Gender Non-Conforming Boy - Looking for Resources Not Your Opinions Or Judgment

[Anonymous]

OP, your kid doesn't sound trans to me - at least not right now. Trans kids express actual dysphoria about their sex - they insist that they are actually the opposite gender, they talk about wanting to have different genitalia, they express wanting to be the opposite gender when they grow up. It doesn't sound like that is your kid, and I think we actually reinforce sexist stereotypes when we give the impression that because a kid likes "girl things" they must be a girl. Relax for now and support your kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“Princesses,” by definition, are female. It’s inherent in the word. Prince is the male form, for those of you who are a little slow today.

Ok. So what? Can a girl dress as superMAN? Can a boy dress as a giraffe- which is specifically not a human?

Your kids can dress up as a can of oil, for all I care.

But for my kids? No. I would not allow my 3-year-old son -- or any age son -- to dress up as a princess, at Halloween or anytime. Further, I think that it is a dereliction of parental responsibility to do so.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“Princesses,” by definition, are female. It’s inherent in the word. Prince is the male form, for those of you who are a little slow today.

So, my dd isn't a turtle. yet, I let her go as one of those mutant ninja turtles one year for halloween. And another year she went as scooby do (she's not a dog) oh, and then she was snoopy (again, she's not a dog). Was I a bad parent because she wanted to dress up as animals (mainly dogs) for every halloween? Please explain your logic.

lol this is like talking to an athiest

congratulations you are a transgender supporters

most of the country thinks you are nuts

+1000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Princesses,” by definition, are female. It’s inherent in the word. Prince is the male form, for those of you who are a little slow today.

So, my dd isn't a turtle. yet, I let her go as one of those mutant ninja turtles one year for halloween. And another year she went as scooby do (she's not a dog) oh, and then she was snoopy (again, she's not a dog). Was I a bad parent because she wanted to dress up as animals (mainly dogs) for every halloween? Please explain your logic.

lol this is like talking to an athiest

congratulations you are a transgender supporters

most of the country thinks you are nuts

That you confuse a preschooler dressing up in a costume with the transgender community's fight for civil rights suggests you need to consider furthering your own education. These are not two of the same thing.

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Unfortunately, there are a lot of ignorant, hateful people in the world. At least 62m of them in the US.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men (even people in general and yes, in DC too) would agree with PP whether they would admit it IRL or not.

Exactly. And they would silently judge people who allow this, and not favorably.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most men (even people in general and yes, in DC too) would agree with PP whether they would admit it IRL or not.

Exactly. And they would silently judge people who allow this, and not favorably.

As I am silently judging you and your bigotry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your kid doesn't sound trans to me - at least not right now. Trans kids express actual dysphoria about their sex - they insist that they are actually the opposite gender, they talk about wanting to have different genitalia, they express wanting to be the opposite gender when they grow up. It doesn't sound like that is your kid, and I think we actually reinforce sexist stereotypes when we give the impression that because a kid likes "girl things" they must be a girl. Relax for now and support your kid.

If anything OP's kid sounds gender non-conforming. Which is different than transgender. OP did say "gender non-conforming" in title.

I agree - everyone should drop the "girl things" and "boys things" in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men (even people in general and yes, in DC too) would agree with PP whether they would admit it IRL or not.

Exactly. And they would silently judge people who allow this, and not favorably.

As I am silently judging you and your bigotry.

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I doubt these men are mature enough to be in actual relationships if they think this about 3 year old Halloween costumes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your kid doesn't sound trans to me - at least not right now. Trans kids express actual dysphoria about their sex - they insist that they are actually the opposite gender, they talk about wanting to have different genitalia, they express wanting to be the opposite gender when they grow up. It doesn't sound like that is your kid, and I think we actually reinforce sexist stereotypes when we give the impression that because a kid likes "girl things" they must be a girl. Relax for now and support your kid.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men (even people in general and yes, in DC too) would agree with PP whether they would admit it IRL or not.

Exactly. And they would silently judge people who allow this, and not favorably.

As I am silently judging you and your bigotry.

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I doubt these men are mature enough to be in actual relationships if they think this about 3 year old Halloween costumes.

You must be kidding. I know very few dads who would truly be comfortable with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men (even people in general and yes, in DC too) would agree with PP whether they would admit it IRL or not.

Exactly. And they would silently judge people who allow this, and not favorably.

As I am silently judging you and your bigotry.

+1.

To those judging, silently or otherwise, the parents of boys dressing like princesses: why? Are you judging because you think it’s wrong for boys to dress like princesses or because you think the boy should not be allowed to do something that may be ridiculed by others? If the latter, how about instead you teach your gender conforming kids to stop mocking those with different preferences (which aren’t harming anyone)? How about you stop teaching narrow mindedness and encourage acceptance? Insisting on rigid gender roles perpetuates sexism.

OP, I appreciate this thread. My son is also gender non-conforming. I hope there are more parents out there who support gender non-conforming kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you're in DC, you're in luck. This kind of thing is openly accepted at my child's preschool. One boy decided to grow his hair out and wear dresses all year. My daughter just said, "Larlo likes princess things like me!" and truly, no one cares. It was actually a much easier conversation than the whole, "Timmy has two mommies / daddies" dynamic.

Kids do this everywhere. It's no big deal.

The people who think it's "inappropriate" probably never had kids or had kids 50 years ago. Their opinions are completely IRRELEVANT.

I don't necessarily agree. I know a lot of people where I'm from and from places I've lived where it would be a big deal. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it, but some people definitely think there is when you leave the bubble of DC.

Where - in 2019 - would it be a big deal?

Soooooo many places. My goodness. So many places.

And that's one of the reasons we live here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men (even people in general and yes, in DC too) would agree with PP whether they would admit it IRL or not.

Exactly. And they would silently judge people who allow this, and not favorably.

As I am silently judging you and your bigotry.

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I doubt these men are mature enough to be in actual relationships if they think this about 3 year old Halloween costumes.

You must be kidding. I know very few dads who would truly be comfortable with this.

Feeling uncomfortable doesn’t mean they should prohibit it or shame their kid. Maybe they should examine WHY they feel uncomfortable with it. You know, question long held views and consider whether those views make sense. That’s how social progress happens.

[Anonymous]

I'm judging the parents. Parents of 3 year olds who do not dress their children appropriately for the weather, for being in public. All of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm judging the parents. Parents of 3 year olds who do not dress their children appropriately for the weather, for being in public. All of it.

Lighten up, Francis.