Give me a reality check on if I'm being a b****

[Anonymous]

Going to an out of town wedding across the country for DH's sister and bringing our 3 and 1 year old. We're arriving on Thursday night, wedding is on Saturday. It's at a venue that's not really set up for weddings, so they've asked us to help pick up all of the tents / chairs / tables and take them to the venue to help set up. I kind of pushed back on this, saying that we probably wouldn't be available to help because of the kids / visiting with other family before the wedding. DH's sister seemed pretty annoyed by this. It's her wedding, so I don't want to p*ss her off, but am I being unreasonable? Should we figure out a way to help?

[Anonymous]

Can you afford to offer to hire some college kids to do it?

No, you can’t do it with 2 littles ones. The bride obviously has no clue, but you should.

[Anonymous]

Your DH goes to help. You take care of the kids. Very straightforward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH goes to help. You take care of the kids. Very straightforward.

Yeah. Why is "we" are not available to help. Your DH absolutely could.

[Anonymous]

What a cheap bride and groom. Who asks guests to help set up. Sounds like they can’t afford the wedding. Eloping is OK. Asking guests, who have travelled in for your wedding, to help, is NOT.

[Anonymous]

Nah you aren't the one in the wrong here. She is. It's insane to me that people treat their nearest and dearest as hired help during weddings. Disgusting.

[Anonymous]

No, it's her wedding, she should arrange actual paid help if she needs it. Plus, it's odd she'd ask someone for help who is visiting, not local.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DH goes to help. You take care of the kids. Very straightforward.

Yeah. Why is "we" are not available to help. Your DH absolutely could.

Agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DH goes to help. You take care of the kids. Very straightforward.

Yeah. Why is "we" are not available to help. Your DH absolutely could.

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DH goes to help. You take care of the kids. Very straightforward.

Yeah. Why is "we" are not available to help. Your DH absolutely could.

This. This is what your husband should’ve offered in the first place if you knew help was needed ahead of time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, it's her wedding, she should arrange actual paid help if she needs it. Plus, it's odd she'd ask someone for help who is visiting, not local.

It is her brother. They might be trying to keep costs down.

[Anonymous]

She's clueless. Who asks out of town relatives for such a task?

[Anonymous]

Why did YOU insert yourself at all? This type of communication and plan needs to be worked out directly by siblings. You support whatever your husband decides. End of story.

[Anonymous]

DH helps, you stay with the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DH goes to help. You take care of the kids. Very straightforward.

Yeah. Why is "we" are not available to help. Your DH absolutely could.

+2

+3 Are you dense, OP? This is pretty clearly what the sister was asking of her brother. She wasn't expecting you to haul your kids around so no need to make a big issue out of it and go around acting like you were put upon.