About to blow my top with my D's university.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Well it kind of is a college’s job to decide if someone passes and graduates. My DH is a professor and he has to submit senior grades a week in advance of grad. People know their status well in advance (not that anyone fails...I don’t think any top 25s fail people!). Troll.

Not all schools are like this. At my school, I took my last final my senior year a few days before graduation. I do recall profs saying that they had absolutely no flexibility on allowing late final papers (if there was a final paper rather than an exam) because they had a tight deadline to submit final grades for seniors. But I think they submitted them maybe 2 days before graduation.

[Anonymous]

Did she contact the professor? Perhaps she can appeal the grade and try to redo a paper or something to get to a C minus. Or perhaps she can write a letter and persuade them to make an exception for an online course. Your daughter should have already taken action. She sounds very irresponsible and no doubt deserved what she got.

[Anonymous]

Tell your husband!

[Anonymous]

She effed up. Just have the college transfer all her credits to a local public and perhaps she can finish up the diploma there.

[Anonymous]

Any chance she has already taken the course once before? If you mess up a redo, I don't think there is much the professor can do grade wise.
If her first time, then often the professor informs them ahead of time they are heading towards a fail. Professors usually try to work with them, offering options like taking an incomplete, or an offer to do make up work by a deadline. Has she been ignoring correspondence from her professor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's understandable why your daughter would hide her D from you, but now it's time for her to fix this problem.

Mommy is going to pay for it and hide it from daddy. No wonder the daughter is a lazy conniving brat, she's been coddled for 22 years and mommy has been cleaning up all her messes along the way.

Never checked emails...
Fails course...
Never checked grades...
Oh my email doesn't work anymore...
It's my teacher's fault...no the school's...specifically my advisor's!

$10 it's a worthless dummy degree too.

[Anonymous]

Wow mom- back off and let your DD learn how to be a grown up.

[Anonymous]

Wow the rudeness here is crazy. I am sorry OP- you came for advise.

Here is mine, politely call the advisor and tell her that you were blindsighted and as a parent cannot afford for her to go back and take the class. She must be able to take it locally or online.

Then in a more firm tone explain that if there is no resolution you feel compelled to go to the team to let him know that the school failed to share with you that your D did not pass her class though I though in most schools a D was still passing? And did not earn her diploma. I know most deans would not want this going around and if you play your cards right, I can almost bet that he will work to make something happen to ease the burden of her having to go back to school.

All this said, your D bears responsibility here too, and I sure hope you will take advantage to teach her a life lesson, actually there are many here, but mostly personal responsibility. It would be a shame if she walked away feeling like she got mom to bail her out.

She is a young adult and many are not mature enough to handle these things, for some of these people to come on and name call is ridiculous and rude. She is growing up but needs to own that this was not solely the schools fault.

Good luck you, I can imagine you are very stressed. Hope it all works out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She effed up. Just have the college transfer all her credits to a local public and perhaps she can finish up the diploma there.

One school can’t force another to accept their credits. Often a large public will only take 60 credits even if other courses match the catalog. Maybe a for profit designed for working adults...

[Anonymous]

Mommy to the rescue because the daughter who just blew $2500 on a failed course needs another $2500 to fix it...oh, and mommy has to tell her how.

Is the daughter too helpless to reach out and call the professor? Chances are your lazy brat never showed up to class, so the prof won't be inclined to help -- but that would be step 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow the rudeness here is crazy. I am sorry OP- you came for advise.

Here is mine, politely call the advisor and tell her that you were blindsighted and as a parent cannot afford for her to go back and take the class. She must be able to take it locally or online.

Then in a more firm tone explain that if there is no resolution you feel compelled to go to the team to let him know that the school failed to share with you that your D did not pass her class though I though in most schools a D was still passing? And did not earn her diploma. I know most deans would not want this going around and if you play your cards right, I can almost bet that he will work to make something happen to ease the burden of her having to go back to school.

All this said, your D bears responsibility here too, and I sure hope you will take advantage to teach her a life lesson, actually there are many here, but mostly personal responsibility. It would be a shame if she walked away feeling like she got mom to bail her out.

She is a young adult and many are not mature enough to handle these things, for some of these people to come on and name call is ridiculous and rude. She is growing up but needs to own that this was not solely the schools fault.

Good luck you, I can imagine you are very stressed. Hope it all works out.

Surely advisors do not speak to the parents of their former adult students.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She effed up. Just have the college transfer all her credits to a local public and perhaps she can finish up the diploma there.

One school can’t force another to accept their credits. Often a large public will only take 60 credits even if other courses match the catalog. Maybe a for profit designed for working adults...

Directional U's will take up to 80-100+ credits if from another public U. But that's not how this would work. OP's kid would get approval from home school and take the class as a guest student at school X, then school X would send over transcript upon completion, then home school would add the course to her transcript and give her a degree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Well it kind of is a college’s job to decide if someone passes and graduates. My DH is a professor and he has to submit senior grades a week in advance of grad. People know their status well in advance (not that anyone fails...I don’t think any top 25s fail people!). Troll.

Not all schools are like this. At my school, I took my last final my senior year a few days before graduation. I do recall profs saying that they had absolutely no flexibility on allowing late final papers (if there was a final paper rather than an exam) because they had a tight deadline to submit final grades for seniors. But I think they submitted them maybe 2 days before graduation.

My DC just graduated from a flagship state university and the last final was the day before department graduations and 2 days before the full graduation. Finals definitely not graded before the ceremony. Walking does not equal graduating. And it’s on the kid to check their online portal for grades and completion. Mine checked multiple times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mommy to the rescue because the daughter who just blew $2500 on a failed course needs another $2500 to fix it...oh, and mommy has to tell her how.

Is the daughter too helpless to reach out and call the professor? Chances are your lazy brat never showed up to class, so the prof won't be inclined to help -- but that would be step 1.

"It looks like Larla would have passed my course with my 10% attendance bonus...but she showed up only 3 times, so no bonus for her." -professor, probably

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow the rudeness here is crazy. I am sorry OP- you came for advise.

Here is mine, politely call the advisor and tell her that you were blindsighted and as a parent cannot afford for her to go back and take the class. She must be able to take it locally or online.

Then in a more firm tone explain that if there is no resolution you feel compelled to go to the team to let him know that the school failed to share with you that your D did not pass her class though I though in most schools a D was still passing? And did not earn her diploma. I know most deans would not want this going around and if you play your cards right, I can almost bet that he will work to make something happen to ease the burden of her having to go back to school.

All this said, your D bears responsibility here too, and I sure hope you will take advantage to teach her a life lesson, actually there are many here, but mostly personal responsibility. It would be a shame if she walked away feeling like she got mom to bail her out.

She is a young adult and many are not mature enough to handle these things, for some of these people to come on and name call is ridiculous and rude. She is growing up but needs to own that this was not solely the schools fault.

Good luck you, I can imagine you are very stressed. Hope it all works out.

OP is going to be embarrassed when the university refuses to talk to her. Best case scenario, they send her copies of the policies her daughter was given. This is not HS. The university doesn’t have to notify a parent that the child won’t earn credit for class.