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In terms of who is impacting the boy, na, likely the mom is not having the big negative impact you think she is. He was fired and experienced natural consequence and her hissy fit with the resturant owener is not taking that away.  I know you don't approve of her parenting.  And it doesn't sound ideal or healthy.  But outcomes are not as directly related to connected to parenting styles as you think.  The doing harm here is likely the parent who is chonically withholding approval and using money as power. It's imteresting that you have more crictism for the overinvolved mom than the truely toxic dad. . .[/quote]

OP here. I think his dad is a total POS. Excuse my language. I think both of them are toxic.  I don't know why but I blame her for not protecting the kid - not telling her husband to shut up and not leaving him. Maybe she thinks she can counter that damage dad was causing with her overbearing love.

Yes, outcomes vary. But one thing I know for sure - if you don't let your kid fail and experience the consequences of failing, if you keep removing consequences for them and fixing everything for them, it's a recipe for disaster.[/quote]

Where's the disaster exactly?  I'm still trying to figure out what happened that's so bad to the kid.  As I was reading your OP, I kept thinking the kid became homeless, drug addict, suicide or something disasterous.  But...he lost his waitstaff/cashier job?  He'll get another job and move on.

And, How do you know the Dad is a POS if you only know the restaurant people that hired him?  It's like you know every fight or insult the dad had with the kid.[/quote]

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