My husband won't give me 1 day off

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been asking him for a break but he says it's impossible. He works and is in an MBA program. We have no family around. Everyday I'm taking care of the baby from morning until 8:30 pm. This is my schedule on weekends too. He called me selfish for wanting to take the day off. If our baby wasn't so difficult I don't think it would be a big deal. My baby cries a lot and I need to get away from the stress. I know he's going to be mad if I just take off for the day and it will be hard to enjoy it. I could hire a babysitter but I'd rather not because it's expensive. Our regular babysitter is also away for the summer.

Uuuuuuuhhhhhh........he's the boss of you? He won't "give" you a break? The last time I checked, a dad was responsible for a child AS MUCH AS a mother. Take your breaks as needed, you need to engage in self-care before you can have any steam or resources to care for a difficult baby. Your difficult man-baby selfish asshole of a husband needs to grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he gone all weekend too?

Because he's at his office studying. He doesn't have classes on the weekends.

Also, this is total bullshit. MY ASS he is at his office studying all weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are labor laws in this country and you can decide that they apply to you, too. For every eight hours you work, you're entitled to a half-hour lunch and two 20-minute breaks. If you're a stay-at-home mom with no help, you work 16 hours a day. That means you have 14 hours a week coming to you. If you take even half of that you're still not slacking off. Raising children is a valuable contribution to the world; you should be rewarded for that.

hahahaha what a stupid answer, labor laws don't apply to parenting, parenting is not a job.

Or is a single parent that can't afford a sitter is supposed to tell his/her infant child: sorry buddy, there are labor laws in this country, I'm entitled to a break from you now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he gone all weekend too?

Because he's at his office studying. He doesn't have classes on the weekends.

Also, this is total bullshit. MY ASS he is at his office studying all weekend.

OP, your DH is off having fun on the weekends while he's at "his office".

[Anonymous]

I hear the whambulance coming. geez, just use your head and hire some help. you both are stressed out and getting some help will be the first step you both need to take in order to learn how to communicate better and work together as a team to raise a family.

[Anonymous]

If I was your husband I'd quit my job and go to school full-time.

[Anonymous]

OP, hire the sitter, take some time off and drop the guilt. I agree that if you take some time to yourself and come back refreshed, it will benefit your whole family. Your husband should be able to see that and, if he doesn't immediately, you would hopefully generate the strength to advocate for yourself. Let yourself relax and then really think about what is going on here. You are tired and overwhelmed. If you are anything like me, that's when it is hard to see things for what they are. Maybe your husband is a controlling jerk like some of the PPs have suggested. Maybe both of you are just knee deep in stress and obligation and this is a rough patch to get through. None of us here can possibly know this. Take a beat to take care of you and you'll be able to see things more clearly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he gone all weekend too?

Because he's at his office studying. He doesn't have classes on the weekends.

Also, this is total bullshit. MY ASS he is at his office studying all weekend.

OP, your DH is off having fun on the weekends while he's at "his office".

hire a sitter and follow this dude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he gone all weekend too?

Because he's at his office studying. He doesn't have classes on the weekends.

Also, this is total bullshit. MY ASS he is at his office studying all weekend.

OP, your DH is off having fun on the weekends while he's at "his office".

Exactly. If only you had a spine, OP. He's making a fool of you, and it's hurting you and your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you a SAHM? Hire the damn babysitter. What's worth more--extra cash or your sanity?

If she's a SAHM she IS the babysitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he gone all weekend too?

Because he's at his office studying. He doesn't have classes on the weekends.

Also, this is total bullshit. MY ASS he is at his office studying all weekend.

OP, your DH is off having fun on the weekends while he's at "his office".

I disagree. If he's working full time, and in a full time MBA program, and likes his sleep (which I'm guessing because OP doesn't say he comes home and takes over), and doesn't care to participate in child care, then my guess is that he leaves 100% of his school work for the weekends.

[Anonymous]

Could you join a gym with childcare to get a break that way? Or get a very part-time job that pays just enough to cover childcare? It may not be a "break" but it at least breaks up the monotony of spending every minute with the baby. Or are there mom's groups that you can join? At least you would have other adults around to commiserate with.

I WOHM FT so I don't have a lot of "me" time but I can tell you that the time I am in the office is much more relaxing than being at home.

[Anonymous]

Trade days off with a mom who has a baby your baby's age.

[Anonymous]

Full time MBA?!?
That's like 2-4 hours of class a day and some BS team meetings. The rest is a party and "networking." No one spends hours a day in homework and grades don't matter, unlike law or med school.

He needs to step up and get part time childcare or babysitter to give you several breaks a week.

[Anonymous]

Day off from what? You aren't working.