Give me a reality check on if I'm being a b****

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not from here originally but this thread has really surprised me. I can't imagine a circumstance where family wouldn't be expected (and would want to) help out with a wedding. We went to my SIL's wedding overseas with a toddler and infant twins. My DH helped out with some of the wedding prep and I looked after the kids. It didn't even occur to me to mind about this and we would think it the strangest thing in the world to pay people to do something that family members could easily do.

Who said the job is easily done. I've been stuck in situations like this and was stunned at the bride and grooms assumption that we would clean the venue and manage chairs/tables afterwards. Trashy and classless. If the sil had asked nicely instead of demanding it would have gone miles to improving things. Bride is rude, rude, rude.

[Anonymous]

If your SIL is the type who gets annoyed when you have a legitimate reason to decline her request, then get into the habit of offering up your DH.

[Anonymous]

I think it's even worse that family is expected to help with the breakdown after the event!

After a long day of festivities/celebrating, the last thing I'd want to do is stay and clean up. Don't most wedding guests move on to some type of "after party" at someone's house/hotel bar? Or if it's too late for that, go back home/to the hotel and sleep?

They could easily hire a team of 3 or 4 high school/college teens to handle the breakdown and clean up for a couple hundred dollars. No resentful family members, young adults earn some cash...win/win for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not from here originally but this thread has really surprised me. I can't imagine a circumstance where family wouldn't be expected (and would want to) help out with a wedding. We went to my SIL's wedding overseas with a toddler and infant twins. My DH helped out with some of the wedding prep and I looked after the kids. It didn't even occur to me to mind about this and we would think it the strangest thing in the world to pay people to do something that family members could easily do.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not from here originally but this thread has really surprised me. I can't imagine a circumstance where family wouldn't be expected (and would want to) help out with a wedding. We went to my SIL's wedding overseas with a toddler and infant twins. My DH helped out with some of the wedding prep and I looked after the kids. It didn't even occur to me to mind about this and we would think it the strangest thing in the world to pay people to do something that family members could easily do.

+1

Well, where I'm from, you show up to a wedding and celebrate the couple. Everything is taken care of because hosting people means actually hosting them. It's great that family helps family, and I'm sure I would help family if they asked and vice versa, but I would never have the expectation of family helping me. Everything should be taken care of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nah you aren't the one in the wrong here. She is. It's insane to me that people treat their nearest and dearest as hired help during weddings. Disgusting.

Usually in the name of having a simple wedding that is makes them superior to the rest of us who hired caterers.

[Anonymous]

Is this couple under 20 years old? Is she pregnant? Is he shipping off to war next week?

If not, they could have held off the wedding an extra month so they could save $100 to pay a couple local teens to set up the chairs.