About to blow my top with my D's university.....

[Anonymous]

Same thing happened to my nephew at Dartmouth. School did not tell him for months either. Yes it was his fault to not verify and check his grades of course. But he was an immature but very smart 21 year old and learned a big lesson.

He ended up being able to take the 2 courses locally and it all worked out. I can tell you now he is almost 28 and is a totally different person. His parent made him pay for those two courses and he was not a happy camper working full time and taking 2 courses. But he learned a valuable lesson.

I would appeal to the school if the school is out of state to see if they will make an exception. Your D needs to recognize her part here or lack of rather. She should have known this long ago.

Still though agreed the school should have formally notified you long ago. Just my opinion.

[Anonymous]

How does one go from doing fine in classes to a D? Did she totally mess up on the last assignment? The daughter should have known her grades were close to the minimal passing mark in most cases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who fails a degree requirement as a senior? Very trashy. Your daughter was partying and goofing off instead of hitting the books. I’m guessing a joke degree too, like communications or sociology.

Wtf is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She effed up. Just have the college transfer all her credits to a local public and perhaps she can finish up the diploma there.

One school can’t force another to accept their credits. Often a large public will only take 60 credits even if other courses match the catalog. Maybe a for profit designed for working adults...

Directional U's will take up to 80-100+ credits if from another public U. But that's not how this would work. OP's kid would get approval from home school and take the class as a guest student at school X, then school X would send over transcript upon completion, then home school would add the course to her transcript and give her a degree.

But the course she needs seems to be distinct to her school. Perhaps a keystone for her major?

[Anonymous]

Stupid kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Trashy" "Idiot"

Really, this is a very young adult. Some people mature later than others.

Yes, call it a teachable moment. But please refrain from the judgemental labeling. Talk about a coarsening of social discourse!

Really? According to the redshirting thread she's probably at least 23. If she can't keep tabs on her degree requirements and grades, she wasn't ready for college.

[Anonymous]

Op, state the class

I'm going to guess your daughter knew the subject was going to be difficult for her, she avoided the class for a long, long time or she was re-taking the requirement. She put her head in the sand and didn't want to face what might happen. A Math requirement?

[Anonymous]

Offering my 2 cents here-

first isn't a D still technically passing? This is news to me.

OK first your daughter MUST fess up to her employer first thing tomorrow. They will keep her if they really like her and will appreciate her honesty and integrity in being candid about this.

Secondly SHE needs to get on the phone with the advisor, teacher, whoever and work it out. Easiest thing is to try and get the professor to make the grade a C- maybe by doing extra work, submitting a paper,etc...then they will adjust the grade and award the diploma.

If that does not work out, you will need to see if she can be granted permission to take a class locally.I would think most schools would make that accommodation but she won't know until she speaks to someone.

I would stay out, let her own this. As many have said its a valuable life lesson.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Offering my 2 cents here-

first isn't a D still technically passing? This is news to me.

OK first your daughter MUST fess up to her employer first thing tomorrow. They will keep her if they really like her and will appreciate her honesty and integrity in being candid about this.

Secondly SHE needs to get on the phone with the advisor, teacher, whoever and work it out. Easiest thing is to try and get the professor to make the grade a C- maybe by doing extra work, submitting a paper,etc...then they will adjust the grade and award the diploma.

If that does not work out, you will need to see if she can be granted permission to take a class locally.I would think most schools would make that accommodation but she won't know until she speaks to someone.

I would stay out, let her own this. As many have said its a valuable life lesson.

Not if it is in your major.

[Anonymous]

Ha ha you believed that her email no longer worked?

[Anonymous]

Do not call the school for her. There is no way you are going to make this better (unless you are a big donor or know somebody high up in the university). Have your daughter start with the professor. Then go up to the program director. Then go up to the Dean. She also needs to call the advisor. She needs to throw herself on their mercy and make a pest of herself. If they won't change the grade to the C, she is going to have to plan to retake the class. I'd make her pay for the class. Have you seen all of her grades? The only people who I know that were in this situation, had multiple classes they did not receive credit for. Do not believe your daughter that the university is at fault. It defies logic. You are only enabling her. It is a good life lesson, it will all work out fine.

[Anonymous]

Ok, you're the same person who posted about the dorms at University of Chicago a few days ago--right?

[Anonymous]

First- I do have sympathy for you OP- because you probably paid a lot of money these last four years and held pride over your dd’s Graduation. Now it probably feels like the rug was pulled under you. First I am pretty sure your DD had to have had an inkling that this could have happened. Students are aware of the degree requirements and she had to know that she wasn’t performing well in the class. However, what is done is done. Your dd will take the class again- see if she can push it to take it elsewhere and get the diploma- so everyone needs to relax. It is not the end of the world. There is a solution and it’s just one class and everything will be fine.

[Anonymous]

Don’t be mean to the OP. We all would feel terrible if this happened. Think about it.... regardless of who is at fault here...parents would feel bad.

[Anonymous]

I had a sister who pulled this. She knew she hadn't graduated. Despite several expensive retries she never did get a diploma.