A question for SAHM's - would you be annoyed if your husband came home for lunch 4 days per week?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Uh no. You're saying he can't come to HIS house to eat and see his kid (both of which he's working to pay for) because it makes you feel guilty? You sound crazy and selfish.

I agree with this... what is wrong with these people? I need alone time??? You sit at home all day and do nothing while your husband is out providing for your family and you need more alone times - so he can't come home for lunch and to see his child????

I TOTALLY AGREE.

it's his house, that he bought. it's his kid, that HE wants to see.

if i were him I'd be FURIOUS at you. you're terrible, and setting up a terrible dynamic for your child.

Are you always this dramatic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you don't want to deal with this, buy your own place.

OH WAIT YOU CANT

haha exactly! honey i know you bought this house and pay for us to live here, but you can only be here at certain times that i dictate. leave me a $20 on the way out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh no. You're saying he can't come to HIS house to eat and see his kid (both of which he's working to pay for) because it makes you feel guilty? You sound crazy and selfish.

I agree with this... what is wrong with these people? I need alone time??? You sit at home all day and do nothing while your husband is out providing for your family and you need more alone times - so he can't come home for lunch and to see his child????

I TOTALLY AGREE.

it's his house, that he bought. it's his kid, that HE wants to see.

if i were him I'd be FURIOUS at you. you're terrible, and setting up a terrible dynamic for your child.

Are you always this dramatic?

nope.

From the op:
Today I just blew up at my husband and told him to stop coming home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh no. You're saying he can't come to HIS house to eat and see his kid (both of which he's working to pay for) because it makes you feel guilty? You sound crazy and selfish.

I agree with this... what is wrong with these people? I need alone time??? You sit at home all day and do nothing while your husband is out providing for your family and you need more alone times - so he can't come home for lunch and to see his child????

I TOTALLY AGREE.

it's his house, that he bought. it's his kid, that HE wants to see.

if i were him I'd be FURIOUS at you. you're terrible, and setting up a terrible dynamic for your child.

Are you always this dramatic?

OP is the dramatic one - can't handle the fact her husband comes home from working to pay their bills for 15 minutes a day to see their child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh no. You're saying he can't come to HIS house to eat and see his kid (both of which he's working to pay for) because it makes you feel guilty? You sound crazy and selfish.

I agree with this... what is wrong with these people? I need alone time??? You sit at home all day and do nothing while your husband is out providing for your family and you need more alone times - so he can't come home for lunch and to see his child????

I TOTALLY AGREE.

it's his house, that he bought. it's his kid, that HE wants to see.

if i were him I'd be FURIOUS at you. you're terrible, and setting up a terrible dynamic for your child.

Are you always this dramatic?

OP is the dramatic one - can't handle the fact her husband comes home from working to pay their bills for 15 minutes a day to see their child?

He's not coming home to see their child, he's coming home to poop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh no. You're saying he can't come to HIS house to eat and see his kid (both of which he's working to pay for) because it makes you feel guilty? You sound crazy and selfish.

I agree with this... what is wrong with these people? I need alone time??? You sit at home all day and do nothing while your husband is out providing for your family and you need more alone times - so he can't come home for lunch and to see his child????

I TOTALLY AGREE.

it's his house, that he bought. it's his kid, that HE wants to see.

if i were him I'd be FURIOUS at you. you're terrible, and setting up a terrible dynamic for your child.

Are you always this dramatic?

OP is the dramatic one - can't handle the fact her husband comes home from working to pay their bills for 15 minutes a day to see their child?

He's not coming home to see their child, he's coming home to poop.

that may or may not be the case, and it may or may not be weird, but either way it's totally within his rights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is retired so I see him for breakfast, lunch and dinner usually. DS is in middle school and pretty much gone all day so I like the company.

Do you like your DH?

I don't think she does.

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous. You need your alone time?? Does he ever get alone time?? He probably enjoys the lunch break away from the grind of the office (which you don’t have to deal with) and he gets to see his son and (ungrateful, nasty) wife. I’m sorry you have to put away a puzzle as a result of this. Do you hear what an absolute a**hole you are???!!

[Anonymous]

This threat is amusing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This threat is amusing.

*thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh no. You're saying he can't come to HIS house to eat and see his kid (both of which he's working to pay for) because it makes you feel guilty? You sound crazy and selfish.

I agree with this... what is wrong with these people? I need alone time??? You sit at home all day and do nothing while your husband is out providing for your family and you need more alone times - so he can't come home for lunch and to see his child????

I TOTALLY AGREE.

it's his house, that he bought. it's his kid, that HE wants to see.

if i were him I'd be FURIOUS at you. you're terrible, and setting up a terrible dynamic for your child.

Think about all the DCUM posts about husbands who DON'T want to see their kids and don't have time to come home because they work too much... The ABSENT father's and this woman is complaining her husband comes home for lunch to see his kid????

OP has repeatedly explained that the reason her DH comes home from work around lunchtime is because he needs to poop exactly at that time and he refuses to poop at work. He refuses to come home and hour earlier or later to accommodate his child's nap schedule, so he wakes up the child every day. They live in a small apartment a couple blocks from his work so that he can walk home to poop. They could have afforded a 2 bed apartment where the child wouldn't be so easy to wake every time the door opened, but the DH vetoed that because he would need to poop at work which was unacceptable for him. He has no problem leaving OP with an overtired kid who wasn't able to nap because he chose to wake them up.

TLDR: The DH is not coming home to see OP or to see or spend time with the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh no. You're saying he can't come to HIS house to eat and see his kid (both of which he's working to pay for) because it makes you feel guilty? You sound crazy and selfish.

I agree with this... what is wrong with these people? I need alone time??? You sit at home all day and do nothing while your husband is out providing for your family and you need more alone times - so he can't come home for lunch and to see his child????

I TOTALLY AGREE.

it's his house, that he bought. it's his kid, that HE wants to see.

if i were him I'd be FURIOUS at you. you're terrible, and setting up a terrible dynamic for your child.

Think about all the DCUM posts about husbands who DON'T want to see their kids and don't have time to come home because they work too much... The ABSENT father's and this woman is complaining her husband comes home for lunch to see his kid????

OP has repeatedly explained that the reason her DH comes home from work around lunchtime is because he needs to poop exactly at that time and he refuses to poop at work. He refuses to come home and hour earlier or later to accommodate his child's nap schedule, so he wakes up the child every day. They live in a small apartment a couple blocks from his work so that he can walk home to poop. They could have afforded a 2 bed apartment where the child wouldn't be so easy to wake every time the door opened, but the DH vetoed that because he would need to poop at work which was unacceptable for him. He has no problem leaving OP with an overtired kid who wasn't able to nap because he chose to wake them up.

TLDR: The DH is not coming home to see OP or to see or spend time with the kid.

OP here: OMG this is SO funny. I love you! Maybe I can draw a children's book about this so our son will understand. haha

[Anonymous]

Mine comes home at lunchtime 4 days per week. Sometimes less. Taco Tuesday is the 5th weekday. And ocassionally has emergencies over lunchtime and eats something random that is super close to the office.

I love it BUT it’s actually like he isn’t here. It’s not as though he is here long enough to give me a break or help. But I’m happy to see him. And it’s cheaper for bill to eat here!!

Once in a blue moon he gets a longer lunch and he can help me. Today in fact I took the shortest nap ever. 5 minutes. It was something

[Anonymous]

I think I'm in love with the OP.

[Anonymous]

Omg so bump nap time a half hour. Have you not figured this out by now? GET OVER YOURSELF. I really think you just want something to b*tch about, perhaps you’re one of those women who isn’t happy unless she has something to complain about. If this is such an issue divorce and pay for your own damn roof over your head instead of spending your husband’s paychecks and trying to exclude him from THE HOUSE HE BOUGHT.