Give me a reality check on if I'm being a b****
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Anonymous
I wouldn’t use the same language as you, but I completely agree. What’s wrong with all these folks not wanting to help their sibling on their wedding weekend?! |
Anonymous
The only way someone ends up in this situation is they planned poorly. So you plan poorly then I have to fix it for you? Nah son |
Anonymous
Not in my family we help out even if you don’t plan perfectly. |
Anonymous
Plan “perfectly”? She’s not asking them to straighten the vases. |
Anonymous
15 tables and 150 chairs. That will take 1/2 hour with 4 people and I’m sure they have more help. Omg I’m so precious I can’t set up chairs for 30 minutes. |
Anonymous
Exactly. Call me nuts, but a wedding weekend is all about the couple. I would do anything in my power to make sure my sister had a good weekend. If if things were planned hastily. Even if it meant I was more stressed and had some cranky children. In fact, I would want my children to learn that they should step up for each other one day. |
Anonymous
Did you even read the OP? They need someone to HAUL all that! Before any set up starts! |
Anonymous
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OP, there’s a saying I’ve heard on here that comes to mind: “Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.” Only you know how exhausted you’re going to be after a cross country trip with toddlers. Really. It’s okay to say it’s more than you can handle. |
Anonymous
The company will load it into the truck. So you are too fragile to drive to the rental place and sit and wait until everything is loaded? |
Anonymous
Exactly ... my kids help after assemblies with chairs and every Christmas and thanksgiving they make a dish. Families contribute and pitch in. |
Anonymous
The first PPs attitude is why I wouldn’t do it. The type of person who makes a huge ask like this will also try to minimize the work that goes into it. At least acknowledge the amount of work you’re asking of people. Then I might say yes. OP said the venues are 45 minutes away. That means it’s easily going to take all day. Just loading all that stuff on and off the cars will easily take an hour at each site. Plus all driving between venues and back home. Then another hour at least to set up. Realistically, when you’re traveling this far with children, time is too precious to waste on stupid stuff like this. Call the SIL, tell her you want to give her a wedding present, and pay for the vendors to set up all that crap. You’re already paying thousands for this trip - a few extra hundred is worth it to gracefully get out of moving furniture. |
Anonymous
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I’d want to know the logistics of setting up the tables and chairs. Did they rent a truck to do this or am I going to go back and forth with uncle Larry’s pickup truck?
Also, very curious to know what is this child-friendly venue 45 minutes from the nearest town. |
Anonymous
Exactly +4 I want my children to know that family helps family. Always. None of us is perfect and I agree that I would do anything in my power to make sure my sister or my husband's sister had an awesome, beautiful, most spectacular wedding day and weekend. |
Anonymous
You're crazy. This task will take hours. They were asked to pick up and deliver the items. That alone will take over an hour. Loading in will take more than 30 minutes. And it will take a couple of hours to get everything set up. Not to mention all the little extras the bride and groom will ask for help with (table cloths, center pieces, favors, decoration...) I think OP's husband should do it. But it will take half the day, at least. Op, I would be annoyed to have to deal with 2 very small children in a hotel room in a different city. But, I'd suck it up. |
Anonymous
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I’m team: DH do it while you stay with the kids.
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