave us alone.

[Anonymous]

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I'm not a hovering or a helicopter mom, but I do have self-awareness. I'm aware that right now, I'm speaking as a mom of a 4yo and a 6yo who are healthy, doing very well in school and in preschool, and who are well-behaved. I am aware that I might be struggling when I'm a mom of older kids/tweens/teens, when my kids have issues and challenges that I cannot yet anticipate.

Well, as we've learned, if you suffocate them with your love, ambitions and anxiety, they will have issues and challenges.

[Anonymous]

God, perfect mothers of two-year-olds are insufferable.

[Anonymous]

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I'm not a hovering or a helicopter mom, but I do have self-awareness. I'm aware that right now, I'm speaking as a mom of a 4yo and a 6yo who are healthy, doing very well in school and in preschool, and who are well-behaved. I am aware that I might be struggling when I'm a mom of older kids/tweens/teens, when my kids have issues and challenges that I cannot yet anticipate.

Well, as we've learned, if you suffocate them with your love, ambitions and anxiety, they will have issues and challenges.

Based on your attitude here, I can forcast that your self-righteous attitude, your lack of humility and self-awareness, and the way you relish other people's challenges and pain are going to make you a difficult mom to live with in the older elementary/tween/teen years and beyond.

[Anonymous]

Fake post:

No way this is true.

She ate lunch with him at school...”every day for the first few months of school and then 3 times a week for the rest of school year. Until 7th grade.”

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Anonymous wrote:Fake post:

No way this is true.

She ate lunch with him at school...”every day for the first few months of school and then 3 times a week for the rest of school year. Until 7th grade.”

First, our Principal would have kicked her out after awhile and told her 'too much'.

Second, he would have been ostracized and teased relentlessly.

My boys adored lunch because it was a chance to goof off and chat with their friends. Even when the Principal had a rule you had to sit with your class, they would find a way to sit behind one another or at the next table on the end.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is this a thread? You parented better than your “friend”. Now you get to revel in her kid’s misery. Congrats?

Why? Because I'm horrified. It's a reminder what hovering does to kids.

Yes, I'm hoping that I'm doing a little better as a parent. After this story I want to improve. I guess we'll find out when my DC grows up.

So he isn't doing well in his ap classes and was a no show to work. nonee of that is a big deal. the stealing money from teh cash register is bad - but that si likely the product of dad's cheapness. i don't see mom as problem. dad is problem.

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Anonymous wrote:Fake post:

No way this is true.

She ate lunch with him at school...”every day for the first few months of school and then 3 times a week for the rest of school year. Until 7th grade.”

Sadly, it's true.

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Scientifically, taking one case and trying to extrapolate to a group is bad practice.

This should be reassuring to you, OP, since none of your acquaintance's problems have any particular risk of applying to your family.

But I know you're just reveling in their setbacks because you used to be jealous of their success.

Let's see how your kids do...

Seriously? Success?? It's a train wreck.

No, I started this thread as a discussion what hovering does to kids and how we can stop it. I tend to do a bit hovering myself, but I really really hope I'm not as bad. Also, I find a lot of other parents these days are helicoptering, or, as a friend of mine says, "I'm not a helicopter mom, I'm a drone mom", droning. At DC's school they invited a child psychologist to speak and he said some parents move in with their kids in college or call their professors asking to allow their kids to retake tests, etc.

College prof here. No, this doesn't happen.

[Anonymous]

This thread is disgusting. OP, do better.

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So he isn't doing well in his ap classes and was a no show to work. nonee of that is a big deal. the stealing money from teh cash register is bad - but that si likely the product of dad's cheapness. i don't see mom as problem. dad is problem.

You don't see it as a problem? If you stole money and your mom is like "don't worry, we'll find you another job" and then she accused the people you stole from that they didn't look after her child and didn't inform her of him being late, missing shifts, etc.

[Anonymous]

This is really bdly written short story. It doesn't read anything like a post here about a family op knows. Also it feels like an unreliable narrator. Not sure if that was your goal or not.

It needs a lot of work op. Nanowrimo is going on, maybe you can do that and work on it.

[Anonymous]

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Based on your attitude here, I can forcast that your self-righteous attitude, your lack of humility and self-awareness, and the way you relish other people's challenges and pain are going to make you a difficult mom to live with in the older elementary/tween/teen years and beyond.

"Other people's challenges"? You can'd do despicable things and call them "challenges." I feel it's more like a crime against the kid.