Stay after spouse cheats

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Anonymous wrote:It stuns me how DCUM is both filled with attorneys and filled with people who believe that one party violating one provision of a contract frees the other party to do the same or worse.

That's not people. It's one incredibly persistent, stunningly unfulfilled and lonely guy. We call him "the Declare Open Marriage guy." He's loud but mostly just really sad.

lol That and uses "sexless" nonstop!!

OP self described her marriage as "sexless" in her opening post. A declaration of Open Marriage is entirely appropriate in a sexless marriage.

You have a OCD called Open Marriage Syndrome...I swear lol.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It stuns me how DCUM is both filled with attorneys and filled with people who believe that one party violating one provision of a contract frees the other party to do the same or worse.

That's not people. It's one incredibly persistent, stunningly unfulfilled and lonely guy. We call him "the Declare Open Marriage guy." He's loud but mostly just really sad.

lol That and uses "sexless" nonstop!!

OP self described her marriage as "sexless" in her opening post. A declaration of Open Marriage is entirely appropriate in a sexless marriage.

You have a OCD called Open Marriage Syndrome...I swear lol.

More men just need to divorce their wives who deny them sex problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait. Wait. OP here. If he is so unhappy with the frequency of SEC that he wants to cheat, shouldn’t he mention it first? Like, hey, Sex life is not what i’m Looking for, let’s work on it? TBH, the last couple of times we had sex, he seemed to not to be into it (already cheating, I would guess).

Are you obtuse? You think it really needs to be said out loud? You KNOW you’re not providing a crucial part of marriage but you’re like, “yeah well we are married and not doing it. But he should have mentioned it!” Cmon lady. Don’t be dumb.

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Anonymous wrote:It stuns me how DCUM is both filled with attorneys and filled with people who believe that one party violating one provision of a contract frees the other party to do the same or worse.

That's not people. It's one incredibly persistent, stunningly unfulfilled and lonely guy. We call him "the Declare Open Marriage guy." He's loud but mostly just really sad.

lol That and uses "sexless" nonstop!!

OP self described her marriage as "sexless" in her opening post. A declaration of Open Marriage is entirely appropriate in a sexless marriage.

You have a OCD called Open Marriage Syndrome...I swear lol.

More men just need to divorce their wives who deny them sex problem solved.

That too is a valid option which indeed solves the problem. But to the same extent that some women, despite not liking their husbands enough to have sex, yet still want to remain married for other reasons (finances, kids, whatever) the Declare Open Marriage option is a legit choice. It rightly switches the burden of filing for divorce onto the party who initiated the marriage downfall by withdrawing from sex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It stuns me how DCUM is both filled with attorneys and filled with people who believe that one party violating one provision of a contract frees the other party to do the same or worse.

That's not people. It's one incredibly persistent, stunningly unfulfilled and lonely guy. We call him "the Declare Open Marriage guy." He's loud but mostly just really sad.

lol That and uses "sexless" nonstop!!

OP self described her marriage as "sexless" in her opening post. A declaration of Open Marriage is entirely appropriate in a sexless marriage.

You have a OCD called Open Marriage Syndrome...I swear lol.

More men just need to divorce their wives who deny them sex problem solved.

That too is a valid option which indeed solves the problem. But to the same extent that some women, despite not liking their husbands enough to have sex, yet still want to remain married for other reasons (finances, kids, whatever) the Declare Open Marriage option is a legit choice. It rightly switches the burden of filing for divorce onto the party who initiated the marriage downfall by withdrawing from sex.

Stop trying to make fetch happen.

[Anonymous]

OP- Did you confront him? What did he say?

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Anonymous wrote:It stuns me how DCUM is both filled with attorneys and filled with people who believe that one party violating one provision of a contract frees the other party to do the same or worse.

That's not people. It's one incredibly persistent, stunningly unfulfilled and lonely guy. We call him "the Declare Open Marriage guy." He's loud but mostly just really sad.

lol That and uses "sexless" nonstop!!

OP self described her marriage as "sexless" in her opening post. A declaration of Open Marriage is entirely appropriate in a sexless marriage.

You have a OCD called Open Marriage Syndrome...I swear lol.

More men just need to divorce their wives who deny them sex problem solved.

Completely agree. I wonder why my husband didn't just divorce me instead of cheating. Oh woops because the whole sexless marriage narrative was patently false. Who woulda thought! AP was pretty freaking pissed when I got pregnant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It stuns me how DCUM is both filled with attorneys and filled with people who believe that one party violating one provision of a contract frees the other party to do the same or worse.

That's not people. It's one incredibly persistent, stunningly unfulfilled and lonely guy. We call him "the Declare Open Marriage guy." He's loud but mostly just really sad.

lol That and uses "sexless" nonstop!!

OP self described her marriage as "sexless" in her opening post. A declaration of Open Marriage is entirely appropriate in a sexless marriage.

You have a OCD called Open Marriage Syndrome...I swear lol.

More men just need to divorce their wives who deny them sex problem solved.

That too is a valid option which indeed solves the problem. But to the same extent that some women, despite not liking their husbands enough to have sex, yet still want to remain married for other reasons (finances, kids, whatever) the Declare Open Marriage option is a legit choice. It rightly switches the burden of filing for divorce onto the party who initiated the marriage downfall by withdrawing from sex.

So the man did nothing to make the woman want to stop having sex with him. How convenient! You should win a Nobel prize. A true gift to humanity.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It stuns me how DCUM is both filled with attorneys and filled with people who believe that one party violating one provision of a contract frees the other party to do the same or worse.

That's not people. It's one incredibly persistent, stunningly unfulfilled and lonely guy. We call him "the Declare Open Marriage guy." He's loud but mostly just really sad.

lol That and uses "sexless" nonstop!!

OP self described her marriage as "sexless" in her opening post. A declaration of Open Marriage is entirely appropriate in a sexless marriage.

You have a OCD called Open Marriage Syndrome...I swear lol.

More men just need to divorce their wives who deny them sex problem solved.

That too is a valid option which indeed solves the problem. But to the same extent that some women, despite not liking their husbands enough to have sex, yet still want to remain married for other reasons (finances, kids, whatever) the Declare Open Marriage option is a legit choice. It rightly switches the burden of filing for divorce onto the party who initiated the marriage downfall by withdrawing from sex.

Stop trying to make fetch happen.

Hahaha! Really a great analogy.

[Anonymous]

Dear Op,
You might consider going to a marriage weekend to help you guys get on track. My friend and her husband went to Hope Restored and it changed everything for the better.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It stuns me how DCUM is both filled with attorneys and filled with people who believe that one party violating one provision of a contract frees the other party to do the same or worse.

That's not people. It's one incredibly persistent, stunningly unfulfilled and lonely guy. We call him "the Declare Open Marriage guy." He's loud but mostly just really sad.

lol That and uses "sexless" nonstop!!

OP self described her marriage as "sexless" in her opening post. A declaration of Open Marriage is entirely appropriate in a sexless marriage.

You have a OCD called Open Marriage Syndrome...I swear lol.

More men just need to divorce their wives who deny them sex problem solved.

Completely agree. I wonder why my husband didn't just divorce me instead of cheating. Oh woops because the whole sexless marriage narrative was patently false. Who woulda thought! AP was pretty freaking pissed when I got pregnant.[/quote

Too funny. I knew a wife that found out her dh was cheating. It was the 2nd or 3rd time, but apparently the last. I also knew the AP because of work. The wife started getting her affairs in order, also became pregnant. He dumped the AP. AP found someone else, and the wife dumped him after she got her ducks in a row. He's barely making it paying for 3 kids while she re-married a really nice guy.

At least cheater can have all the sex he wants now in his low rent dump, so win win for him. Win win for DW who lives in a 4000 sqft home she owns.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It stuns me how DCUM is both filled with attorneys and filled with people who believe that one party violating one provision of a contract frees the other party to do the same or worse.

That's not people. It's one incredibly persistent, stunningly unfulfilled and lonely guy. We call him "the Declare Open Marriage guy." He's loud but mostly just really sad.

lol That and uses "sexless" nonstop!!

OP self described her marriage as "sexless" in her opening post. A declaration of Open Marriage is entirely appropriate in a sexless marriage.

You have a OCD called Open Marriage Syndrome...I swear lol.

More men just need to divorce their wives who deny them sex problem solved.

That too is a valid option which indeed solves the problem. But to the same extent that some women, despite not liking their husbands enough to have sex, yet still want to remain married for other reasons (finances, kids, whatever) the Declare Open Marriage option is a legit choice. It rightly switches the burden of filing for divorce onto the party who initiated the marriage downfall by withdrawing from sex.

It's not a legit choice. If only married men would cheat with other married women . . . but they don't. They lie and go after the single women. There are very few open relationships, but they love to tell you that they have one.

My policy . . . you lie to me about being married. I am exposing you to your wife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It stuns me how DCUM is both filled with attorneys and filled with people who believe that one party violating one provision of a contract frees the other party to do the same or worse.

That's not people. It's one incredibly persistent, stunningly unfulfilled and lonely guy. We call him "the Declare Open Marriage guy." He's loud but mostly just really sad.

lol That and uses "sexless" nonstop!!

OP self described her marriage as "sexless" in her opening post. A declaration of Open Marriage is entirely appropriate in a sexless marriage.

You have a OCD called Open Marriage Syndrome...I swear lol.

More men just need to divorce their wives who deny them sex problem solved.

Completely agree. I wonder why my husband didn't just divorce me instead of cheating. Oh woops because the whole sexless marriage narrative was patently false. Who woulda thought! AP was pretty freaking pissed when I got pregnant.

No, you were pissed when you found out he was cheating. Take care of your marriage. Please, do us a favor and take care of your man.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It stuns me how DCUM is both filled with attorneys and filled with people who believe that one party violating one provision of a contract frees the other party to do the same or worse.

That's not people. It's one incredibly persistent, stunningly unfulfilled and lonely guy. We call him "the Declare Open Marriage guy." He's loud but mostly just really sad.

lol That and uses "sexless" nonstop!!

OP self described her marriage as "sexless" in her opening post. A declaration of Open Marriage is entirely appropriate in a sexless marriage.

You have a OCD called Open Marriage Syndrome...I swear lol.

More men just need to divorce their wives who deny them sex problem solved.

Completely agree. I wonder why my husband didn't just divorce me instead of cheating. Oh woops because the whole sexless marriage narrative was patently false. Who woulda thought! AP was pretty freaking pissed when I got pregnant.

No, you were pissed when you found out he was cheating. Take care of your marriage. Please, do us a favor and take care of your man.

Good for her! Not sure if she's still married but if she is he means nothing. The kids are all she needs to worry about because they are her family. He isn't and proved it. She may need him for a period of time because of realities, but he ended it when he cheated. Why most women put their kids and pets far above their spouse.

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Anonymous wrote:It stuns me how DCUM is both filled with attorneys and filled with people who believe that one party violating one provision of a contract frees the other party to do the same or worse.

That's not people. It's one incredibly persistent, stunningly unfulfilled and lonely guy. We call him "the Declare Open Marriage guy." He's loud but mostly just really sad.

lol That and uses "sexless" nonstop!!

OP self described her marriage as "sexless" in her opening post. A declaration of Open Marriage is entirely appropriate in a sexless marriage.

You have a OCD called Open Marriage Syndrome...I swear lol.

More men just need to divorce their wives who deny them sex problem solved.

That too is a valid option which indeed solves the problem. But to the same extent that some women, despite not liking their husbands enough to have sex, yet still want to remain married for other reasons (finances, kids, whatever) the Declare Open Marriage option is a legit choice. It rightly switches the burden of filing for divorce onto the party who initiated the marriage downfall by withdrawing from sex.

So the man did nothing to make the woman want to stop having sex with him. How convenient! You should win a Nobel prize. A true gift to humanity.

Why does she even stay married to such a horrible man? At the very least, why is she dead silent on all his horribleness? Regardless of her reasons (valid as they may well be), a woman who has reached that point of not wanting sex, either should immediately DIVORCE, or accept the open marriage. But do not (as OP has done) just pretend a sexless marriage is not also Open.