A question for SAHM's - would you be annoyed if your husband came home for lunch 4 days per week?

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Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is not that he comes home for lunch, but that you seem to prioritize everyone else’s needs above your own. If you were taking care of yourself you might enjoy being around your husband at lunchtime instead of feeling stressed.

Um what? She's a SAHM who never have alone time. Are you really going to shit on her like this? Jesus.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the annoying pooper husband. He is coming home to poop. OP do you make his lunch?

...you may be onto something with this. OP?

OP has already confirmed this is the lunchtime pooper.

For all those who say how lucky she is to have a husband who wants to see her - you're not paying attention.

He comes home to poop. Not to be lovey dovey, not because he wants to see his wife but to poop - and then disrupt the flow of the day. You guys forget what a toddler does when being stimulated for a few minutes and then dad is out the door so she has to deal with "I want daddy!" not only after the morning exit, but again during lunchtime. He spends every.waking.moment. outside of work with her and baby. Which sounds nice I guess but after being a SAHM all day and absolutely NEVER having alone time or time away from them I don't blame OP for feeling smothered and anxious and overwhelmed and tired.

OP - even if you're too tired to go to the gym - make time for yourself - outside of them. Even if it's to walk around the block, sit it Starbucks and have a tea, go to the library - ANYTHING. You need it, you deserve it and will go crazy without it.

[Anonymous]

LOL that this is the lunchtime pooper.

But seriously: Tell him that the house and toilet are CLOSED when child is napping. End of story. Tell him to time his poops around naptime or find somewhere else to poop. And no touching a single toy when he's here unless it's something your kid was playing with anyway.

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You take toys away from your son because he makes a mess when he plays with them and you don't want your husband coming home for lunch to see you and the son you have together? Sounds like it's a you problem. You don't want to be a wife or a mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You take toys away from your son because he makes a mess when he plays with them and you don't want your husband coming home for lunch to see you and the son you have together? Sounds like it's a you problem. You don't want to be a wife or a mother.

Stop trying to make the OP feel horrible. Nothing in what she said sounds like she doesn't cherish either. Just because someone wants a bit of alone time or doesn't want their day disrupted means any of what you said. People like YOU are the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You take toys away from your son because he makes a mess when he plays with them and you don't want your husband coming home for lunch to see you and the son you have together? Sounds like it's a you problem. You don't want to be a wife or a mother.

OP presumably lives in the US. I am sure this child had a way more toys then he needs. Sounds like you're an ass****

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Anonymous wrote:LOL that this is the lunchtime pooper.

But seriously: Tell him that the house and toilet are CLOSED when child is napping. End of story. Tell him to time his poops around naptime or find somewhere else to poop. And no touching a single toy when he's here unless it's something your kid was playing with anyway.

OP get one of those open/ closed business signs and hang it on your door at lunchtime!

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the same poster whose husband was being difficult about finding a new apartment—something about how it needed to be close to your church and maybe his work too? Did you say that he comes home to poop at lunch? If I’m getting even a fraction of this right, he seems pretty annoying, and I feel for you.

OP here: Yes I did post about that. We did not move to another apartment because we could not agree on where to move. My husband instituted that we move but then when the time came he didn't like any of the choices. I spent SO much time researching, touring apartments etc. So many of my days were wasted going on tours and taking a child with you is NOT fun.

Bumping this so people so. I responded upthread without reading he whole thing, but now I am squarely Team OP. He sounds annoying and controlling - and he's seriously coming home to POOP? No.

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Can anyone link the annoying pooper thread??

[Anonymous]

OP, it will get old. Or his work demands will change. Live with it for now. You need to accommodate this whim of his. Keep the money earner happy. You are living the pampered life not working, don't lose sight of that.

[Anonymous]

Man here. I think 4 days is too much. You need some breathing room. Start going out for long lunches at expensive restaurants without your DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it will get old. Or his work demands will change. Live with it for now. You need to accommodate this whim of his. Keep the money earner happy. You are living the pampered life not working, don't lose sight of that.

A) it's been 3 years
B) the "whim" being that OP's husband runs home to poop during lunch and then leaves after 15 minutes?

[Anonymous]

I just need to know: does he poop at the church on fridays, and if he can do that, why can’t he poop at work the other days?

[Anonymous]

If I pay the mortgage, I can poop when and where I like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I pay the mortgage, I can poop when and where I like.